Why do women on this site and in general need to be right?

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Lushka · Accepted Answer

This is my case, but honestly I believe I am not the only one on the planet.

Just right off the bat, I what to say that I have no problem with admitting that I was wrong when it comes to serious matters, apologising, or simply not having enough information in my brain. However, I do not like being wrong about anything, especially if it is a field / topic I know, or should know.

Now to answer your question with more words and a few numbers:

1. We really like to hear: "You were right." I guess for some of us it can be even more rewarding and pleasing than "I love you." Or at the same level.

2. We hate being wrong, it evokes the feelings of not being good enough, being stupid, or makes us feel belittled, embarrassed, or what I find the worst – delusional.

3. We hate admitting that we were wrong. It's much easier to play anything into the grey zone of "Oh, ok / I see", than to say "I am sorry, I was wrong."

4. (Now I speak for Czech people, maybe most central EU / slavic people in general, not just females.)

Our schooling system is based on "the mistake." We are basically taught not to make mistakes, so instead of making mistakes, dealing with and learning from them, we try not to even make them.
Teachers usually do not appreciate or reward the correct answers, they rather treat them as a commonplace, but they often severely punish the incorrect ones, depending on the type of mistake teacher, subject, topic and, of course, school.
This, for example, leads to fear speaking itself when it comes to any classes, especially foreign languages and mostly English.
You can actually see that kids until the age of cca 10 are communicative, but the longer they last at school, the more they fear any sort of spoken interaction with the teachers.
This leads to fear of being wrong when you must interact with the teacher and that is also partly why we don't want to be wrong. The fear of any sort of punishment or embarrassment that might come from this authoritative person.

Also, just a personal experience – when we made a bigger, or a really stupid mistake (such as the attempted division of rational numbers by 0) in lesson, our maths teacher broke our rulers by hitting us with them, aiming at our shoulders, shoulder blades and hands, if we dared to try and protect our backs. So in a way, back in 2011 we literally paid for our mistakes.

Now I don't know about the rest of the world, but here in Czech Republic we say these beautifully terrible things:

– A woman is always right. Even when she is wrong, she is right.
– You are right, (so) I have peace. (Adressed to the wife, usually.)

I do hope my answer helped you at least a little. Feel free to DM me with any other questions :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Combination... but I voted the last one as more common but turns out im the only one who voted that.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I chose option D, Too proud to acknowledge they aren't as smart as they think.

Far too often I run into CNN talking points more than real opinions based on facts. They're all worked up and then look for confirmation bias. When their bias isn't confirmed they get pissed off, but can't properly push back against facts because they didn't have all the facts to begin with. Then they resort to ad hominem and personal attacks... and it just looks stupid.

Maybe stop asking loaded questions with no desire for different views to begin with? I just see it too often, questions that are not really questions, but more like statements made with the purpose of getting combative against any opposition against their statement. Not as smart as they think, because they'll come in with no facts or no knowledge of the details.

Take the 'wage gap' for instance. They'll know the surface level that it technically exists and then rage that it's not equal. They haven't thought about the fact that women are choosing professions that don't pay as much or choose to take time off more often. They don't even realize the only fix to get equality would be to take away women's rights to choose their profession and force them to do jobs they're not choosing to do... plumber, coal miner, electrition... all pay more than a nurse or baby sitter. Because they don't know all of the extra stuff there is to know, they just rage about a wage gap that technically exists, with nothing much else behind them than performative outrage.

Vegasrunner · Accepted Answer

There are two simple reasons for this

1. Women dont like to forfeit sexual leverage

2. Average men dont really challenge women on their opinions

For the first one women are trained almost from puberty, that they hold the key to sex therefore they always try to hold that dynamic over men. A lot of times when a women is losing a argument she will stomp off like a child because in her head if the guy doesn't get to bang her then she assumes then loses. This us the equivalent of women blocking men on GAG.

The second part has to do w/ the fact that most men are average and they to want to please women because that is the only way they think they can get them. So they are used to simply not challenging them on their beliefs.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Read “Being Wrong: Adventures in the Margin of Error” by Kathryn Schultz
You’ll learn everything you could possibly want to know about people’s need to be right, and likely more. It’s a brilliant examination of something that appears to be an intrinsic human trait. The author also refers to other books, articles and reports on the subject. So it’s about as comprehensive as any publication on the subject as there has ever been. I think it should be mandatory reading at every level of education in the US. If you read it with an open mind, it will change your mind and possibly your life.

AviatorTom · Answer

NOTA... It's in the female genes that a woman always has to believe that they are right, never wrong. And it's important for us guys to realize that... even when the woman is blatantly wrong, they won't admit it, and there's no reason for us guys to get upset over that. Just live with it!

MCheetah · Answer

Probably option D, with maybe some A mixed in there. And it's not like I want to dog on women or anything, but damn if this post isn't accurate. Women CANNOT accept being wrong or having made mistakes; EVER. I've been around women my whole life; one of the worst things for them is ever looking bad in public. It's like women have to pretend to be perfect, all the time.

ElementoP · Answer

I dont wanna say anything bad about women. That would be wrong, and being wrong is for women

SolitarySolace · Answer

All of the above, I’d say. I also continuously say that women are the more selfish of the two genders. I mean, they still have a movement that focuses only on them while demonizing men, that should have ended after acquiring jobs and voting rights for women. But no, they just HAD to keep going.

Shy_Steve · Answer

This is a great question, But I reckon you should of directed this question towards Girls, But you probably wouldn't have got that many answers.

Anonymous · Answer

Generally it's because most women on this site are really toxic. They have no control in their relationships off this site (if they're even able to keep a man). So they come to this site to take out their anger and frustrations on guys here. Because to them one dick is as good as the next. 🤣

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Is not just on this women in general all thinks they are RIGHT which is hilarious🤣 thats why I don't take them serious at all

Apple1996 · Answer

Oh we don't need to be right. We just are always right and thats how it is 🙃

amandat94132 · Answer

They need to realize there are other ways of thinking  They don't want to learn something new

alice55 · Answer

It's just cause they have a big ego honestly.

Guy13 · Answer

It started with Eve thinking she knew more than God... Nothing has improved...

RavVid · Answer

None of the above. Women the world over have to be right.

Luopio27 · Answer

Maybe they are testing how much shit they can have you put up with?

TheFlak38 · Answer

Women are never wrong. It's always mens fault. This is common knowledge.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

By posting this question you're insinuating that you also always need to be right.

Stollje · Answer

Because we are usually wrong on most things. Does it matter

monkeynutts · Answer

Trust me you will go further in life if you have to pretend sometimes.

Anonymous · Answer

You expect woman to go around being wrong even when not? Most people answer questions based on life experience. You come across as bitter and only wanting to blame. Is that attractive to you? It’s not to woman. Put your positive pants on.

Exterminatore · Answer

They are incapable of accepting accountability.

Anonymous · Answer

Like the guys don't insist upon their opinions.

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