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I've always wondered why some people feel the need to have power over others. Why is it that some people aren't satisfied with being loved, respected, or appreciated? They also want to control how you think, how you feel, who you associate with, and sometimes even how you see yourself. 🤔
What's even more interesting is that some people seem to enjoy knowing they have the power to hurt you emotionally. They know what upsets you, what makes you insecure, and what you fear losing, yet they deliberately use those things against you whenever they want to get their way. It's almost as if making you feel small gives them a sense of importance.
I've often wondered whether this behavior comes from deep insecurity, a need for control, or a desire to feel superior to others. Perhaps some people learned early in life that controlling others was the only way to feel safe or important. But does understanding where the behavior comes from mean we should tolerate it? I don't think so. ❤️
There's a difference between wanting to be respected and wanting to be feared. There's also a difference between having influence in someone's life and making them feel like they cannot function without you.
Personally, I believe the true measure of a person's character is not how much power they have over others, but how they choose to use it. A secure person shouldn't need to make someone else feel small just to feel important. 💯
So, here's what I'd really love to know: Why do you think some people have such a strong need to control others? Is it insecurity, a desire for power, something they learned growing up, or something deeper? And have you ever encountered someone who seemed to enjoy having that kind of control over people? 👀🧠
What's even more interesting is that some people seem to enjoy knowing they have the power to hurt you emotionally. They know what upsets you, what makes you insecure, and what you fear losing, yet they deliberately use those things against you whenever they want to get their way. It's almost as if making you feel small gives them a sense of importance.
I've often wondered whether this behavior comes from deep insecurity, a need for control, or a desire to feel superior to others. Perhaps some people learned early in life that controlling others was the only way to feel safe or important. But does understanding where the behavior comes from mean we should tolerate it? I don't think so. ❤️
There's a difference between wanting to be respected and wanting to be feared. There's also a difference between having influence in someone's life and making them feel like they cannot function without you.
Personally, I believe the true measure of a person's character is not how much power they have over others, but how they choose to use it. A secure person shouldn't need to make someone else feel small just to feel important. 💯
So, here's what I'd really love to know: Why do you think some people have such a strong need to control others? Is it insecurity, a desire for power, something they learned growing up, or something deeper? And have you ever encountered someone who seemed to enjoy having that kind of control over people? 👀🧠
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Because of the world's oldest emotion, jealousy.
I think the desire for power often stems from a combination of psychological insecurity, a need for control, and the pursuit of validation. For some individuals, having power over others creates an illusion of superiority and compensates for feelings of inadequacy or powerlessness in other areas of their lives. Others genuinely enjoy the influence they have over people's decisions, emotions, or behavior. In some cases, it becomes a way of maintaining dominance and protecting their ego. Ironically, the stronger someone's need to control others, the more it may reveal their inability to feel secure without that control. True strength lies in having the ability to influence others without needing to diminish their autonomy or sense of self-worth.
They lack power in their life. Sometimes people cope with it in different ways. Some need control to compensate for not having it in other aspects of life. Some come on GaG 14 hours a day and attack people constantly to feel better about themselves. It depends on the time and level of insecurity they have.
As humans, it is natural for us to want to be in control of everything. We don't like the idea of somebody else having control over us.
Because people who feel small or deeply insecure inside their own skin often cannot handle the vulnerability of equality.
I like being in control, in good and bad ways. I can dominate, but I can also be a good custodian to another's enjoyment, right @valentina4eva
wdym?😅 which am i lol
Mmm whichever you whisper into my ear...
They need to feel something positive but have low self esteem so get that from seeing others need them
when you're not worthy... you steal or take, force... or else
An ex-colleague of mine described these sort of people as "wannabe prison-guards".
People who are very fearful of others, for good reasons or not, often solve that problem by achieving power and control over them.
Because they allow them to
Since I am not that way, I wouldn't know.
Well said.