Polls: Family & Friends

Cause i i got none. I went to meetups a few times before covid happened. I might try that again but all my friends i grew up with either have families, full time jobs or both and i can't hang with them.

Which kid would you rather have? A child of your own blood who was an utter disappointment and failure, no matter what you did or how hard you tried to raise them, who fought you every step of the way?

Or an adopted child, who looks nothing like you, isn't the same ethnicity as you, and is the opposite gender of you, but is everything you can have hoped for and more?

EXAMPLE 1: You have a 15 year old daughter conceived of your own blood, and they look like you and/or the other parent. Regardless of your parenting skills, they are lazy, greedy, spoiled, entitled, narcissistic, a drama queen, abusive, manipulative, disloyal, and always hurting others, but claiming to be the victim. They are a constant marijuana and tobacco smoker. They can't even pass remedial, "special-learner" classes in school, and want to join OnlyFans when they turn 18, despite not being the least bit attractive or healthy.

EXAMPLE 2: You have a 15 year old adopted daughter. Regardless of your parenting skills, they are a black belt in martial arts (karate, tae kwon do, or jiu jitsu), the top student in their school, on course to graduate early, have won awards for youth science contests, is saving their virginity for marriage, and is overall a kind, helpful caring human being.

You can only choose one. Which one is better for you?

I mean when you last had to ghost someone what was the reason? And im talking about someone you’ve been speaking with for a little while at least.

also could have been this week or years ago when you last had to do this.

im sure everyone knows what ghosting means but jic: when you drop all contact from a person with no reason given to them whatsoever. You just disappear from them and you also ignore attempts they do to speak with you again. You might’ve even blocked them entirely.

Or should i instead not do that and just focus all on the other person sharing their story?

I usually try to share something similar to what they share with me. the intention is to make them feel less alone or abnormal about their ordeal. but on the other hand it might come across as making their story about me.

So for instance someone might share how they were broken up with and in turn i'd share an experience about how i was broken up with myself. Is this bad? Should i not do this?