How do you tell your boyfriend you don't like him smoking weed?

[Honey_plump]

My boyfriend has been smoking week for about 4 years now and we met because I also smoked a lot. Sense then I have stopped becuase I don't like who I am while smoking, and honestly I'm not the biggest fan of who he is while high either. Should I tell him, if so how?

Tell him

Don't tell him

Other

[Anonymous]

This is a good question to ask, as weed is being legalized in more states over time. Now the thing is, alcohol has been legal for ages, and it is right for someone to use alcohol all day long every day? Most people would say the person is an alcoholic. Now somehow some people think that since society is a bit more liberal towards weed, it is now OK to smoke it off and on all day every day. When you think of it, it is like going through life intoxicated. I have a neighbor who is around 21 and he smokes weed on the side of his house all the time. I can tell when he does it because he coughs he lungs out and I hear it all the time. I can't see that as being OK. I don't mean to be on a soapbox.

[maiaan]

Tell him how you feel about it & why you feel so, like tell him the negatives (couch lock or tolerance lvls) even if he initially rejects it. It will be in his head and he will think about it

[kaylaS91]

Just tell him point-blank that you'd appreciate if he didn't smoke weed so much anymore, if at all. Though remember that it's fair game if he disregards that request of yours as it's not like he started smoking after you started dating or anything. You knew what you were getting yourself into and just because you decided to quite doesn't mean he's obliged to do the same.

[Frankie21]

it doesn't have to be a lifestyle choice and as long as you're responsible about it smoking shouldn't be too big of an issue but I have seen how it changes people's personalities. Just openly talk to him about it but you may not see immediate results. You're still young and everyone is figuring themselves out.

[vianney]

I think you should tell him how you feel and if he doesn't like the idea of quitting then ask him to at least smoke less and if he still won't then I wouldn't bring it up again unless I absolutely hate it make sure you tell him you dont like how he acts and just be calm when talking to him

[deraz24]

I say tell him how you feel but if he's been avid smoker their not gonna quit just like that. I say if anything cigarettes are far worse, and he's not spending all of his money on it I'd just see if he could not do it when you're around

[EmptyVoid]

Just be straightforward and tell him in a nice way. Tell him how you feel and maybe say something like it's unhealthy and you care for him that's why you want him to stop. Let him know you'd be very happy if he listens and you'll give him time to drop the habit. If he loves and cares for you he'd understand.

[shreya_shiry]

just tell him once strongly but dont keep saying it again n again, n from mt personal experience i dont think he will stop smoking

[That1tallguy]

You could bring it up but don't expect him to stop just because you say so

[Abrigital]

Tell him, as it'd be better to get that out in the open, but don't get offended if he doesn't stop. He as an individual has the right to do whatever he wants.

[CreamLight]

tell him, or you'll feel ire and more uncomfortable being around him when he smokes and the relationship could get awkward, if he knows you don't like it he'll probably do it more when you aren't with him and less when you're with him

[Italiangirl99]

I don't think you should tell him. Maybe smoking weed is part of his lifestyle and he might get offended if he takes it as an attempt to control him.

[PoliceLivesMatter]

Just tell him straight up you don't like smoking and you don't like him smoking either. Simple.

[Honey_plump]

I am just worried about how he will react... he dosn't like being told what to do

[PoliceLivesMatter]

You're only option is to be straight up with him. You can't predict his reaction. If he reacts negatively, maybe he's not the right guy for you.

[Walrus_au]

by all means tell him. But don't expect him to change - you don't get to control another's actions. If you don't like it, then you act, not expect him to.

Good chance that will mean leaving the relationship.

[Anonymous]

I have never done drugs, I have never smoked anything including weed and I have never drank alcohol or been drunk.

#Straightedge4Life

[Honey_plump]

good for you?

[Opinion Owner]

But no you're so cool because you smoked weed amirite?

[Honey_plump]

I never said I was cool... I want advice on how to get my boyfriend to STOP smoking weed... I just thought your comment was random

[Opinion Owner]

You never did say it was cool.

[Honey_plump]

No...

[bigdaddy_699]

tell him but I doubt any change will happen because in the end he will still do what he wants

[Whatthefluff]

Ugh tell him. I hate weed

[KIIROKI]

just go and tell him "smoke weed everyday " _Snoopdogg

[Nahid1234]

You can tell him. It is good to talk about your views in the relationship to Let each other know.

[Lumberman53]

Tell him just say tell him what you told us and how it makes you worse

[Anonymous]

You used to smoke it so don't think because you've stopped he must too
Do you drink alcohol?

[Honey_plump]

I don't think he HAS to stop, never said that. Just dont like who is while high

[Honey_plump]

and, no, I don't

[Opinion Owner]

If it bothers him that it bothers you he'll stop. If not you'll have to deal with it whatever way you're able to

[abundantlyrich]

He probably won't get it

[Anonymous]

Just tell him straight up, guys don't know how to take a hint sometimes

[emerald77]

Just tell him not to do it around you.

[Notagoodusername85]

tell him, or start smoking weed again?

[tinkerbell95]

Be straight forward!

[james999999]

tell him not to do so