Why does my mom lecture me to stop being slutty?

[Anonymous]

She said no normal girl does what you are doing hooking up with random guys you got to have sex with someone you are in a relationship with. She said it’s “wrong” to hook up with random guys and yells at me about it. Is she wrong for lecturing me this much and is she right or wrong?

She is right and you should listen to her

She is wrong and don’t listen to her

[FunkyMonkee]

She's wrong that IT'S wrong. It's your body, you can do what you like with it but, she's afraid that some of the things you do with it will reflect back onto her, making her look like a terrible mother for allowing you to fuck anybody you wanna fuck just because you wanna fuck them.
She's also afraid you'll either catch something or get pregnant. And that you'll develop a reputation as being a filthy whore.
She also doesn't want you (or the guys you fuck) using your pussy as a sperm bank.
Basically, she's just trying to protect you.
Who knows? Maybe she used to be like that and knows what it's like and doesn't want you to go through the same things. What would you tell your daughter if you found out she was the way you are?
Maybe you can sit down with mom some day and discuss this with her, see how she feels and let her know how you see things.

[abc3643]

You are "(30-35)" and you are arguing with your mother about this?
I don't think that's your age group.
Second, if you ARE that age group, how is it possible that you don't see your mother is correct?

[Asker]

I am 30! Why do you think I am younger? And I don’t think she’s correct for saying that because I’m an adult who can make my own choices! Why does my age matter in my mom lecturing me about this?

[abc3643]

Just because you are an adult who can make your own choices doesn't mean your choices are the smart ones.

Being a slut is never a smart choice and, at 30, you should know that already.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

She lectures you because:

• Maybe her own upbringing was composed of lectures instead of, you know, upbringing?
• Maybe she's afraid about STDs, or pregnancy?
• Maybe she's afraid guys could harm you?
• Maybe she's religious so your behaviour is a glitch in her matrix?
• Maybe you didn't set boundaries, so that she minds her own business?

[Hanrej]

That depends on what you want. A stable relationship isn't for everyone.

[Asker]

Yeah but she yells at me saying it’s not “normal” that I’m hooking up with a bunch of guys why is she acting like this?

[Hanrej]

She's concerned that you're gonna end up alone.

[jahaims]

Because it is psychological damaging

[Asker]

How is it psychological damaging?

[Shrimpenjoyer]

It depends on many things

[Asker]

Depends on what?

[Shrimpenjoyer]

How it affects you and your age, and the frequency.

[Asker]

I’m 30 and my mom talks about hooking up with guys in general not how often

[Asker]

She said it’s “wrong” in general and no normal person does what I do why is she making me look bad? What can I do to fix this?

[Shrimpenjoyer]

What did you do?

[Asker]

I had a lot of sex

[Shrimpenjoyer]

I mean what did you say to her?

[Sammy098]

At that age? I guess you are addicted to sex

[Asker]

What counts as a sex addiction?

[Sammy098]

What you are doing

[Asker]

How is that a sex addiction?

[Asker]

Message me

[Sammy098]

You are anonymous I can't

[Asker]

I messsged you on my account just did check your messages

[Asker]

And I followed you

[ChicoFromThe305]

Hm, mom has a point

[Asker]

How does she have a point?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Cause she ain't lying, do you think you can have sex with strangers and avoid the slut title?

[Anonymous]

She’s right.

[Asker]

Why do you think she is right?

[In_Trance]

She's not wrong

[Asker]

Why do you think that she isn’t wrong?

[In_Trance]

Being slutty is a sign of impulse decision making as opposed to well thought out ideas that will benefit you in the future. Can also be a sign of validation addiction. both of these are not attractive qualities to have in a partner.
Nevermind the fact that you let guys run through you at will; then you expect the right guy to prove himself to you before you deem him as worthy.

[Asker]

Yep so why do guys say they are down to hook up then ghost me when I try to hook up. Because they think it’s bad I’m being a slut?

[In_Trance]

probably because they're in relationships. or they get better offers... or both

[Asker]

No they aren’t in relationships what else can it be? That they realize it’s wrong what we are doing?

[In_Trance]

It one of the two reasons I gave you. Guaranteed

[Asker]

Not because they don’t think it’s wrong?

[In_Trance]

no...

[oldman26]

Live your own life

[oldman26]

Dm me

[oldman26]

Follow me

[oldman26]

Don't listen to her