My girlfriend wants me to meet her friends..

[Anonymous]

And I don't want to meet them. I don't know them personally but I know of, all of them. There the uber popular types, my girlfriend is too but she's really genuine. It seems like all her friends date the rich frat boy types and their all going to be at the bar with their boyfriends. I'm like a total outcast compared to all these people. I'm a quiet, cold and serious person. I also don't make friends with girls which could make this even weirder for me. I'm a real guys guy. How am I supposed to tell her that I don't feel comfortable with this. Plus I don't invite her around my friends, I tell her to go hangout with her friends and party while I go hang out with mine usually. All week she's been asking me if I'll go on Friday to the bar and meet all her friends, should I feel obligated too? we've been dating for 6 months

[Cryostatic]

Unfortunately, you're going to have to. And you're going to have to be nice. If you make a good impression on the friends, that's going to seal the deal for you. You don't have to be the life of the party (and it's better if you're not), but if they talk to you, you need to be pleasant and respond.

And for the record, if your girlfriend is as genuine as you think, then there's got to be something, some redeeming feature about her friends that makes them worth being friends with, right? I think you're making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be.

Let me just give you an example. One of my girlfriend's friends is ~incredibly~ high maintenance. She has to have a guy with money. Just has to. However, she doesn't ~like~ the guy she's with. She's with him for what he can give her. This friend of hers, this ~high maintenance~ friend, thinks that I'm the best thing since sliced bread. She doesn't want me for herself, but she's happy that my girlfriend has a guy who loves and cares about her and isn't an a**hole.

And I didn't like this friend of hers before I met her, because of what I thought I "knew" about her. But turns out, she's actually pretty cool. Don't be so quick to judge.

[Carping]

I would say go at least this time and see how things pan out. You might be pleasantly surprised. If it turns out sh*tty, then she would understand if you don't want to hang out with them again

[Jpalms56]

You don't really have a choice. How you act around her friends, and if they like you could be a big part of your relationship continuing. You at least have to make an effort.