I never knew this was a controversial subject. I grew up kissing my parents or family on the lips as a young girl. I kissed my son on the lips as a young child and same with my daughter.
What's disturbing to me is people who really think a peck on your child's lips from a parent is wrong because it's associated as an intimate act between 2 people. It also disturbs me when people turn something so beautiful and innocent into something dirty.
Why don't we just not hug our kids either since hugging can be associated as an intimate act between two people too?
It's appropriate to kiss your child on the lips.
It's inappropriate to kiss your child on the lips.
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Glad to see so far the majority of people aren't against it. xoxoxo hugs & kisses.😘
Do you think it's inappropriate or appropriate for a parent to kiss their child on the lips?
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I got mixed up thoughts on this but my mom would always kiss us on the cheek and also no one told each other that we loved each other in the family so it's hard to tell I knew this family and this guy is a former friend of the family and he did some bad things to his two nieces and ended up in jail but they always kissed each other on the lips and these two nieces waited to their teenage years to tell their parents that they were sexually assaulted by their uncle but my sister told me what did I think about them and I said well I'm loss for words cause my parents never kissed us on the lips and my grandma and grand-dad never kissed us on the lips
kissing on the lips between parent and kid has always seemed kinda weird to me. Mostly because it's usually used with a sexual connotation between adults. Like showing affection is fine but any actions that I personally would interpret as a sexual action if done to me seem weird to do to kids. Plus at a certain age that gets very weird, especially with a different gender kid, and if they've come to associate me kissing them on the lips with affection, I'd imagine they'd be upset and not understand once I stopped. Additionally, there's a VERY fine line between a quick peck on the lips and, say, some creep french kissing my kid and I don't want to have to teach them the difference and hope they understand it, and I wouldn't want them to think it's normal.
See I don't see a peck kiss as sexual even with my husband. I see it as a gesture of love. French kissing I see as sexual. But a peck is just an I love you.
Also hugging can be sexual as well. So should we not hug our kids either?
hugging is not generally considered a sexual act, and is widely done between people of all ages and of all intimacy levels. I can't actually think of a time where I've had a sexual hug, or really how that would work unless you were actually humping each other. A kiss isn't inherently sexual sure, but would you peck a friend on the lips as a gesture of affection? I would only kiss my romantic partner, whether it's a peck or not, on the lips, so it would seem weird to me to kiss my kids.
If my friend kissed me on the lips I wouldn't trip because I know some people do kiss when saying hello in a friendly way.
People hug (embrace) each other when they are making out so it can be a sexual act as well.
Regardless a young child and a parent pecking on the lips is obviously not a sexual thing. Even couples that peck each other are doing it out of love and not sex. Making out is about sex.
well then you have a very different definition of a sexual act than I do. For me if a friend were to kiss me on the lips I would be extremely weirded out, as I think of it as solely something to do with your romantic partner, so it would be very weird for me to do it to a child.
Consider the NATURAL precedent. Have you EVER truly observed how other adult animal species FEED their youngest?
Amid humans, BEFORE the advent of 'baby food' and the emergence of the baby 'milk teeth' parents would pre-chew raw food and pass it ORALLY WITH TONGUE... into their children's mouths. This IS fundamental explicit 'nurturing'.
The social custom of 'kissing' is among the most ancient, to wordlessly demonstrate that "I would sacrifice and share MY OWN sustenance to sustain YOU!" Between men & women... even in Eastern cultures, male-to-male to kiss upon the cheek to express active hospitality!
It theoretically WOULD BE pragmatically valid to protractedly 'french tongue kiss' your kids! The atavistic intuitive sensations produced are evocatively 'bonding' and also express a dominance 'hierarchy' --- 'Prudes' be damned. Open up and EAT, child!
Not appropriate, not inappropriate, but irrelevant. Young Americans slide further into decline with each generation. Much of it comes from being babied and showered with love as we envision a happy life filled with love, smiles, peaches and cream. The world will always turn and violence and bullies will always be a part of it. Only those who muster the courage to make a stand against the bully. At age 18, adult age, American boys now cannot do manly things, such as the Amish boys are up on a barn roof laying shingles with men at six years old. That's why the Amish community is self sufficient without reliance on government assistance in any area that may arise and no need for a safe happy place to retreat to when butthurt or offended. I see men these days sit in the car while the girlfriend sweats and struggles in the effort to change a flat tire. I mean what gives? They afraid they might break a nail or what...
Why don't we just not hug our kids either since hugging can be associated as an intimate act between two people too?
Why don't we just fuck our kids since sex is just pleasure, doesn't mean anything greater, and can be associated as an intimate act between two people too?
That should illustrate the answer, but in case you're questioning that too: Because there's an arbitrary yet important line of propriety, and these actions DO have meaning to them. Just as you said, a lot of people see kissing as something intimate, serious, and intended between lovers. Things that are intended for lovers are not intended for kids. These things are even slightly different in different cultures, but it matters where the line is.
I find it odd that you'd find this disturbing, as you'd be appealing to subjectivity, yet denying it to others. A sort of universal imperialism I guess.
I think it's cute to do that when they're kids but after a certain age it's strange. I'm not saying it's wrong, just unusual. I admit I did kiss my mom on the lips once and this wasn't when I was a child. But she consented to it
Those who see something dirty or sexual in thing not meant to be sexual see it because it is in their minds and not in the minds of those doing it. It is within themselves where they need to look for the answer to those questions... They're the ones thinking dirty thoughts about something innocent...
Thank you. I agree. I have no problem with parents that don't show love that way. But don't judge me if I do.
It's like some parents feel it's inappropriate for them to show each other love like a kissing or hugging in front of their kids. Not me. I want my kids comfortable with showing their love to a partner someday. And I don't mean like make out in front of them. Just not be afraid to show we love each other.
It's only inappropriate if you make it inappropriate. Obviously you're just giving them a peck which is friendly/loving not fully making out with your child.
i think its perfectly fine at a young age. there have been plenty of times when i've seen a mom with her son/daughter who were around 2 or 3 and the kid would kiss their mom. i thought it was cute to see how connected the kid was with their parent. I think it would be different if your daughter was maybe 12 or 13 and she was kissing you on the lips all the time, but still there are different cultures so it just depends.
A peck on the lips or elsewhere on the face is appropriate... As long as they stay away from the genitals or french kissing their kids... basically places that anyone with common reasoning would know to be inappropriate... Kiss your children and make them feel loved.
These are children not your sexual partners and they deserve to be treated with respect not as objects to get off on. Not only that but such improper behavior makes children believe that kissing on the lips is proper and makes them vulnerable to the approaches of child molesters.
The fact the poster's own son says he WOULD NOT kiss his children on the lips is a HIGH indication he DOES NOT like being kissed on the lips. But he doesn't know how to say FUCK OFF as she is his mum.
I think it is fine... as the child gets older that will stop. I used to kiss my parents on the lips. I kiss my kids on the lips. I stopped kissing them that way once I got a little older. From birth until 10 or 12 I think is find and pretty normal.
Yeah, its not something for me, i don't quite know why. Maybe because on the lips to me is more romanticised as a non family relationship standard. It does make me cringe slightly, but I also don't see any detrimental effects so long as consent and such gets taught when applicable.
I kissed my mother on the lips until around the fifth grade. I kissed my grandmother (my mother's mother) on the lips until the day she died (I was age 40). That is just the way it was.
@loves2learn Yeah, nothing wrong with it. In about a decade, they may atually start hitting you so, enjoy this while it lasts! My friend just told me about how her oldest is becoming way too much for her to handle and he's only just turning 15 in 3 months!! I remember about 10 years ago, she told me that they were just playing around, rough-housing on the floor, when he got on top of her and wrapped his hands around her throat and it stopped being playful! She said he was starting to hurt her and after she got him to stop, he, later, said that he liked it! I thought, "Uh, oh!! This one's gonna be trouble when he gets older!!" His dad is a major league asshole, too so, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree!!
I personally wouldn’t do it to my kids because I wasn’t raised kissing my parents on the mouth, but people are raised differently. My parents weren’t as affectionate as others are.
@Nick473 I think that’s personally a little odd. I think there’s limitations to certain behaviors. Like a parent shouldn’t be in the bathroom with their 18 year old taking a shower and such, but it’s acceptable for a 3 year old to be supervised
I have no problem with others doing it, but good lord, you couldn't pay me enough to do it and strictly for one reason. Do you know how many germs a kid carries? I don't even share my drink with my kids. Blech
If it is inappropriate then my mom would have never kissed me. She kisses me on lips sometimes. It is something which is pure and it is disgusting to think it as intimate movement.
It's a cultural thing. Some cultures do; some don't. Personally, I didn't grow up with that, so I wouldn't feel comfortable kissing my children on the lips. That would just not happen. But if other families want to do that, then fine; whatever. (Though I still think it's weird.)
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