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That's what "basic" means essentially to the nth degree. You're saying someone is the most average typical to the stereotype possible. For a month or two on my Tinder I said outright that I was looking for basic girls. The more basic the better.
Love white claw? Swipe right. Pumpkin spice your thing? Swipe right. Forget what else I put but it did pretty well lmao. a lot of girls who resonate with being a basic bitch 😂
But being called average looking is a little more REAL so to speak and if a girl is already insecure it might hit too close to home. If a girl feels like she's not among the hottest girls, but knows she isn't ugly then she's on the edge of taking that comment personally
All girls want to be seen as attractive. Just how it is. Personally I would not be bothered being called average but I have an almost unreasonable level of self esteem lol.
Like even when I was 16 or 17 I remember a girl coming up to me and telling me I'm unattractive. Completely unprovoked. Wasn't looking at or even talking to her. But my instinctual response to her was, "cool... you're the only one who thinks so."
And left it at that. She had nothing to say to that and walked away lol. Girl near us overheard and laughed. It was just so stupid. Like logically speaking even if it were true, how big a piece of shit do you have to be to go out of your way to say that?
And even if it were true. You can't change it. So why get hung up on it? You should focus only on things you can control. Like I can't control the fact I'm not every girls type. Even tho I know I'm attractive not every girl is gonna be into me or my type.
Just like there are attractive girls I can objectively say are attractive that I'm not into. So why take it personally? Says nothing about you as a person. Just says POSSIBLY that's what they're into or not into at that time.
I've had girls tell me outright they didn't like me. Talked shit. Some acted like they didn't like me, but went on to sleep with me and were into me. So there's very very little that I'll ever take personally and most things people say doesn't matter.
People speak loudest with their actions and ultimately if you take the right actions when they matter you will live a life you love. That's what really matters. Not some person trying to get you to a believe that you are what they say you are.
You are who you choose to be. That's it
Honestly, people shouldn't be offended if they are called average looking. I remember being infatuated with a few girls throughout the years and I showed pictures to a few guys who I knew back in the day but no longer speak to now. Those guys responded with usually something negative either a) she's not that great or b) please, dude, you don't know her. That's how negative people react. I remember speaking to girls in the past of her showing me a before and after, her a little bit fatter and her super fit. I told her, you look beautiful in both. As the say goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are things that turn me on about girls that won't turn on other guys. For example, I'm a big WWE wrestling fan and growing up in the 90s I liked this female wrestler named Chyna, something about her and her look with this Wonder Woman persona I found sexy. Other guys shunned her and called her a man, or disgusting or whatever. Everyone has their own preference and you can't please everyone. If people look at female celebrities not wearing make up (ex: Kim Kardashian) they aren't drop dead gorgeous, and sure bigger breasts or a bigger butt can make a girl look "sexier" but that stuff is most likely enhanced anyways. Look at guys, you can take an average looking guy who's fat, he works out, get's in better shape, changes his hair style or shaves it off, wear a sharp suit or nicer clothes and it does wonders where he seems quite attractive. That's my take on it, some people are born extremely beautiful, some people have to be in good shape to highlight their qualities, some girls are naturally pretty so even being 50 pounds over weight can still be pretty. I look at average looking in different contexts. But just because someone is average looking does not mean they can't look more attractive in other ways. You can be average looking and have an amazing persona/funny/positive. I'd rather take that in a girl then a girl who's super hot but has nothing to offer when talking 1 on 1.
Not at all! To me that says exactly that: I look "normal."
I can see how someone might see that as an insult, as it seems like they're telling you, "Nothing about you is really attractive or stands out..."
But at the same time, they're not calling you ugly either.
As someone that sees myself as average, personally it doesn't offend me. But I guess it comes down to each individual, maybe even whomever calls you that. If it was someone you really liked or had a crush on that called you average, obviously that's going to hurt your self esteem and feelings!
But if it's some random person, a coworker, or acquaintance, would I care? Not at all.
What is average? What is attractive? It's all subjective. Beauty is a social construct, beauty standards are there to make people feel insecure about themselves. Brands use this to make more money off of peoples insecurities.
Beauty standards are always changing year after year and decade after decade. What's considered beautiful now will not be considered beautiful in the next 10 years. So I don't take it too harshly when people call me ugly, average or attractive as beauty is not set in stone.
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I’ve been called worse but to each their own. They should also take a look in the mirror. Don’t let anyone ever tell you you’re not good enough!
F*ck yeah it would! That's infinitely worse than just calling you ugly! It's calling you unattractive but expecting a "thank you" from it.
This is just me personally though, but I ABHOR and DETEST anything associated with "average." It means you are replaceable, worthless, meaningless, insignificant, and disposable as a human being. You're like a human button or Christmas light; completely devoid of value as an individual and just meant to be another worker ant in the colony, and absolutely meaningless unless working for that greater collective. I know the Dutch and Scandinavians disagree with this mindset (@mia-wallace) and I know there is more value in being a useful worker ant than a useless queen, but being CALLED such a worthless, insignificant thing really offends the sh*t out of me (when being authentic and honest about it). It's like, my life has more value than being some nameless, faceless nobody with a bar code for a name tag.
THAT'S what "average" is, to me, and it's not something any human being (with value) should ever aspire to be.
I don't think it is an insult. For example, I know I am not the conventional definition of pretty but I'm not ugly either. Just normal. So if someone called me average looking, I'd just say "yeah, that's about right". Sometimes, it's just people being honest and real with you. Definitely not a good conversation starter if someone wants to hit on you but if you ask someone how they think you look and they say something along the lines of "you look gine, pretty average I'd say", I wouldn't consider it an insult. Unless you're all dolled up and stuff of course, then it's a little rude to say you just look average
I seriously just prefer them to tell me the TRUTH and nothing but the truth. just direct and straight like it is. You can always say the truth without being 'rude'. "I dont find you attractive", "you are not my type", "i dont feel a connection". " You are too short for my liking". Anything goes and i would appreciate and respect their honesty so much.
But if they say something like "You are so ugly i would never date you in a million years even if you are the last person on earth", i just lose complete respect to that person. Although what they say won't affect me one bit, i know this can scar other people for LIFE. and them saying that... I might just do or say something back that will scar that person for life instead.
As a general rule, you should reward honesty. However, if a woman asks me if a dress makes her look fat - and IT DOES, I may say a "white-lie," like the cut of the dress doesn't look good. If a person attracted to you said you were average looking, you may want to follow-up with understanding what they meant. Perhaps they really want to date an average person because they've seen too much drama with pretty people. Who knows - you need to communicate.
When dating, it is our interactions that make us fall in love with people. When you see a couple in their 60's totally in love with each other - its not the looks - it is their life experiences together than make the other person appear to be the prettiest person in the world. It's like the movie, "Shallow Hal" seeing the person's inner beauty.
I would say maybe younger me would feel some type of way, but honestly after some time, you come to realize how you look and the things you can change to switch things up so it's all up to you. I have accepted that I am average looking, I would say I'm like a solid 6, and when I tell people that, they usually try to compliment me when in reality I am not fishing for compliments I just know what I am dealt with. I know beauty is subjective and some people will find me attractive and some won't, that's just how it is. If I don't like how I look then I can do some things to change that. But I wouldn't say the average is an insult it's in-between ugly and beautiful, meaning you are versatile you can withe go up or go down. I would only be an insult to someone who probably sees themselves higher.
I think "average" should be taken literally. If you look like most people look, then by definition you look "average". As in, your looks are representative of the statistical average for looks. Like, I'm a pretty average looking guy, in that I don't have any single feature that separates me out from my gender / age group / socioeconomic class etc. I just look like an average 20-something British guy. Nothing wrong with that. Human evolution coalesces around averages because averages are effective across populations. Most people are relatively similar in weight, height, facial features, etc. The extremes in variation were pruned from the gene pool many generations ago.
Who would want to look pretty/handsome etc?
Too much hassle/attention.
Looks are not something i can control. I am fit, clean, dress decent, travel, read and write books, have tons of skills, earn good money etc etc, so i have done my part.
No need to worry about what they think about something you can't control.
I was called ugly for 13 years, by my parents, kids from schools, crushes etc. Yeah it sucked, but whatever, now it doesn't phase me. I have gotten the low scores, only way is up now. 😗
No it wouldn't.. Because one person's opinion don't define how I view myself... Some pink anon just called me old and fugly🤣🤣
I thought it was funny lololEveryone's view of pretty, gorgeous, average, ugly, etc. is different.. Just another reason to not let someone else's opinion of you matter more than your own opinion/perception of yourself...
I think I am average and no shame in that! Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder my man thinks im the most beautiful woman.. someone else might say im ugly.. you have tp be confident in your own skin cause sometimes people try to drag you down you might be gorgeous and they might call you ugly cause they are jealous or unhappy.. most people aren't your friends
I think it would be a neutral observation, since beauty is subjective to a certain degree, I wouldn't be angry or disappointed if someone called me average looking, the same way I wouldn't be sad if someone told me I'm average height although I like to think that I am taller than the national average.
no i dont and ill tell ya why different people say all kinda shit often the reality of the situation is we've been conditioned to be more emotional than reasonable and because of that fact many of us can't discern the difference between honesty and whats brusin to our ego ill put it that way because many of us would rather feel good than be told the truth which in the long haul is actually better for us we're responsible for our feelins and nobody hurts our feelins but us it's emotionally immature to think other wise bein a 7 all around is basically average lookin i personally would rather have an average lookin fuckable woman with a great body and great personality than a bitchy 8 9 or 10 bad bitches can still be cool but alotta em are head aches
I think more people should be called average looking because it's the truth but these days everyone is calling everyone beautiful which takes the value of beauty.
Looks can worked on contrary to popular belief, a good sleep schedule, skin care, a decent hairstyle and anyone can be above average
Yes that’s correct the person is basically saying you are nothing special.
but that doesn’t equal ugly. It just means that you are not what people would classify as pretty. Not being pretty doesn’t necessarily mean ugly. It just means you look like a normal person. Like when walking down the street and you see 20 people walk past. Most likely for 19/20 of those people you will just think they look normal looking.
Yes, if a date said this to me and was being serious I would not see them again. I think that's the only instance where it would bother me. I wouldn't care if a friend, family member or anyone else said it because different strokes for different folks.
most people are average looking, despite them thinking otherwise. Gigi Hadid, Candace Swanepoel, Antonia Iacobescu, Angelina Jolie, Adriana Lima are NATURALLY stunning. that is, they are beautiful without makeup. some women who wear a lot of makeup think they are attractive, develop a horrendous attitude, without realizing they are just mediocre.
I don’t care. People can call me all sorts of names and it doesn’t do anything to my feelings. Actions speak louder than words, and the actions of countless women have shown me that I am very desirable to a lot of women. Am I compatible with most of them? Well that is a different problem...
When a guy says a woman is average looking, what he really means is average out of all of the women who aren't ugly looking. So it's a compliment. Just not one that women like.
If a woman called me average I wouldn't care because 1.) I never tried to get anything in life based on my looks so it doesn't matter, 2.) I know what most women think of my looks and all of my experiences matter more than 1 opinion but... 3.) See point 1.
Wouldn't bother me because I am average looking. I know a women wouldn't want to hear it though, wouldn't necessarily say it's an insult but it's just not something you say to a woman, this is where little white lies are acceptable. Just like the answer to "Do I look fat in this?" It's always no by the way lol
No cuz I know it's the truth. Average doesn't mean ugly, it simply means not standing out of the crowd. Not bad looking but not drop dead gorgeous. Very normal looking. Yes it hurts because we all like to feel like we're the hot stuff but the truth is most of us are regular looking humans that most people wouldn't stop to gawk at in awe. And that's ok. Average is normal.
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