Why the most attractive people can't be faithful and happy?

[SilentG]

you hear in the media, in the news and in history, the tall masculine looking men with lots of hair on their heads are always divorcing, always breaking up...

same as women, doesn't matter how old is she or how many children her children have, if men still flirting with her and finding her attractive she is going to break up or get a divorce, then she is only going to be screwed up from the inside, her whole life...

why do you think you're too much for your lover only because others find you pretty? I don't get the point, why some people don't admire the beauty of real love?

[sonic241928]

Social psychology says that we ascribe positive personality traits to more attractive or "beautiful" people. Of course, that's b.s. A person's physical appearance doesn't usually speak to their character--that's especially goes for physical features we have no control over. So these "beautiful" people making a wreck of their love lives might have serious personality problems, or might be blinded to serious compatibility issues in their relationships. They're blinded by each other's outward attractiveness.

But the smart people, successful in their love lives, are willing to dig deeper, realize that physical appearance can be deceitful, and examine and develop their personalities and mindsets so that they can share things with, not take things from, their partners.

[ArtistBboy]

Happiness comes from within yourself. I don't think it's the fault of "Attractive" people or other non-attractive people; it's about if a person can feel the attraction of the relationship.

If you're going to either extreme (Being lazy or Being "The-nice-guy") then you're risking yourself and your spouse for failure. Just be yourself, there is nothing to gaurantee or prove why people get divorces or why they even got together to begin with! If there wasn't this risk- there wouldn't be attraction. That feeling of "risk" that's associated to nervousness among other feelings, is what brings attraction out in the open.

So if you want to keep your spouse- just be yourself, there is nothing else you need to be.

Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

[SilentG]

I don't have a spouse, yet. Can't find a super classy failthful one.

[ArtistBboy]

How about a future spouse- are you planning on being with someone if you can find the "right criteria" has been met (Like the fact of being faithful and otherwise)

[SilentG]

That's the best kind of. And the reason why I'm very careful.

[ArtistBboy]

Good ^_^ Then change my sentence in the OP from "If you're going to either extreme (Being lazy or Being "The-nice-guy") then you're risking yourself and your spouse for failure. "

TO:::

If you're going to either extreme (Being lazy or Being "The-nice-guy") then you're risking yourself and your future spouse for failure.

[SilentG]

Question for you being a future artist, do male artists take a great role in stealing attractive taken women in a silky world?

[ArtistBboy]

Haha I'm only an artist in my style of dance- but to answer your question:

- Male artists play the same role as a male hygenist, it doesn't matter as towards your occupation on how successful you are with women. The only applying factors is your personality and what characteristics you possess.

Example:

You could be a doctor with a busy personality and no flirting ability at all, while I could be a breakdance instructor with a lot of humor and no materialistic needs- but we both have a shot

[ArtistBboy]

At dating the same woman. The only thing that matters is creating that attraction out of what you possess. Utilize your surroundings ;D

[SilentG]

I can't stay in one occupation, and the thought of women liking me for my career is scary, I didn't think of it this way before though, I want women to like beardy hippies, I'm not one but I wish love and attraction were purer.

[ArtistBboy]

No kidding huh? - Pure love is the way to go, though it rarely happens. Personally I had that love and it shattered my heart for a while- now I'm looking for pure attraction and intimacy (which may be a form of true love, but there are certain things that don't apply)

[SilentG]

That's right, but you can't "look" for it, the casual relationships are based on the usual shallow measures like sexieness that we look for and may catch, the pure stuff comes along when you've never expecting it because you're not attracted physically to this pure love mate, you just discover that you need them after a long while, maybe.

[ArtistBboy]

Me and my best friend exactly- your very wise for your years.

[SilentG]

Your input has enriched my question's page, thanks buddy.

[Anonymous]

Because looks aren't as important as people seem to think it is. Some of the most happy, loving couples I've known may not ever be on the cover of magazines or win any beauty contests. Perhaps some less attractive people learn early on that they can't focus so much on looks and put outer beauty on a pedestal. They look at things like honesty, trust, and love that goes beyond how hot you are and that's what makes a relationship last

[SingleGirlSwag]

well... most of the time people just like having the feeling of getting a good looking man or girl just because they can ... I guess there's a thrill to it but yea ... that's y most of the time people break up or divorce because they let temptation get to them lol but yea there's people that do beleive in true love =)

[ixi10]

Hollywood marriages and marriages of the elite are never long lasting for the most part simply because they have more temptations than the average joe.

[SilentG]

It's not only about hollywood, it could be the next door neighbor or an ex, or even someone you met online. Stars don't really bother me, what percentage of the population they form anyways.

[ixi10]

No one I know is divorced. All of my parents' friends' are still married after 20+ years. And they're not by any means ugly. They're very successful, wealthy people.

The media doesn't show successful marriages all that much because it doesn't make an interesting story. They only show messy divorces.

I know that stats show a very high divorce rate in this country, but in my life, I don't see it

[SilentG]

It could be something more associated with europe than america, it has to do with morals and social accepted standards in certain countries. In europe, relationships are not respected as much, it can't be serious no matter how much is spent on it, that's why they ditch the word "marriage" from their everydays dictionary.

[KINGKONG]

My instinct to have sex is innate and the desire to have sex with different women has always been there. I’m married and I’m allowed extra marital sex, yet my wife remains my only relationship. Every girl before her that tried to restrain me to her and only her got left and cheated on. The reason I think us attractive people have this behavior is because we just have more options than below average looking people. The average guy’s best option is probably sticking to his average girl because his chances of getting something better would most likely be met with failure. Plus it would be a double bummer for him if his current woman left him because she was a good catch and probably the best he could do. He might not be able to roll out in a dress shirt and pick up mutiple women in one night like me.

[SilentG]

Hmm... I would like to know why do you classify yourself as above average while all the rest are the average... and what is the above average girl for you?

[KINGKONG]

Average is pretty much what everyone gets. Like in school B?s and C?s, is what most people pull and D?s and F?s is what the below average pulls while above average is, well? Why I think I?m better than average, well, you?re asking me, and the question asks for a personal opinion, so my personal opinion is my answer, now if yours differs, it?s just your personal opinion, but we all know you think I?m awesome. (^_^) lol

[SilentG]

Yeah dude you're awesome, but I guess the above average to me are those with intelligence and a successful career, who take care of their health and are extra classy, with a good taste in everything and are easy going with anyone, who don't drink/smoke or anything (maybe drink rarely if it was allowed in their religion) for both men and women, don't you think so?

[Shadow_in_the_dark]

And who said that ur attractive?!!?! buy a mirror dude..

[abra_b]

If sex with multiple partners is yoru ideal, then why bother being in a relationship at all?

[KINGKONG]

To the question asker: What?s up with the pre-exquisite check list? Perfect for me is someone that does not conflict with my objectives. Again, just a personal opinion. To anyone else my point is about personal opinions and options. For instance one or two people here or there my find me odious like homosexual shadow, but no matter how much gayboy in the dark dislikes it, some women out there are willing to make them selves sexually available to me and thus giving me options

[KINGKONG]

And that's just it...having an option vs. what is demanded out of you. (*_*) Now on to abra b's question. Sex with multiple partners is my ideal (my opinion) and I bother to have a relationship because I also value love (my ideal). I just seperate sex and love. For me sex does not beget love and love does not beget sex. I.e. you don't have sex with your parents just because you love them right? and you wouldn't love a guy just because he raped you right?

[SilentG]

Love does not beget sex, that's somewhat true. But sex that does not produce or depend on anything at all except lust, is such degrading to the whole humanity and how it's been rolling on for thousands of years ago. Many people are into it though, I'm not criticizing you in person because you haven't started the sexual revolution, I'm blaming those who turned people like that.

[KINGKONG]

On the contrary, I could argue that enjoying sex is the human animal?s natural and innate behavior that has been subdued by Judeo-Christian values; therefore the act of being monogamous was the sexual revolution that of which is becoming a little less en vogue in our modern free will having societies. Yeah but I?m just going to just re-ratify the fact that it is a personal opinion.

[KINGKONG]

I do think it's very distasteful to agree to the terms of monogamy with a significant other and then betray trust by going back on one's word such as cheaters and so called players do. Deception should not be used because it robs the deceived of their free will and having free will for all is key to anything that does not follow a pre-determined dogmatic system of right and wrong such as law, whether it comes from religion or any other form of government. A contract is a contract.

[Littletad]

Society, or rather the media, has a stigma against marriage. It's more of a cell rather than something worthwhile. Men are taught to go out there and be with many women at an early age. Usually by peer pressure. Then there's the constant selfish ego that everyone seems to have these days. "I can do better".

[SilentG]

"I can do better" just like a boyfriend or a man is a trend, once she gets what she wants at a certain stage of her life, he is out of style, he needs to be replaced by something more fitting with the time-being. I don't honestly think that men are associated with that saying as much as women are, females are the ones who are always wondering wether if he is good enough or not, wether if there are better things for her that she isn't seeing.

[ArtistBboy]

On the contrary- why do women constantly post questions or come and vent to their "nice-guy" friends about their boyfriend not being happy and sleeping with someone else. It's an exact match to your question; though I see what your saying. Men putforth a lot of effort to "prove" themselves for women, that aren't actually seeking the attention. It's a double edged razor blade. One side is that things work, the other side is dull and basically- things don't work.

That's why men take the risks.

[SilentG]

Yeah, they're messing around but they're not happy, even if they were studs this is so real. But sluts are always happy!

[DiggDeep13]

because those people are only beautiful on the outside. they have no soul or commitment to anything. yeah their faces are pretty and all, but most of their heads are filled with hot air and money. that's what fame/beauty does to people.(I'm not saying all, but for the most part)

[BlackSuperman]

b/c they are usually undisciplined, weak-minded, and full of sh*t.