What do you think of women wearing tiny, bra-like tops out in public?

[Anonymous]

Double standards... liking it or not, they do exist.

A man dressed "revealing" isn't considered a big deal. At most people will just say, "Hey man, could you um maybe just put on a shirt for now?"

But a woman dressed revealing... mmm... that's a WHOLE different story, lmao. Even if it's somewhere appropriate for her to be dressed revealing, like the beach or going for a run around their neighborhood on a hot day... she will receive all kind of labels. "Slut! Whore! Thot! Where's your modesty woman! Cheap! Attention-seeker!" And if she gets raped, she will most likely be blamed more than the person who raped her.

As such, I imagine this is the case with shirtless guys and girls in bra-like tops.

If you ask me, I say it's totally fine for women to wear bra-like tops, as long as it's somewhere appropriate.

For the beach, or going for a run around her condo, or on a night out with her friends... fine.

But for a formal meeting, work, or church? Not so appropriate.

The same applies to shirtless guys. Casual occasions, fine. Formal occasions, not fine.

I'm bisexual, and if you ask me, a girl's boobs, and a guy's muscular chest are equally attractive in every way. There's no good reason to allow one but prohibit the other.

Heck, I see no reason why women can't just be topless, besides what's become considered "normal." I don't see why a man's chest is fine to be bared, but a woman's not. They're equally sexually attractive to me.

Great. It's really no different than shirtless guys. They just gotta do it at the right time and place.

Really cheap. They're dressing like sluts, and disrespecting themselves.

[Anonymous]

I totally agree. If you like covering up, great, if you don't, thats great too. This makes me think of the double standards in school dress codes. My collar bone is showing and i get in trouble, meanwhile a guy walks past with a muscle shirt with the sides cut almost down to the bottom and yet no one calls him out.

[Asker]

Ah yes, school dress codes... the double standard is strong in them. While infuriating, they make for great stories once you're out of school.

[Opinion Owner]

My senior year a group of girls made a bunch of flyers that protested the dress code and spread them all around the school. I had no teacher who was really chill about it he was like "I aknowledge that the flyers never should have been spread but I dont really feel like taking them down."

[Asker]

Why waste time taking down the flyers instead of teaching? Lol. I agree with him! :)

[InTimoreDei]

My school had rules for both boys and girls

[witherwing]

I really wish people, both men and women, would cover up in public for other people's and modesty's sake, but dressing like that doesn't make them cheap or slutty. Neither is it any of my business how other people dress like.

[Kelly6]

100% support your answer

[Asker]

But what if it's a summer, in Florida, at a beach, and over 100 degrees fahrenheit out? Is it not okay to dress "revealing" then?

[witherwing]

It's always safer to wear light covering clothes than to bear skin during the summer. Having a shirt on makes little difference.

[Asker]

Okay... but what if you actually plan on swimming?

[witherwing]

Having a bathing suit on a beach is completely fine. I can just avoid beaches, because I don't want to see people half naked. There's an appropriate time and place for everything. Topless at the beach vs topless at the city center, there's a huge difference in what is appropriate.

[Kelly6]

For summer on beach wearing bikini if normal , or bare skin

[Asker]

I actually completely agree with that.

I completely disagree with you generally, as to me bodies are just bodies, and nothing else.

But there's an appropriate time and place for everything.

[pixie_xoxo]

I think it should be the same for both genders. If it's acceptable for a man to be topless, then it should be fine for a girl to be wearing a bra like top or topless or whatever else she wants because it's only fair that the same standard applies to both.

I feel similarly about body hair too. If a man wants a woman to be hairless, then he should be too. If a man is hairy, then he should be fine with a woman being hairy too.

I just think there should be full equality

[Asker]

My thoughts exactly, ahaha :)

[djmzes]

Simple:

[Asker]

Um... I don't know whether to agree or disagree with you.

I mean I get and respect the message you're trying to send, but I just REALLY don't get how bodies became such a big deal in the first place.

[Asker]

Also, where's the line in between "modest" and "immodest?" Just genuinely curious.

Is a short sleeved t-shirt considered "immodest?" Is knee length clothing considered "immodest?" Where does immodesty start and end?

[djmzes]

Modest and dignity are different from man and women.

That something people should understand.

[ryanlightning]

I saw a woman in a bralette and high waisted denim mini skirt last week at the beech and it looked so cute!

[Asker]

I can imagine that being a cute look, indeed. :)

[mistixs]

Thank you for mentioning that men's chests are as sexual to gay/bi men as are women's chests. All my gay/bi male friends have said the same, but nobody believes me.

Anyway I think both men and women should dress modestly, preferably with a shirt on. However I think it's immature to call people names for dressing a certain way. Just because a person dresses a certain way doesn't mean the person has had sex.

[InTimoreDei]

Her top looks like shit and so do those jeans. People don't know how to dress these days...

[Asker]

judgmental much? Also, double standards. The guy next to her is showing just as much skin, if not more, but you didn't even bat an eye.

[InTimoreDei]

Oh give me a break , LOL. The question was about girls wearing bra tops...

But yes, guys walking around half naked are just as bad.

[Asker]

Good to know you're not THAT type of person.

Alright then, I remove my downvote, ahaha.

[InTimoreDei]

Thanks :P

[soe11]

I absolutely agree with you fully and completely.

That's our Hippocratic unjustified society.

My girlfriend wear tube, sexy quarter cup bra as upper garment under sexy open front hipster jacket, some no bra at all with leather waistcoat, go commando with skirt dress too.

[shades777]

I dont see a issue with it. I lile to know what im dealing with. Women in other countries outside USA are way more feminine. So its not a big deal

[Asker]

More "feminine" how?

[shades777]

They speak softer, dress sexier, more submissive, better mothers, they dont talk rough or have deep voices, they take care of their bodies,
Better in every category that involves femininity

[shades777]

Some women in USA forgot how to be a woman and they become Undatable. Nobody wants a women that acts like a man.

[Kelly6]

I’m nudist , I go topless of nude on beaches or bar, but only where it’s allowed

[Asker]

You're doing the right thing. Time/place for everything!

[Kelly6]

Exactly

[hellodaisy]

The thing for me is that women have boobs and they should be covered as they are sexual, far more than a man’s torso. So when it’s too revealing I think it’s cheap and degrading.
But I also think people should dress respectfully though, both men and women.

[Asker]

I completely disagree with you, but to each their own.

[Berethor]

So you support 'go topless day'? I am mostly okay with that too, and sluttness have much more to do with promiscuity than with type of clothing.

[Oilycoccoon]

No different than a bathing suit :)

[Asker]

My thoughts exactly. :)

[Anonymous]

Never seen women labeled like that by other women

[Asker]

Oh you'd be surprised...

[Opinion Owner]

Well maybe I only met people and know people who tends not to care about other people's appearances as much as their own

[Anonymous]

Please, cover up! Respect yourself and stop dressing like a skank!

[Asker]

judgmental much?

[Anonymous]

You need to go to rehab. I think you are on hard drugs.

[Asker]

Why?