How to be confident shirtless?

[Anonymous]

I'm going on holiday to a place with a pool in a few days, so not enough to change my body, but I'm very insecure. How can I mentally become confident to go shirtless? I'm actually almost considering just not going in the pool at all, but I like the pool and I want to get over my insecurity.

The problem is not so much the being shirtless in front of strangers as it is being shirtless in front of my friends and family; I mean I am also insecure about being shirtless in front of strangers, but the thing is I'm not normally shirtless around my friends or family at all, and I feel like they would almost think less of me if they found out how my body is much less attractive than my face. I know that's a weird thought.

I'm insecure because I'm skinny and pale, although I do have a slight muffin top which I'm also really insecure about. I also have pretty bad acne scarring on my back and shoulders. I intend to change all of this, but it takes a log time - we leave in 3 days haha.

[SarahDean312]

Look at it this way there's always someone worse you'll probably see. Oh and some lower ab workouts like lying flat on your back and holding your feet up with hands on the floor should work I know they work in days for me and a bunch of heavier people I know. Also try oblique workouts that's what gets rid of your muffin top. Also any back fat is pretty much fat storage from any junk food so if you cut the unhealthy foods out of your diet the storage will go away and your skin will clear up. Trust me I used to feel the same when it came to wearing bikinis around my family and friends I had to lose a lot of acne and weight. The phrase wasn't too far off when they said "you are what you eat". Hope this helped and you should feel confident most people are thinking about the fun you're having and not really how you look. They know you as a person and there are millions heavier than you. Be yourself and don't worry about comments cause it takes guts to go topless when you feel insecure. They're just jealous cause they don't have anywhere near the guts to do it.

[Mumble]

You need to try as hard as you can, to not think about it.

I'm extremely insecure about my own body as well, though not because of the same things as you. But I know, that if I am focusing too much about it, then I will not be able to enjoy my time to the fullest. I used to cover myself up with a towel whenever I laid to get tanned.

Now I really try to not think of it, and force myself to ignore the insecurity, I know it's difficult though.

But remember, they just want to be with you, not judge you.

I wish you luck, and hope you'll have a great time! :D

[valentine8]

I think it's weirder when a guy doesn't take off his shirt when everyone else is in their swim gear.

Think about how you feel when you see someone else with a not perfect body (which is everyone, btw). Do you pay more attention to what they look like when they're covering up their midriff and sneaking along the edge of the party, or when they're laughing and asking people "who wants to play marco polo"?

People notice your insecurities when you do. People pay attention more to your personality when you do.

[Anonymous]

Wear sunglasses. That allows you to check out what other people are looking at (because you can stare at their eyes without them realising) and you'll realize then just how little of a sh*t anyone cares about what you look like without a shirt.

Not the tiniest sh*t will be given.

[sockz]

^ this

[TedStar]

Hit the nail firmly on the head

[Anonymous]

You need to work out. That's how you can be confident.

[nergiz]

I think how you look as a guy as not important as the girls. We all have our differences. If people feel your weakness they can poke you with it. Sunglasses are a good idea. Posture and walk proudly. This solves all the problems beleive me. When people see a confsdent men, they don't think what he looks like, they don't judge. Just don't let them get you, you will see it is easy.

[LuckyLucka]

No one really cares, and I mean it. Unless some girl has a crush on you, then she would watch you more, but she's not going to think badly of you or stop liking you just for that.

The truth is that no soul will care.

[indian_empress_91]

how about you wear one of those beach tank vests guys wear? wear that at least and swim trunks and some shades. like what male anon said

[Gymnastforlife1055]

Don't ac nervosve be proud and act proud and there's no way some one will make fun and if they do stand up for your self be confident and act it even if you are not

[Drummerguy125]

I would say to be confident you should wear a suit vest with out an undershirt

[Anonymous]

Who cares, do what you do!

[Anonymous]

step 1= get muscles

step 2= get tan

[Anonymous]

Uhmm work out maybe?

[Asker]

we're going in 3 days lol I'll work out anyway, but it won't change before we go

[Anonymous]

Get in shape first

[Asker]

I can't get in shape we're going in 3 days lol