Is this high-status girl actually interested in being my friend?

[Anonymous]

Went to a concert with her and another girl.

we all met for the first time there. Other girl left early. When me and the first one were walking back she said would you like to go to this other event? I said what’s it about? She told me. I said enthusiastically sure! The girl said yeah I’ll think I’ll post on the group too I thought the more the better so all the girls can come. I realized she was downplaying inviting me. I gave her the benefit of the doubt because at the end of the day we barely know each other.

Towards the end we were talking about hobbies and I shared what works for me and she was getting defensive. I wasn’t trying to correct her. She said a bit abruptly is that your train? I said yes. She said go get your train.

thought that was kinda rude. I didn’t contact her after.

The next day she messaged me saying she and a friend were going to that event and she’s booking her ticket would I like her to book mine too?

Im getting mixed signals. Also she’s a high status person if that matters for context

[midnightmoon05]

Don’t over think. Go hang out.
if the event is within your budget.
be honest if you can afford it… say thank you and meet up have fun.
if you can’t afford it… say it…

I would love to hangout with you next time if there are events that’s within my budget.
then you will know how other people truly see you.

[Anonymous]

Dump this person. They won’t make a very good friend. Too self absorbed.

[Asker]

The confusion is that she seemed overall nice friendly not arrogant.

But some behaviour like the one above do seem to have arrogant undertones

So I’m confused about what to think of her

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe I’m bringing a little harsh on her. Try hanging out one more time and see how it goes.

[Opinion Owner]

Being

[Iron_Man]

She will probably get defensive about something else down the road why waste your time

[Asker]

The thing is she’s not a mean girl. There is some reason she’s holding back.

I think a lot of high status people are wary as them being too trusting of people has cost them.

At the same time it’s hard not to take offence at her behaviour as it’s like she’s calling the shots on where to meet how she acts etc which is suffocating me

[Iron_Man]

Isn’t she a new girl? What’s the big deal? You probably have other friends right? unless there’s something you’re not telling me in the question.

[Asker]

Nothing I just am confused about why she was overall nice but weird sometimes like she didn’t strike me as an arrogant person

[Iron_Man]

You’ll keep guessing and guessing until you talk to her, but is that big of a deal? Is it worth it? You have no idea what she’s thinking. It could’ve been anything or nothing.

[Asker]

I guess because I struggle with really bad social anxiety not sure if I’m reading more into situations than is.

But yeah def this girl is kind of sly even if she’s not a bad person and I should be mindful of that

[Iron_Man]

I guess if you wanna try to find out, go to the concert and keep me posted but you’ll have to ask her if everything‘s OK

[Asker]

I don’t think I will go.

I may ask her if she’d like to grab a coffee instead. If she’s snooty then I have my answer

[Iron_Man]

Ok if you can let me know what happens thank you

[Anonymous]

Wdym high status