It's the year 2018... I think (I'm so high right now)... Buy him the vape pen for Christmas or B-day... whichever is first. I've got like 10g I'm not even going to smoke now after my brother-in-law gave me one.
But honestly... imagine if it was alcohol instead of weed. Remember it could always be worse. I do shrooms almost on the regular... even that is better than alcohol is health wise.
Judging that you picked the comment that supported your boyfriend as the number one answer, then I'm guessing you are gonna live with his weed. Honestly, don't change him. If he's a drug user, don't change. You can either live with him or you can break up with him if it annoys you. I know I would break up with my girl if she did drugs!
Maby he needs some responsiebilities.."give him" hobbies work thoughts.. steal his time to make him reduce it.. its not necesary to throw it from his life but he can reduse it as possible to cut the need of this.. i smoke too but whenever i want only with friends... i can smoke today and then after twoo months because i dont feel that i need it.. especially when i work too much.. i prefer to have it to a celebration or some rare time.
You have a couple choices. 1) ask him to stop. If yes then great. If no, then you say you cannot tolerate this kind of behavior and give him a second chance. If yes then great. If no, follow through on your threat and leave. The other option is if you can't beat him, then join him.
You should find a new botfyriend. You knew he smoked weed so why did you even get into a relationship with him if you knew he was smoking and smoking is something you dont like. Weed is not harmful. Jesus. And let him find a new girlfriend someone who won't try to change him and will actually smoke with him because she mutually feels the same way about weed. Either you break up with him or stop complianing..
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He's been smoking that for a pretty long time now. I don't think you can do anything, it is up to him to kick the habit himself.
Don't go into the relationship expecting the situation will turn around, you can only voice your disapproval sure, but give up on trying to dissuade him.
Where I come from drugs don't really factor a big part (it's a capital punishment), but even if it weren't, I don't have a good impression of it. Just like smoking. That's just me though.
You should not date someone who was doing something before you started dating and then expect him to change to meet your expectations.
This is your problem not his. Your hang up with marijuana is your problem. It would be better for him for you to break up with him. Until you are able to stop making unreasonable expectations on your partner
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If you are ok with everyone else around you smoking it and have no trouble associating with others that smoke it, then it isn't fair to expect differently from him, since he probably assumed you wouldn't mind. But you are allowed to ask your partner anything you want in a relationship, it is up to them if they want to change or come to a compromise. I had an ex that got really flirty with anything when he was high and would speak really sexually in public only when high, wasn't like that with pills, or alcohol. I didn't mind him smoking with his buddies or at home, I just preferred he didn't get high when we were out and about with strangers or my family so it worked out. It all depends on how you bring it up, otherwise you get the childish response of you can't tell me what to do... lol
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Realistically speaking, its his choice if he wants to smoke it or not, if he really wants to there is nothing you can do. He seems to have come a long way from where he was a while ago, which is good and you should respect him for that. If he is only smoking it a few times a month now then he may be able to eventually one day stop, but overall he seems pretty dependent on them. I'm sorry. If you are really worried about it I would tell him your concerns and your issues, up front just tell him. If it continues to bother you then I would say let him go, find somebody that makes you really happy. You have to be able to love all of a person when you really love them, not just the things you like about them. Its up to you, but if he really wants to smoke it right now, then there isn't much you can do.
Ugh... look, if you push him he might change... but he'll be miserable. And if he doesn't, you'll be miserable. Why his smoking weed is such a concern, I dont understand... but it is to you. My advice, break up.
If you are really this against it, I don’t think this relationship is a good fit for you both. Is he really 4 years younger than you? That may be part of the problem.
If you really want to be with him and you can't really ask him to stop, maybe set some rules like when and where and how much so you can be comfortable with his 'hobby' and find a compromise in this so he isn't controlled and you don't have to worry or feel uncomfortable
You need to relax (weed helps with that). Seriously a couple times a month is no big deal, every day, all day is a big deal. Compared to alcohol, it's way better for your health, especially edibles.
Sounds like your projecting your dislike of weed unto him and you want him to adopt similar values as you. If he does is it only once in a while, mind your own business
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I think he is not the person for you. Because weed is the type of drug that relaxes and make you at peace , and if he ain't relaxed around you something ain't right. When I smoke weed I cannot be mad at my worst enemy and that is for most people I know.
Weed is good! Why would you ask him to stop. That being said, if weed is a deal-breaker for you, let him know that. Tell him clearly that he needs to stop or the relationship will be in trouble. If he doesn't, you can leave him.
I smoked for 18 years, every day. And I only gave up because I wanted to. You could ask him to not smoke when it's just the two of you but aside from that I'd butt out
First of all, he’s wrong, weed is bad for you. Secondly, if it bothers you that much maybe you should reconsider being with him. I know that for me marijuana use would definitely be a deal breaker.
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It's the year 2018... I think (I'm so high right now)... Buy him the vape pen for Christmas or B-day... whichever is first. I've got like 10g I'm not even going to smoke now after my brother-in-law gave me one.
But honestly... imagine if it was alcohol instead of weed. Remember it could always be worse. I do shrooms almost on the regular... even that is better than alcohol is health wise.
Judging that you picked the comment that supported your boyfriend as the number one answer, then I'm guessing you are gonna live with his weed. Honestly, don't change him. If he's a drug user, don't change. You can either live with him or you can break up with him if it annoys you. I know I would break up with my girl if she did drugs!
Maby he needs some responsiebilities.."give him" hobbies work thoughts.. steal his time to make him reduce it.. its not necesary to throw it from his life but he can reduse it as possible to cut the need of this.. i smoke too but whenever i want only with friends... i can smoke today and then after twoo months because i dont feel that i need it.. especially when i work too much.. i prefer to have it to a celebration or some rare time.
You have a couple choices. 1) ask him to stop. If yes then great. If no, then you say you cannot tolerate this kind of behavior and give him a second chance. If yes then great. If no, follow through on your threat and leave. The other option is if you can't beat him, then join him.
You should find a new botfyriend. You knew he smoked weed so why did you even get into a relationship with him if you knew he was smoking and smoking is something you dont like. Weed is not harmful. Jesus. And let him find a new girlfriend someone who won't try to change him and will actually smoke with him because she mutually feels the same way about weed. Either you break up with him or stop complianing..
He's been smoking that for a pretty long time now. I don't think you can do anything, it is up to him to kick the habit himself.
Don't go into the relationship expecting the situation will turn around, you can only voice your disapproval sure, but give up on trying to dissuade him.
Where I come from drugs don't really factor a big part (it's a capital punishment), but even if it weren't, I don't have a good impression of it. Just like smoking. That's just me though.
Ignore my last sentence. Gosh I'm so ignorant.
You should not date someone who was doing something before you started dating and then expect him to change to meet your expectations.
This is your problem not his. Your hang up with marijuana is your problem. It would be better for him for you to break up with him. Until you are able to stop making unreasonable expectations on your partner
If you are ok with everyone else around you smoking it and have no trouble associating with others that smoke it, then it isn't fair to expect differently from him, since he probably assumed you wouldn't mind. But you are allowed to ask your partner anything you want in a relationship, it is up to them if they want to change or come to a compromise. I had an ex that got really flirty with anything when he was high and would speak really sexually in public only when high, wasn't like that with pills, or alcohol. I didn't mind him smoking with his buddies or at home, I just preferred he didn't get high when we were out and about with strangers or my family so it worked out. It all depends on how you bring it up, otherwise you get the childish response of you can't tell me what to do... lol
Realistically speaking, its his choice if he wants to smoke it or not, if he really wants to there is nothing you can do. He seems to have come a long way from where he was a while ago, which is good and you should respect him for that. If he is only smoking it a few times a month now then he may be able to eventually one day stop, but overall he seems pretty dependent on them. I'm sorry. If you are really worried about it I would tell him your concerns and your issues, up front just tell him. If it continues to bother you then I would say let him go, find somebody that makes you really happy. You have to be able to love all of a person when you really love them, not just the things you like about them. Its up to you, but if he really wants to smoke it right now, then there isn't much you can do.
Ugh... look, if you push him he might change... but he'll be miserable. And if he doesn't, you'll be miserable.
Why his smoking weed is such a concern, I dont understand... but it is to you. My advice, break up.
If you are really this against it, I don’t think this relationship is a good fit for you both. Is he really 4 years younger than you? That may be part of the problem.
If you really want to be with him and you can't really ask him to stop, maybe set some rules like when and where and how much so you can be comfortable with his 'hobby' and find a compromise in this so he isn't controlled and you don't have to worry or feel uncomfortable
You need to relax (weed helps with that). Seriously a couple times a month is no big deal, every day, all day is a big deal. Compared to alcohol, it's way better for your health, especially edibles.
Sounds like your projecting your dislike of weed unto him and you want him to adopt similar values as you. If he does is it only once in a while, mind your own business
I think he is not the person for you. Because weed is the type of drug that relaxes and make you at peace , and if he ain't relaxed around you something ain't right. When I smoke weed I cannot be mad at my worst enemy and that is for most people I know.
You can start by not being a nerd
Weed is good! Why would you ask him to stop.
That being said, if weed is a deal-breaker for you, let him know that. Tell him clearly that he needs to stop or the relationship will be in trouble. If he doesn't, you can leave him.
I smoked for 18 years, every day. And I only gave up because I wanted to. You could ask him to not smoke when it's just the two of you but aside from that I'd butt out
Indicate to him that is really, really important to you that he stop.
First of all, he’s wrong, weed is bad for you. Secondly, if it bothers you that much maybe you should reconsider being with him. I know that for me marijuana use would definitely be a deal breaker.