How do I convince my parents to let me get my ears pierced?

[thehammer]

im 16 now but my 17th birthday is in one month and I've wanted to get my ears pierced since i was in 4th grade. i want to ask them to get my ears pierced for my birthday, but I've asked before and they said no, though i haven't asked recently. any tips on how to get them to say yes.
also how was your day

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somebody please knock me into tomorrow

[martinoo]

Ask for one good reason why you can't get your ears pierced. Say it's your body and you've always wanted this - if it's ugly, you can hide it with your hair or let the holes grow back. This is the only thing you wish for on your birthday and you would love them so much if they'd let you have it done.
And again, it's your body; you should get to make the decisions, not them
(and honestly, what's the big deal? It's just your ears, it's not like you're going to ruin your entire future by getting it done)

[China_56015]

Whoa it took me a couple years to get mines my mom wouldn't let me. Or just try to convince them. Just keep on asking them. My day was okay thanks for asking.

[thehammer]

you're welcome

[China_56015]

☺️ Aha

[lime_rampljuset]

Why do you want them pierced, because others do? Not a good nor valid reason

[thehammer]

i didn't meet another boy with their ears peirced until 9th grade and I've wanted earrings since fourth so that is obviously not my reason. i like jewelry and always have and all i want is to wear it. what is so wrong with that. i really dont need to go with the crowd because i dont want to be be a carboard cut out of a stereotype black teenager, but i can and should be allowed to be john francis liam kurda that is my reason

[Southerngirl99]

Well, you only have one more year until you don't need their permission : D

[Domingo]

I was the same way. I was dying to get my ears pierced when I was younger. I lover the style. Unfortunately I don't have good advice to give you but you can try asking again. are your parents the type who will let you do it when your 18 or do they say no as long as your undertheir roof?

[thehammer]

i dont really know. the only thing i got out of the last time was my dad was angry and my mom told me dont do that. but one other time my mom said it was okay with her if it was okay with my dad. so I don't know

[OVOsTheBusinessMan]

Thats cray considering it's just your ears your piercing lol lay out the pros and cons or raise a debate or a union lmao go on strike? My sis got her's done in Middle school so i don't see why they won't let you D: best of luck to you!!!

[thehammer]

go on strike... seems ligit

[whydoweneedausername]

Tell your parents that it's your body and if you want your ears pierced then you should be able to.

[thehammer]

my mom says thats why women can get abortions. can i use that against her

[whydoweneedausername]

Sure.

[thehammer]

cool

[Anonymous]

Ear piercing is over rated. What's so great about it. ?

[thehammer]

I've liked jewelry since i was in like fourth grade. im actually going to admit that i used to wear all of my moms stuff for three years and i have four necklaces and am going to get a fifth.

[Opinion Owner]

But there's nothing special about an ear piercing. Why don't you just wait. It's probably going to hurt anyways.

[thehammer]

maybe it wouldn't be special to you but it would be to me

[Opinion Owner]

My ears are pierced.

[thehammer]

and was it ever special to you

[Opinion Owner]

Not at all. I was only 6 months old. And it's not a big deal now.

[thehammer]

if you could have had a say in it, you may have found it to be some something special that you liked but because it was forced upon you, you had no chance to make your own decisions which made it just another thing that your parents did for you. this is something that i would be doing for myself with my own money that i earned from my job and it would be really satisfying to be able to spend my first paycheck on what i want

[Opinion Owner]

What's your reason for wanting one. ? Pretend I'm your parents. What would you say. ?

[thehammer]

I've wanted earrings since fourth grade. i like jewelry and always have and all i want is to wear it. what is so wrong with that. i really dont need to go with the crowd because i dont want to be be a carboard cut out of a stereotype black teenager, but i can and should be allowed to be myself. i dont really care what they think i should do anymore cause i won't be what they want me to be, my life belongs to me. there are things that they have done in the past that they really enjoyed having that was not originally agreed with by their parents like my dads tatoo. that did not go over well with my grandma, but he should know what it is like to want something for a long time and not be able to get it because parents. my mom should also know what it is like to want something because she told a story about how she went to new york once and saw a dress she liked that was already to be sold on layaway that she worried about all night before getting it. I've been wanting it 7 years.

[thehammer]

this isn't something that just popped up like a poptart, this is something I've been wanting for years but have not been able to get. i think im old enough to make my own decisions and should be allowed to have a little freedom since it is my body and my choice what i want to do with it

[Opinion Owner]

I assumed you were white. I don't know why. You must have one of them old school grandmas. Anyways they probably do not want you to be a stereotype. My bro got his done when he was your age my mom didn't care Eventhough she told him not to. I'm black too by the way.

[Opinion Owner]

So after you get it then what. ?

[thehammer]

wow i thought you were white too.
anyway back to the point
once i have them i will be able to express myself by doing something that I've wanted to do for a while.
it will be pretty much the same as anyone buying a shirt or pants. you wear them occasionally to places where it is appropriate and not wear it where it is not. its not like im gonna go crazy with the peircings or stretch my ears or anything, i was just gonna wear studs.

[Opinion Owner]

It's hard to change your parents opinion on something. It'll probably be some serious consequences if you get them done secretly?

[thehammer]

yeah. ithought about asking my aunt but we almost got caught going to see bad grandpa instead of enders game and my mom was really gonna be mad because i had asked to see bad grandpa and she just was no having it. as for opinion changing that is why i asked this question so do you have any ideas

[Opinion Owner]

Ok now I watch bad grandpa with my mom she's a little over protective of you. What's the legal age in your state. ?

[thehammer]

17... response not to short

[Opinion Owner]

Ok you can't wait until you're 17. You've been waiting all this time.

[thehammer]

i thought you were talking about for movies. for peircing its 18

[Opinion Owner]

Oh well 2 more years won't hurt you already said you've waited for 7 years.

[thehammer]

yeah i guess

[Opinion Owner]

See problem solved. Bye I suggest you not use anything against her.

[thehammer]

okay

[Opinion Owner]

I meant by the way.

[thehammer]

thanks for your advice. have i nice night

[Opinion Owner]

You too. ! And good luck.

[sid312]

Good luck getting mom and dad to sign off on that