Last week my friend invited me to the club for her birthday to celebrate. She had planned this a couple of months in advance, I was supposed to meet her in front of the club with her friends at 11 o clock. The morning of her bday, she calls me and tells me how excited she is to hangout and how she can’t wait to see me cause it’s been a while. I went shopping for a dress and everything. I had my mom drop me off at the club so I wouldn’t have to park and I’m there at 11, I texted her and she said she’s on the way, 10 minutes later while I’m still waiting outside in the cold she tells me she’s not coming anymore. Turns out she never left in the first place. She was partying somewhere else.
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She has apologized several times and I just haven’t answered. I’m not gonna lie it really did hurt my feelings and I feel bad for ignoring her even though she did me wrong.
Would you forgive your friend if they stood you up?
I'd forgive them but I wouldn't forget that. Cause it's kinda shady, chances could be she didn't nessarly mean for it to come off shady cause she could've just went out partying before hand and was gonna just pick things back up with you and her other friend for the rest of the night but got way to fucked up to. Or she went out with the rest of her friends including the other girl and just didn't tell you, then I'd be a bit more cautious. I'd ask the other girl if she got stood up too just to make sure but since it doesn't seem like she showed up either I feel like she knew in advance.
What your friend did was horrible to you and I would not forgive her I think it's sad to think that she changed the place to celebrate her birthday or changed her mind about things you are a sweet person and don't deserve this treatment well just consider she will meet her Karma but I would have problems trusting her in the future
I gave so many chances in the past. My 3 closest cousins stay lying about their ways and finances so they never show up when its time to. They literally feel the need to impress me and i never understood why. But I just take everything they say with a grain of salt now. As for people im dating, i gotta really like yo ass, like really. Otherwise i’d bounce the moment that shit start
Yes but if it’s a repeat thing then no… it shows they’re very inconsiderate and who wants inconsistent rude people in their lives.. things come up, that’s okay, communicate that.. You know? Takes 30 secs to send out a “I can’t make it” text message. There’s no excuse tbh unless something actually came up, something inevitable.
I guess I would forgive but not forget that I was the least important of the friends to hang out with. And the next time that person invited me to go somewhere or do something I would remind them that this is what happened last time and I'm not going
She hella fake maane like she went to a whole another spot with other people on her B day and shoo'd you off somewhere like she embarrassed of you and was probably laughing with her other fake friend circle that she ditched you like that. Cut the grass and make your circle smaller don't let weird fake people affect you and your energy in your life.
I would try to forgive her in my heart. But I would also not be friends with her anymore. Someone who lied and misled me to that degree is not worthy of being a friend. Tree abandoned the friendship with her own actions. Honestly it sounds like she is really toxic and I would let her know that I really didn't appreciate it and I hope she has a great life. And I would never talk to her again
Only the first one is an apology, and it's not even really a bare-bones one. Because a true apology is asking your forgiveness through naming exactly what she did. Anyone can say the words "I apologize", but to be able to name what you did and then ask for it is a true apology. The rest are just reasons why she wants to get back with you
So the question is, do you feel like she's being genuine?
Terrible, terrible person. From a moral standpoint she ought to have to cover the costs of that outfit. Smdh! Forget her. Next time she tells you she wants to hang out tell her to go kick rocks cuz you got more important people that prioritize you in their lives.
She was devious and lied to you and put you in a possibly dangerous position as you had no ride home at the time. Maybe she was partying with some guys? She doesn't sound like the friend you have envisioned her to be.
@Flower7 Indeed. Cut the loss of the party that was never meant to be, try to maintain peaceful ties whenever possible (but be prepared to part ways in peace), just never let yourself get embittered. Bitterness, resentment, and hatred are like an all-consuming cancer. Avoid them like the plague. Never give them a foothold in you, so they never consume you and you never lose control. Be calm & wise.
What she did? Nope I wouldn’t have forgiven her. She should’ve said she’s partying elsewhere and offered you to join. She’s wasted your time and wasn’t truthful about it. She doesn’t sound like a great friend
@Pink2000 I see well that would be a little harder for me maybe if she said I was scared and didn't wanna mess up a friend ship I mean it would be a judgement call for me
Happened to me once, as I think I forgot about the meeting or whatever it was, maybe happy hour. He, my friend, acted like a spoiled 5 year old and deliberately did the same to me sometime later. Tit for tat, I guess
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