I'm a good looking guy. I get called "cute" by attractive women and "hot" by average-looking ones not infrequently.
Despite my looks, I only recently lost my virginity (I'm 20), to my ex in the first relationship I ever had, which lasted about 6 months.
I wasn't always good-looking. In high school I was way overweight and very socially awkward. The lack of confidence this engendered stayed with me long after I lost the weight. But I am way more confident now, and am getting even more confident by the day. It's just taking time.
I'm not shy like I was in high school, but I am by no means the most outgoing person- I'm fairly quiet around new people of both genders; but once I open up (after about 5 minutes of conversation usually) most people like me and find me funny and quite interesting.
Having just broke up with my ex, I've started asking women out. I approached a girl I didn't know and got her number, something I would NEVER have been able to do a year ago. However, she rejected me before we got to go on a date. I don't know why and it's been bothering me (she was two heads taller than me; I hope that's not the reason because I find tall women very attractive).
Which brings me to this- most men's dating advice focuses on being the "alpha male"- this means being confident and showing "social value"- by definition, being outgoing and knowing what to do in any social situation. This is not in my natural personality. I am trying to be more outgoing. But until I really get there, how much do you think I can rely on good looks to help me be more successful with women?
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I think good looks can definitely help you a lot, it's a pretty good advantage. It'll get more women to give you a second glance and not shoot you down immediately.
But you do need some level of confidence. That doesn't exactly mean you need to be outgoing, there are plenty of girls who don't mind if you're not, but everyone needs some level of confidence if their relationship is going to work.
You know how great of a person you are, so don't let a rejection bother you. We all have to go through it sometime, but it makes you stronger. :]0