Told my crush I liked her, now it's sort of awkward and I miss her, and I'm super sad.

[Anonymous]

Long story short, been knowing this girl for about 2 months, and I have hungout with her 3 times, movies, downtown and walk. And just recently I told her I liked her more than a friend, after that things sorta changed and during school she told me she'll see me around school and she doesn't have feelings for me. So I don't know if I should try to continue talking to her as a friend, we discussed this and said we can be friends but it doesn't seem that way. It appears that she doesn't want to talk much or text, I mean we used to text weekly, and now, I'm afraid of texting her thinking that she just wants me to leave her alone or she doesn't reply, but she said she forgets a lot. It's been about a under a week that I told her my feelings for her and since than it's sort of been a bit weird. I think it'd be weird to hangout for her and she said she'll feel awkward, I don't know what to do. I have this impending feeling of doom and super loneliness and I think I've sunk into depression. I really liked this girl and cared for her and enjoyed hanging out with her. Now I just think that I messed it all up and I won't be seeing her as often or never and I can't even text her because I don't want to be annoying. I feel devestated and I don't know when I'll ever meet another girl I connect with like this again, and I just miss talking to her even if it wasn't that much through text because she always seemed busy with school, it was nice. Now I am scared to even talk to her. I don't even have many friends to keep me busy or distracted and I'm alone 80% of the time and I just sink into this feeling of doom that no one loves me or likes me or if I'll ever find someone to call my own. I can't take it, I've cried sometimes because life and this is just catching up and I don't know what to do, it's taken a hard. I need help.

[Girljustwannahavefun]

It's great you told her how you feel. Someone guys won't even do that because they are scared they will make things awkward. Now remember it is only awkward if you make it awkward. You can't control what happened in life but you can control how you respond. Don't be sad and start thinking that nobody like you because of this one girl. Yes she must be special and you seem to be really into her. Therefore this 'awkward' should not stop you from still talking to her and acting like before. Reach out to her and talk to her she may be confused and need help figuring stuff out. It seems like you guys were close friends before so don't let that change.

[Asker]

I ran into her twice, and I waved and I felt like if I hadn't waved she wouldn't have, she was looking for a place to sit but than couldn't find a place so she walked away, didn't even come near to talk for a bit. Than I ran into her on the bus, so I just walked passed her since she's not acknowledging me and sat somewhere else, some and I know she saw me, I miss her.

[Girljustwannahavefun]

Don't distance yourself from her even though it might seem she doesn't notice you. It seems like you have really strong feelings for her and that you always think of her. If you can't go a day without thinking of her then you should be talking to her and trying to engage something with her.

[Asker]

I try to engage with her but than I feel like I'm being bothersome or annoying because she sometimes doesn't reply or takes days or doesn't even respond. She told me she does that to everyone and she gets distracted thinking of something to say, but, I don't quite believe it. Than I end up feeling even worse thinking there's something wrong with me that she's not talking to me and back to back messages even after you wait days is not a good look IMO.

[Girljustwannahavefun]

It may seem like that but avoiding her is not the solution. I know many people who don't answer my messages or phone calls of anything for a couple of days because they have very busy lives but that doesn't make me talk to them any less. I know you May feel like you have to plan this and wait for her to answer but really the best thing now is to let time tell. A lot can happen in a short amount of time and even more can happen in a long period of time. Remember that :)

[Asker]

Well, it's been roughly two weeks since we stopped talking and I last texted her after she told me, she'll see me around campus...and it's been a week since I ran into her but we didn't make contact. Don't know what I should do, you say a lot can happen with time, not sure what you mean by that, should I wait more or something.

[Girljustwannahavefun]

I mean that, amazing things don't happen fast, they take time. That doesn't mean that you should wait and do nothing and let fate control your future, but don't expect results the next day :)

[lvelasco]

Girls tend to be hard to predict. Based on what you said, I feel likes she's just too shy to admit of commit her feelings towards you, because it seems like you two are already at comfortable stages in your friendship. It's a good thing you confessed because now you know whether to keep chasing her or to just move on. I think you should talk to her, in person, and clear things out. Get it straight down and ask if she likes you or not because not knowing just hurts more (trust me).

[Anonymous]

:(.. is it a possibility you caught her by surprise.

Sometimes we as women get caught off guard then we get scared and run.

Things might not happen over night but being just her friend will at least keep you two together and close. Maybe she needs time.

[Asker]

Well, she found out through text first, and than after that she kept putting off hanging out with me, and than we were supposed to hangout but I ran into her in school and I asked if we're still hanging out and that's where she told me, that she'll see me around school, and she wants to be friends. But it just feels weird after this, like, I don't know if she just said being friends to be nice, because if feels weird, and we don't text that much, at least before we did frequently not too much

[Asker]

tho, and now I don't know if I should text her or just leave her alone because I still want to be her friend and I still have feelings for her but I'll hide em, I enjoy her company and I can maintain being her friend because I just like spending time with her and now it feels like I'll never see her or hardly see her because communication is lacking and maybe I should let her go. Not sure when I'll find another girl I connect with, maybe I am meant to be forever alone.

[Opinion Owner]

Nooo, that's silly. You won't end up alone. :(

It's just that right now may not be your time I guess. You know its not all bad she said she wants to be friends. Try being her friend if you can. Ur second guessing weather or not you should call is your insecurities because you feel rejected. Don't lose a special connection you share with someone. Being friends can be just as satisfying.

[Asker]

I've never been in a relationship, I've only fallen for only 3 girls for the past, where I had a feeling for, I've "liked" girls but not have feelings for. This one I had a lot for, I wanted to make her happy because she was insecure. She said she wants to be friends, but she never texts first ever, even before this, and she hasn't replied to my text from Friday. And I don't want to keep talking if I'm doing all the effort and making her annoyed of me. I might just be alone, loneliness kills.

[Opinion Owner]

No..ur creating the negative. Ur inviting it in way before you know what's up. You know females and males are very similar we're different but were very similar.. it's possible that she's, shy, she might even feel she doesn't wanna seem needy etc. All this just recently happened from what I gather just give it some time. You'll be amazed what some time between people can do. Cheer up honey. It will be ok

[AmongTheApples]

Move on man. A lot of time when someone says that they just want to be friends, it's just their way of trying to minimize the hurt as they let you down. Her behavior has made it clear that's what she was doing. Now, let me tell you that there are a lot of good girls out there; and, without fail, every time that I thought a girl was truly special and one of a kind and I'd never met any girl like her, another girl always came along—usually not long after—to completely supplant the old crush. Keep your head up.

[Asker]

Thank you, but as I've stated, I don't have that many friends, the friends I do have do not do anything and I do not know where else to meet girls or how I will. This one was perfect, I just want to stop the hurt.

[Asker]

I'm afraid to lose an amazing friend in the process but I guess I'll have, she liked nearly everything I did and more. I just think I won't find anything like that ever again and I miss talking to her. You must have awesome charisma if you pull girls that quickly. Why does this feel like a breakup..?

[AmongTheApples]

Thanks. It's a gift and, at times (especially around your age), a bit of a curse. If you feel that you must persist, here's what you do. Back off for a little bit, then, when you come back, keep things light and funny and be a bit playful. Try not to take yourself, her, and your intereactions too serious. Girls like those whom they associate with positive thoughts and feelings. If you can condition her to do that, then you can recover.

[Asker]

So when do you think I should try to contact her, she never ever contacts me first, I was thinking of Christmas or something, maybe tell her that, even though you don't want to talk to me anymore, Merry Christmas or I just want to tell her that if I don't keep contact we're never going to talk? Maybe that's too aggressive...guess maybe after how long? I'll go playful route.

[AmongTheApples]

No, that's too serious. Don't bring up negative subjects or topics that could turn negative. Keep things light and playful. You want to make her smile and guilting her won't accomplish it.

[Anonymous]

Reach out to her and tell her you miss her.