Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together over 7 months. He knows me pretty well. But I'm not sure he is comfortable with me being myself in public. He thinks I dress to draw attention and that I stick out. I dress the way I like dressing and or what I feel like wearing depending on the day. Of course I have my own sense of style, I've been expressing myself through clothes ever since I've been able to dress myself. I don't wear slutty, revealing, or anything like that necessarily. It's just eye catching stuff that will most times stand out in a normal everyday crowd. My hair is colorful with blue and blue faded to green. My clothes are usually colorful, if not I wear simple greys, blacks, or whites. I also have matching purses and a ton of awesome shoes. I don't intend on drawing much attention to myself. I'm a rather shy person, I just enjoy clothes and expressing myself that way. Whether we're going into the city or around the corner. I could care less if I stick out, because that's not really my problem... I shouldn't have to milk down and dress boring just so I don't draw much attention to myself. If I am unable to express myself this way I get depressed and end up unhappy. My boyfriend occasionally voices his opinion of the way I dress, how people stare. But I don't wanna waste my life not expressing myself and being unhappy just to please some random person on the street. He's said before that he'd prefer if I dressed more mature and not so attention grabbing. It's not like I'm taking hours to get ready either, I don't wear any makeup whatsoever. I just stand out I suppose. But he doesn't seem to understand how important it is to me. He just assumes I'm trying to grab attention or something. How can I make him understand?
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I Truly believe that he does not have that much Confidence's in your Relationship and feels you are maybe bored with him so he may feel that you are trying to Attract other men.
You can take him to a nice place to eat or to a quiet place and just tell him that you love him and he needs to have more Trust in you. I hate to say this but for me I can't be with someone who is always talking about how I look or how I wear clothes. It is a Trust and Confident Issue with him and he is afraid he may lose you.
That's just my input and I hope everything works out for you.0