Because they probably don't know he has a girlfriend.
I had a male friend who I was really close with and he had a girlfriend who I knew nothing about.
So, of course I would invite him to do things with me, or go places single people go. By the time I met her, she already didn't like me because apparently she knew about me all that time but I didn't know about her. He purposely didn't tell me or introduce me because he knew I would stop inviting him places as often or would tell him to bring her along. Smh, he kinda used me every time he wanted to make her jealous and I had no clue. He even told her that I was "interested" in him a long time ago, so she had that nonsense in the back of her head after I met her finally.
And all this came from her, since I flat out asked why she didn't like me after I couldn't take the attitude anymore. She told me all these lies he had told her about me, and mentioned times I hung out with him when they were together (They had been together for about 9 months before I knew of her), and she felt like I was trying to steal her man lol. I confronted him and made him tell the truth but I still to this day have no idea why he would do that. We're not much of friends anymore.
I'm going through something similar with my best guy friend. He has a new girl in his life and he has introduced her to his male friends but not to me.
I recently asked a question about it on here and people suggested that it was because either she's jealous of our relationship or he might think she is. Some girlfriends don't want their boyfriends to have female friends because of jealousy issues so he might think that you don't want them to be friends, let alone actually be introduced to her.
It's not fun for the friends either, I would love to meet my friend's new (almost?) girlfriend. Being left in the dark about someone who is also close to someone you're close to isn't a good thing. Maybe you could ask to meet her?
afraid of your jealousy or reactions, if any...which definitely could make it worse and he may or mah not realize this
id be exxtremely pissed if that were the case for me
They could be exes maybe, or he might like one of them. This is just my opinion of course, it doesn't mean he likes them or that he once dated him.
Opinion
0Opinion
I’m experiencing this RIGHT NOW. I unfortunately made the quick decision to give my boyfriend the rest of his belongings because when I asked to see his female friend of 18 years and we have been together for two years. He said, “yeah, you can but I think that we need to work on us first. Now it sounds like you want to see her because you have some kind of agenda.” He means work on us because he told me I don’t always verbalize how I feel, but when I verbalized my concern on why I haven’t met her and just needed some reassurance that’s what he said. He also said during our conversation and his defensiveness that I was shocked about because he never acts like this when I do speak about something that I don’t like, he said, “you haven’t seen her because that needs to be planned.” Yet, he’s hung out with her multiple times since we’ve been together and never invited me. They go to church together, go to brunch together, etc and I’m never invited. He said at the end of our last conversation, “I don’t think you trust me and I’m offended. I can’t process this conversation so I’m going to get off the phone.” Mind you this past Sunday I asked him what did he do that day and he said that he was hanging with his female friend and didn’t even tell me anything about it beforehand. I’m so hurt!!
If you ask me, they sound a little too friendly.
The only opinion from guys was selected the Most Helpful Opinion, but you can still contribute by sharing an opinion!
You can also add your opinion below!
Most Helpful Opinions