Sharing a room?

[daisySykoSykes]

DISCLAIMER: MOVING OUT isn't AN OPTION. I DONT HAVE A STEADY JOB AND AM IN CALIFORNIA (RIDICULOUS PRICES)

I (27F) share a room with my sister (31F). I have never had my own room. Have never had privacy. I would shower with her until I advocated at 8yrs old. Even then she'd sit on the toilet talking to me until my parents scolded her. After that id go to the room to change and I feel she'd run it to just watch me change. So I started changing in the restroom. She still has that habit of running in anytime I'm in the room alone.

I legit have no privacy anywhere I go she follows. If im in here, she's here. If im in the living room, follows. The restroom is the only place I have privacy. In the room she always sits facing me. I hate that I am always the one to have to sit different or turn my body to not look at her. I am to the point that I use school or work to my advantage to get my alone time. I legit sit in the car to feel my sense of space. But when I come home she's complaining to my parents that work is taking advantage of me or that im out doing drugs or meeting guys. She has this crazy mentality to her and always assumes the worst in me. I feel she's made it unlivable. Any advice?

[SueShe]

Do you share a room with your sister at her place or at your parents' place?

Perhaps that you should organize a meeting with a psychologist with her so that she realizes that her behavior is inappropriate towards you or you can tell her that you went to see a specialist and talked about the situation and that the specialist recommended that she visits the facility to get some treatment.

You have to put your foot down and make clear rules about what she can do and what not.

You are 27, so where is the problem about you seeing someone? It is none of her business if you do and if it displeases her, then it is tough business for her.

[daisySykoSykes]

We are in my parent's home. My sister is talking to a therapist but I know she only tells her therapist everything to benefit herself (not the truth). She tends to shift things to make people feel bad for her.

I have tried to create boundaries but she is always going to my mom and making me out to be in the wrong always.

I agree that she has no right to be mad if im seeing someone but she either wants to tag along or she creates scenarios to my mom. Not only that but she tracks how long I'm away and makes comments whenever I'm out of the house.

[DryGermanGuy]

That sounds really annoying. I would spend as much time as I can outside, doing sports, ging to a mall or visiting friends. And don't even dignify her childish slander with answers.

[Jeff51]

Make money and move out.