I'll refer to myself as Z & my friend B.
I have a female friend B who is married with children & I'd say happily married. She is a kind, attractive, funny & hard working individual. We've been working together casually for almost a year & always had a good friendship. Over the last cupl of months we've become much closer as friends. We started talking on the phone & B would even dump other calls to speak to me. We began to text each other daily, she texts almost every morn & I often text her too.
Note: she mostly texts me first.
We've told each other personal things some we didn't expect too & agreed how it was strange we felt so comfortable without knowing each other for that long. We always playfully flirt & compliment each other. Sometimes pinch or tickle etc find a way to touch each other & we both get shy when we do that. I'm sure some people at work think we have a thing for each other & I'd agree.
One of our mutual friends (let's call her Q) who is close with B seems jealous & protective of B. Often when we flirt she mentions B's husband to perhaps make me back off & not flirt but sort of jokingly? not really in a nasty way. I've asked B if I've ever flirted too much & she said never & that she'd tell me. I've met her husband & kids few times now & we get along well.
Now, the last few weeks she's been acting strange, cold & distant. She hardly msg's me, no calls & I've only msg'd her a cupl of times to keep some contact. We haven't worked much together lately either & she's had personal stuff to deal with but it's never affected our friendship.
I recently heard that Q asked B (in front of her husband & others), 'how much do you really like A?' Obvi awkward but B replied 'yeah I really like him he's a great friend & a nice guy etc. Another friend told me that B said imagine if Z hadn't met my husband, what would he think?! Since then B's been acting weird & distant. I asked her about it & she said she'd just been busy etc & could never be upset with me (but all her signals were telling me that wasn't the truth!)
A few of us got together the other day but it wasn't the same. She was different, it felt like she was picking on me, found it hard to give any lengthy eye contact but at times she was fine. I guess to keep distance between us & feel comfortable. Her husband & I again got along OK but I didn't expect it & felt a bit uncomfortable among everyone. I actually didn't want to attend & I now feel like I'm always invading her space & it's all so different.
I've never been inappropriate or told any feelings for her. We click & get on so well, understand & confide in one another & have helped each other through some difficult times. I'm very fond of her & miss her friendship & surely she does too.
But I'm mindful it may be affecting the marriage.
What should I do?
Has her husband said something for her to back away?
Does she really like me & now realized it & needs to end the friendship to protect any urges or something?
Should I end the friendship?
I have a female friend B who is married with children & I'd say happily married. She is a kind, attractive, funny & hard working individual. We've been working together casually for almost a year & always had a good friendship. Over the last cupl of months we've become much closer as friends. We started talking on the phone & B would even dump other calls to speak to me. We began to text each other daily, she texts almost every morn & I often text her too.
Note: she mostly texts me first.
We've told each other personal things some we didn't expect too & agreed how it was strange we felt so comfortable without knowing each other for that long. We always playfully flirt & compliment each other. Sometimes pinch or tickle etc find a way to touch each other & we both get shy when we do that. I'm sure some people at work think we have a thing for each other & I'd agree.
One of our mutual friends (let's call her Q) who is close with B seems jealous & protective of B. Often when we flirt she mentions B's husband to perhaps make me back off & not flirt but sort of jokingly? not really in a nasty way. I've asked B if I've ever flirted too much & she said never & that she'd tell me. I've met her husband & kids few times now & we get along well.
Now, the last few weeks she's been acting strange, cold & distant. She hardly msg's me, no calls & I've only msg'd her a cupl of times to keep some contact. We haven't worked much together lately either & she's had personal stuff to deal with but it's never affected our friendship.
I recently heard that Q asked B (in front of her husband & others), 'how much do you really like A?' Obvi awkward but B replied 'yeah I really like him he's a great friend & a nice guy etc. Another friend told me that B said imagine if Z hadn't met my husband, what would he think?! Since then B's been acting weird & distant. I asked her about it & she said she'd just been busy etc & could never be upset with me (but all her signals were telling me that wasn't the truth!)
A few of us got together the other day but it wasn't the same. She was different, it felt like she was picking on me, found it hard to give any lengthy eye contact but at times she was fine. I guess to keep distance between us & feel comfortable. Her husband & I again got along OK but I didn't expect it & felt a bit uncomfortable among everyone. I actually didn't want to attend & I now feel like I'm always invading her space & it's all so different.
I've never been inappropriate or told any feelings for her. We click & get on so well, understand & confide in one another & have helped each other through some difficult times. I'm very fond of her & miss her friendship & surely she does too.
But I'm mindful it may be affecting the marriage.
What should I do?
Has her husband said something for her to back away?
Does she really like me & now realized it & needs to end the friendship to protect any urges or something?
Should I end the friendship?
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