My friends with benefits friend-zoned me, wtf?!

So I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now. We have a friends with benefits relationship, but its a little more complicated than you would think. He's single,I'm in the process of ending a very controlling, damaging, unhealthy relationship...we're currently taking a break. So you could say that no I'm not single and yes I am cheating because he doesn't know I am, or was, sleeping with someone else. Don't need any judgment calls on that front, I know what I'm doing...Anyway back to the question. So my friends with benefits and I met at a mutual friends party and were immediately attracted to each other, hooked up that night, no sex and then continued seeing each other and eventually progressed to sex. The sex was amazing the connection was most definitely there, things were going great. I even made a point of telling him about my relationship the second time we met up so that there were no secrets. for 3 months we would meet up to chill and have sex then all of a sudden I became super jealous about another girl and we fought about it. I apologized, he forgave me, it was all good. But then he started acting more distant and we would still hang out but we never got intimate for a good 3 weeks. Eventually I asked what was wrong and he told me he was way too uncomfortable with the situation but thought I was an amazing girl and still wanted to be friends, just without the benefits part. So now I feel like I've been used for 3 months, I feel disgusting and confused and would really like to know why he changed his mind so suddenly? We're supposed to meet up again soon and talk things out...I don't want this to end and I don;t think I can be friends with him because all I'm going to think about is what we had and how I still want it. Is there any way to change his mind? Anyway sorry for the long post, any feedback would be great!
My friends with benefits friend-zoned me, wtf?!
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