What so good about being good looking?

[Anonymous]

I get that guys are like envious of good looking guys, but it’s not as good as people think it is. Most girls are too shy, or think you’re taken. And the girls you do attract are only after you because of your looks. They don’t even know you yet, or care about knowing you. You also attract girls you’d wish you’d never attracted. For example, my manager when I was younger, she was so into me, even though her husband visited her everyday at our job. And she was much older and had kids. I had to flirt back with her to stay on good terms. Or coworkers that you wish weren’t into you because it makes work awkward asf now. Or just random women with their men flirting with you when they’re not paying attention (cheaters). There’s also the part where some buddies you hang out with are precautious with their girl. Like I had a guy I knew tell me not to steal his girlfriend when she comes over, and when she did come over, he tried acting tough and saying mean things to me (to impress his girl). Or your friends not inviting you to drink with them because they think you’re gonna steal the women at the bar. Stuff like that. Or you have guys that you thought were straight, trying to hit on you (even though I’m straight, and I’m disgusted by that). I’m tired of these things….

[Anonymous]

I agree. But I don't think most people ever take the time to really look at how the other half lives.

I know for a fact that most women date a guy for his looks. And if they could do better they would move on in a heartbeat. This is why I'm fine to treat a woman off her merits. She gets what she gives. If she wants to give nothing she gets nothing. Because at the end of the day no one has to love you. And you don't get to choose who loves you. So when someone takes the time and pits the effort forth, value it.

You have to understand we live in a very shallow (ankle deep) society. When a woman says she loves you. Generally what she means is "the feelings you give her". She could honestly give to s***s about what you feel unless it's toward her. Guys are utility to women. We exist to serve them. And if we're not serving them they have no use for us. So when you actually find one that genuinely LOVES YOU, VALUES YOU, wants to know YOU, HANG ON TO HER. Because those women are rare.

[razelove]

It sure is better being good looking than miserable looking. You can choose to be unattractive with a brick and some determination if you really want. The opposite isn't true.

As much of a burden as it may be to have shallow or casual sex, can you imagine not getting laid at all when you're horny like that? Also some of the blame is on you for compromising in those situations.

I've been in the same boat before. Finding a relationship is a lot of time and effort, unlike finding casual which is quick and easy. Every time you choose the shallow quick return it gets harder to make a real connection with someone else as well.

Everything else you're describing sounds pretty normal, guys being possessive of their girls, another guy trying to feel out if you may be gay or bi. I'm failing to see your unique or even painful situation through that. More of a humble brag if anything, especially repeating that you can, or are cucking other guys.

[lolasmayona]

For guys, it doesn’t really matter whether or not they’re good looking. As long as they are doing well financially and career-wise, they won’t have trouble having a woman by their side.


For women, it’s a bit different.
A woman’s worthiness does mostly come from her beauty. Her beauty is what attracts the attention of a high-worthy man.

[Asker]

Not really. I know good looking girls that I and a lot of other guys wouldn’t want to touch because they’re straight up not good people (like superficial, mean, etc…).

[lolasmayona]

Of course, you’re not wrong. However, in order for a man to get to know a woman, he needs to first be attracted to her physically. That’s how it initially begins. A man sees a good-looking woman, flirts with her/asks for her numbers, rest is history. Of course, she can end up being a terrible person. He will break it off and the cycle repeats until he finds a good-looking woman who he views as whatever may be his version of “kind/good-hearted”

[nastyb]

I think you're delusional if a man with a good career is the only thing women are looking for. But I would agree with you that a woman's beauty is everything.

[lolasmayona]

I mean women are generally looking for someone who can provide for them. Someone who can take care of them. That would oftentimes require a good, stable job. There are other delusional women on the other hand who are looking for men making 200,000-300,000 a year. I would be happy with a man making 60k-70k a year.. that’s more than enough to live a normal lifestyle for two people. Even if we had a child, we would still be good if we spent our $ wisely and not on unnecessary or luxurious crap

[nastyb]

@lolasmayona

do you know why plenty of men are having a hard time finding love today? because women's standards are now higher than ever before. Back then, women married for money because women generally did not receive a college education and as a result had no way to survive on their own. 50 years ago, any man with a decent career can get a woman.

Nowadays things are different. Today, women have decent paying careers, they don't need someone to provide for them. Now they're looking for more than just a man with a wallet, they're looking for a high quality man. A man who can offer things in terms of personality and character.

This is why there is an increasing number of single women today. Nowadays, women want a man but they don't need a man. They can support themselves perfectly well without a man so they can afford to have higher standards.

[nastyb]

[I would be happy with a man making 60k-70k a year.. that’s more than enough to live a normal lifestyle for two people.]

you're delusional if you think that a man with 60-70k can provide for you and your children. do you know how high taxes are in 2023? do you know how high rent is? do you know how high mortgage interest rates are? do you know how expensive cost of food and gas is nowadays?

[DermalPunch]

Sounds the same for being an attractive woman. I've had all these issues. It could be worse.

[nitsuj86]

Lol, if being good-looking wasn't an advantage, no one would fucking care. They do, which is why it matters. People care a lot about looks. Privilege is usually invisible to those who have it.

If you really have to ask, then you are dumb.

[JustMeL120]

Yea that's true what your saying. Being ugly is worst. Being good looking isn't the worst. At least when you are good looking and get rejected you don't feel bad because you know that you ll find someone else.

[provokeesmokee]

That's a lot of words to admit you don't wanna take care of yourself.

Go for a walk, take a shower, clean your toilet and room, and recognize taking care of yourself is for YOU and not something you perform for women.

C'mon, how old are you?

[Asker]

What are you talking about? I do those things for me…. You don’t even know me, and think I do everything in life for girls?

[Anonymous]

You have more opportunities being good looking than being ugly. The doors are wide open for good looking people. It's called pretty privilege.

[In_Trance]

Being good looking is like being stupid

Stupid people don't know and never believe they're stupid

[Kkoalalita]

Honestly nothing really.. I’ve seen many good looking people that were really shitty people

[Anonymous]

Are you sure you can fit through your front door with that inflated ego of yours?

[Asker]

You don’t even know me….

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Pridens you, MORE.