Advise please, my boyfriend won't let me have friends

[Anonymous]

Hey, I have been with my boyfriend for 10 1/2 months. We both love each other. We are 19 years old

To get to the point, one of my mates who I have been mates with for like years. She wants to split me and my boyfriend up. Her and her best mate who is also my mate text me saying my boyfriend is a prick. She said she swore down he squeezed her bum. She kept saying she swears down on her life. Then my boyfriend had it out with her with me there. She said someone squeezed her bum but she wasn't sure who it was, either my boyfriend or his mate. My boyfriend was really anoyed and upset that I accused him of doing something he didn't do. My mate stood on a table and bent over to try show my boyfriend her bum. He told her to 'F**k off' and to stop F**king lieing. So from that its obvious she was lieing. She flirted with him right in front of me aswel. My boyfriend just said get off me and kept saying horrible stuff to her. My other best mate had a go at him. She didn't even see anything she just took my other mates side.

To get to the point, my boyfriend feels like I don't care because I didn't ask why she made stuff up about us. I just want to forget it. I don't want to fall out with my friends even if she is trying to split us up. He started a massive argument last Saturday night up town because I was dancing with her and I had gone out with her. He said he doesn't want me being friends with them and that I'm putting him 2nd best. Also, I have a twin sister, and he says that by dancing with her and staying out late I am putting him 2nd best.

I don't know what to do, I just want to forgive my friends and dance with my sister as well as have a boyfriend. Is this majour control? Can anyone see it from his point of view? He says that I don't do anything without my sisters permission but its not like that at all, I just want to dance with my sister on a night out as wel as my friends. :( He created a massive argument because I wanted us to go halfs with the taxi. Also, he said that its not like a normal relationship because I didn't send naked photographs or text him in the morning. He said loads of stuff like how he wanted us to go on a break and see other people, but then when he was sober in the morning he said "sorry for being nasty last night? and that he only wants me and ofc he doesn't want to see other people. He said he only wants me.

What should I do :( ? Also, when we argue he says "get a taxi home" I know ita partly my fault for accusing him and saying "If you squeezed her bum, its over" but we made back up. I said sorry straight away after a few hours and we made up. What should I do? I want to be friends with them :(

She said "Hes really good looking"

"(boyfriends name) there, just seen him"

I see her constantly staring at him 24/7 she doesn't take her eyes of him :(

She even said, well I don't know but someone did, probs your mate then

[WhyMe5]

I have somewhat been in the same place you are.

My friends, especially my best friend told me I should dump my boyfriend at the time because they did not like him. They thought he was bad for me and all this stuff.

I thought about it and I told my boyfriend what my friends had said. They also accused him of trying to get with them. I knew that it was not true and I confronted both sides about it. It went no where. My boyfriend kept saying that I should get better friends or stop hanging out with them. At the time all I thought was he was trying to control my every move and he wanted to be in control of who I hung out with and everything.

That all changed the day I told him we needed a break. The same day I told him that I told my friends that we were done. My best friend who kept telling me he was so bad and talked sh*t about him all the time, ended up texting him that day and trying to hook up with him.

At the moment I knew that my boyfriend was just trying to look out for the both of us because we were in love. Yeah at times it may seem controlling but girls are sneaking people and say and do whatever they need to, to get what they want.

I would try and work it out so you both get what you want.

Try and experiment to see who is really telling the truth. Tell you boyfriend you are going to tell your friends you are done and see what happens. You never know.

If you love him I would not let him go.

[lghulm]

Sounds like you have to grab the reins of your friendship and you relationship.

I think your friend is really crossing some boundaries and your boyfriend is acting quiet immature - sure it if fair enough for him to have a go at you over taking your friends word over his at first without finding out the facts but it is not that big of a deal. Complaining because you don't send naked pictures? ...come on.

Sit your boyfriend down and reassure him of your feelings for him but let him know you ARE going to have a life outside of the relationship whether he likes it or not.

Ditto with your friend, let her know you have noticed her looking at your boyfriend and ask her what her intentions are or if she can imagine how it makes you feel. If she can't let her know and tell her you would appreciate it if she stopped - that it shows a real lack of respect for you for her to do that.

Your boyfriends point of view? He wants and expects you to always put him first and to always be on his side and do what he wants. He doesn't realize that this is unrealistic and unhealthy in relationships - you got to set him straight.

[Premonition]

Unless you like being in a Controlling Relationship for the rest of your life, than don't do anything about it.

If that's how you want to Live your Life, being under someone Thumb, than their is nothing wrong with Living that way if it makes you Happy.

But if you Truly Feel Miserable, than you need to stand up and Tell him how you feel.

Love is about Compromise.