i know how you feel. I used to despise my mother until i told her that i missed out on most of my social life because she was so needy. i cleaned the entire house 3 times a week, washed dishe, went grocery shopping, manged phone calls, repaired appliances, mowed the lawn, trimmed bushes, cleaned upholstery, washed all clothes, cook most meal (always breakfats and dinner), and i had no time for friends and barely any for sports. it might have been cause my dad left but most of my adult sisters still live at home and can't do anything. when i told her all of this she was a little shaken. i had even turned down an out of state scholarship to Harvard because she said she would lose it if i moved away. I eventually cut her and my sisters off (though i do still pay all utilities) and have moved out. A lot of people hate acting as a source of income because its inconsistant. But most high paying jobs are. You work a couple of good, buttload of money ones and quite a few bum ones, but if you play the savings and self advertisement right, you can accomplish it. If you are still in high scool, she can't really expect much more like moving out seeing as i barely pay for my own bills and am occasionally forced to do some unsavory things to pay for my family. it would be a big stink that may not be worth it, but you could take all of your earnings and get your legal papers and move out. There are plenty of shared housing opportunites and it sounds like you can manage.
Obey your mom. I'm a grown man and I still obey my mom when she tells me to do something when I visit her house.
I don't think anyone here is really going to take you seriously. If you're still in high-school, you owe her for the roof over your head, for raising you. And you're over 18. You could have legally gotten a job 3 years ago and started saving to move out. You can still attend high-school while living on your own.
There's really nothing you can do, because she's not doing anything criminal, and you may not know this, but she can legally control you until age 21, if you're still living under her roof.
While it is important for everyone in the family to contribute to household chores (which helps you grow as a better person, in many ways), exaggeration of anything starts to hurt. Gal, if your mum's demands are disturbing and behaviour is unrealistic, in my opinion you guys should see a Counsellor together. Believe me, this helps in building good relation within the family. Cheers. Wishing you the very best. 😇💕
Sounds like Mommy Dearest is beginning her Change of Life, She has Strife.
Do as she wants and "Yes" her to Death while Living under her Rule of Tough Thumb, hun. And with doing the Cleaning and Things of this nature, you might just Learn during the Burn, something Here, dear.
Good Luck. xx
because her mother made her do everything and now she feels like she shouldn't have to do that anymore at least that's what I got from my mom one day when she was yelling at me too do the dishes
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I am sorry that you live with a toxic abusive narcissistic mother. This type of parenting is abusive and you deserve to be free and live on your own terms. The fact that you declined an amazing opportunity for school not shows that your mother does not want you to succeed in life. She will never change, but you can. I hope you are surviving. I have a similar mother who is never grateful and has NPD, BPD and OCD and I am her scapegoat. Studying psychology now and it helped me understand many personality disorders that can never change.
I know how you feel because I'm living similar exeprience lol
I know parents like those, I don't like them. They are unfit and the lazy ones. She projects unto you by calling you lazy.
my mom is totally the same i can do somthing for her and i get it done pretty well but if i dont do it the way she wants it then i get yelled at. she also calls me lazy like a lot cuz i do it my way she just thinks my way is the easy way out of getting somthin done.😒😒😒
lol. work so bad that you burn the house down. at least she'll start looking for a butler then
on second thoughts, get her an electric wheelchair.
Get your arse out of you mums house ffs. Get working and get a place. She's probably pissed off watching her spotty, greasy son who she used to love sitting about watching tv all day and eating all her food. I was working at 15 in a different country and I had a beautiful girlfriend and plenty of pals. What have you done? Watched a whole series of game of thrones in one day?
Same, but ya just gotta do your chores, and stop complaining. Your mom probably forcing you do more chores to get you out of the house faster
I'll give you five reasons.
1. You fuckin live there
2. You fuckin live there
3. You fuckin live there
4. You fuckin live there
5. You fuckin live there
I can say the same for my grandma but she's in her 70's.
larger families ment farm/yard/house work.. get a job, get away from that toxic relationship.
You're 18? If you lived in my house rent free, you'd be my fucking slave 24/7.
this is my life. seriously.
because moms lol
Tell her not to treat you like that
You're 18, move out
Ask her
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