Is this an acceptable amount of midriff showing for going to college? My boyfriend told me to wear a longer top?

[Anonymous]

[caring__1]

The question is what your reasons are for wanting to show your midriff. If it meets your desires, then go ahead and do it. If your boyfriend can't accept you as you are, maybe that's a sign, the two of you aren't compatible. If you told him he looks best in blue and should only wear blue, would he do so? You want someone who appreciates you as you are, not for what he believes your potential to be.

Styles change. I recall one summer at UCLA when girls chose to wear only T-shirts... just T-shirts. You're aware of how hilly UCLA is. These girls put on quite a show as they traveled up and down the stairs. Once, a girl came into a chemistry lab wearing nothing but a bikini. The TA went up to her and said, "I'm sorry. We're using dangerous chemicals here. You'll have to put on shoes." I had a water polo class that met in the pool at the women's gym. Before every game, we had to go into the women's locker-room to retrieve the caps we had to wear. The girls totally ignored us as they continued to change and shower. This is UCLA... not Harvard.

[ZackBan]

Did you edit this picture in some way? Your waist looks strange.

But yeah the amount of midriff is well within limits you're not looking sluty or anything

[Anonymous]

Change the boyfriend ;) Telling you what to wear is not a good sign. Educate yourself on narcissistic behavior of men, it can save your life.
P. S. These are totally normal clothes for a young person these days :) Wear them with pride, girl!

[Opinion Owner]

P. S. 2
And you don't need to edit your photos, your body is perfect ;)
If your boyfriend told you you're fat, again: educate yourself on narcissistic behavior on men.

[MelonSoda]

That looks like a pretty reasonable amount of midriff showing. It could be way more in my opinion. Maybe your boyfriend is just afraid of other guys potentially hitting on you.

[HighValue]

Showing like that is to get interest from others. So you are likely going to end up cheating since you want interest from others while you are in a relationship. You can get approval and encouragement from other promiscuous people in the comments because they are the same kind of immoral people.

Both partners should have a say in what is and what is not acceptable behavior for each other. That is part of being together.

[ChrisMaster69]

Ignoring the top side of things, the main point is the fact your boyfriend Told you what to wear.

it’s your choice, what you are comfortable with and within college rules (almost).

i would look at dumping him

[kyleelyn199723]

Dump your boyfriend if he is controlling what you choose to wear. Telling your partner what to wear is just pushing it.

[Cherry234]

That's fine. Your boyfriend shouldn't be telling you what to wear.

[CoolGuy7532]

I think it's reasonable. Your boyfriend is probably worried that other guys will be checking you out. I don't think you should show any more than that in classes.

[kyleelyn199723]

Sorry that is unreasonable. She is dressed completely normally. He should not have a say on what she chooses to wear

[CoolGuy7532]

@kyleelyn199723 I wasn't clear enough in my answer. I meant that the outfit is reasonable. She should consider his opinion. But it's up to her.

[kyleelyn199723]

@coolguy7532 his opinion is unreasonable. He’s controlling beyond. I can understand a suggestive outfit and him having an issue, but this outfit isn’t suggestive / most men would look past that outfit.

[slatyb]

You don’t need a new top. You need a new boyfriend. Why would you allow h8m to tell you how to dress? Let high school romances end with high school.

[Beautyforeverybody]

Lol what? It looks modest.. ı wonder what your boyfriend would say about my clothing in college.

[Birdlegs]

In college especially UCLA you’ll be go to parties 90% naked sometimes. I recommend not being in a relationship in college personally.

[Dchrls78104]

Your boyfriend's concerns are valid. Remember why you are in college in the first place---to learn and to attain a degree or some other certificate (s) to advance your career. The wisest and most respected persons are usually the modest ones.

[Shiningtempest]

I find your claim that the wisest and most respected persons are usually the modest ones to be questionable.

[kyleelyn199723]

Sorry I disagree with this. Her outfit looks fine. She looks casual. She doesn’t need to dress like a nun to college.

[Cherry234]

@Shiningtempest I agree with you. Even I'm wearing a crop top in my profile pic. That says nothing about my character. It's just a style I like and I choose to wear those types of tops. Unfortunately there are people on here with outdated or old-school beliefs like this opinion poster. I'm glad not everyone thinks like this. I've never been disrespected because of what I wear. Anyone who disrespects me because of my clothing choices (even friends or family) is not worth my time and doesn't deserve my sympathy.

[dc_rogers]

No one should be dictating what you can and can't wear.

[Xtcy2083]

Those jeans look really weird. Did you stretch the image, make your torso look elongated?

[Anonymous]

That’s a bit trashy and immature for college. Good for like 14 year olds in high school. But for college, go for a nice sweater or fitted turtleneck and leather jacket

[kyleelyn199723]

Wow you are an absolute bitch. Her casual outfit is fine. You are probably ugly, overweight and jealous to the point you can’t even wear semi crop tops.

[Opinion Owner]

@kyleelyn199723 she asked for an opinion… is she only allowed to hear opinions that say it looks good? No other opinions are allowed?

[kyleelyn199723]

@opnion owner your opinion is based on jealousy. You know girls are age dress casual like this. You know it’s not that bad of an outfit, it’s just an outfit that would probably look horrible on you.

[kyleelyn199723]

Our age*

[kyleelyn199723]

And that exactly explains why you went anon for your opinion. You can pretend people are stupid, but we aren’t.

[Opinion Owner]

@kyleelyn199723 I am in shape and considers petite (I’m from Singapore, most girls are my shape). She is wearing an outfit more suitable for 14 year olds than college people. I go to college, I never see this outfit, but I volunteered with 14 year olds and they wear it a lot. It’s a fact. I’m answering her opinion honestly and you just resort to immature name calling

[kyleelyn199723]

You wouldn’t have went anon if you knew your opinion was reasonable. Let’s face it, you are jealous of her body and are shaming her for absolutely no reason.

[Opinion Owner]

@kyleelyn199723 she has a nice body I’m not shaming her body at all, where did you get that idea? Did you even read my last message?

[kyleelyn199723]

You are saying she dresses like a 14 year old, when I am in college also and it’s completely normal what she is wearing. Again, if you were being reasonable, you would’ve said this without anoning yourself. You know you are being unreasonable , so you chose to hide your account

[kyleelyn199723]

On top of the fact that you called her trashy. Yes you are shaking unreasonably , so you chose to anon yourself. I’ll keep repeating that , so you can understand that we aren’t all stupid here and know when a girl is answering out of jealousy. Step one : answers rudely under anon

[kyleelyn199723]

Shaming*

[Opinion Owner]

@kyleelyn199723 You don't understand, it isn't HER that looks bad, it's her OUTFIT. You levelled personal attacks on me, for saying her OUTFIT looks like it's immature for college. What is your problem anyway? You didn't really understand what I said did you?

[kyleelyn199723]

Um like I said, you know what you said is unreasonable , so you went anon to express personal attacks on her because of her outfit. Again, we aren’t all stupid here. You already know your intentions were mean, that’s why you went anon. My problem? I don’t have a problem, I’m just calling you out on your personal problem of being a bitch to others

[kyleelyn199723]

You got three thumbs down from 3 girls for a reason. You are a bitch

[Opinion Owner]

@kyleelyn199723 You have serious problems

[kyleelyn199723]

Actually you do because you can’t even say rude opinions without being behind anon on an anon website

[Opinion Owner]

@kyleelyn199723 I said her outfit isn’t good, when asked for my opinion. You replied with personal insults. Something is seriously wrong with you.

[kyleelyn199723]

You used personal insults behind anon, so yes I called you out and insulted you for being a bitch to another girl unreasonably behind anon. You are the one with the issues

[kyleelyn199723]

Moral of the story is your opinion is unreasonable and you know it

[Opinion Owner]

@kyleelyn199723 i think crop tops are immature, that's my opinion, you can't say it's wrong lol, it's subjective. You resorted to personal insults about my appearance, which is frankly insane because you've never met me. You have serious problems.

[kyleelyn199723]

@Opinion owner, of course I did because you used anon to voice your opinion , on top of the fact that it’s an unreasonable opinion and you know it, that’s why you went anon. It’s fascinating that people feel the need to say crude things about people behind anon even though this website is pretty much anon’d up. That says all I need to know about you, and I decided to call you out on it. You have serious problems

[kyleelyn199723]

And the point is , your opinion is unreasonable and you know it

[Opinion Owner]

@kyleelyn199723 you are absolutely nuts. You’re saying I can’t have an opinion on crop tops or that my opinion is wrong? And then you insult my appearance even though you’ve never met me? How is that not absolutely insane? What is wrong with you?

[kyleelyn199723]

Is that all you have to say? Am I nuts because I am calling your non sense out? If your opinion was “right” why are you hiding behind anon. Absolutely 100% I will stick up for this girl with your nonsense. If I am crazy for that? You can fuck right off. Yes I know other people sticking up for others makes them “crazy” fuck off.

[kyleelyn199723]

And yes I attacked your appearance, because that would be the only explanation why you think it’s “abnormal” for girls 18-24 to wear crop tops.

[Opinion Owner]

@kyleelyn199723 it's my opinion, I'm allowed to have opinions. You just insulted my physical appearance, because I had an opinion. What is wrong wtih you?

[Opinion Owner]

@kyleelyn199723 I said I think crop tops look immature. You said "You're an absolute bitch". Is that the right response for someone sharing an opinion? Or is that a psycho repsonse?

[kyleelyn199723]

“What is wrong with you” is that all you have to say? Are you upset that you got called out or something? Your opinion is abnormal, weird, and it shows you are jealous of girls your age that pull off crop tops well. It’s obvious. If you think I’m crazy because I know your truth behind your anon response, that’s on you

[igota100questions]

This is a basic student outfit in my college and pretty sure anywhere else around the world too.. nothing wrong with it at all.

I’d say something is wrong with him.

[FunkyMonkee]

Longer, as in: half an inch? Tell him to get real!!

[DWornock]

If your form is good, it is acceptable. However, you boyfriend me be insecure and therefore doesn't approve.

[PeterSmith1983]

Yes thats fine although in winter it might be cold. Bit strange your boyfriend determines what you wear...

[kellytheman]

I think it's okay it's not showing off your belly button. If it was above your belly button then maybe a longer top but the top is fine

[loveslongnails]

LOL That's nothing. Your boyfriend better get used to what college is all about.

[Shiningtempest]

@uclagirl8 You have the liberty to decide how you want to wear your clothes. If your boyfriend demands you to wear a longer top, then dump him.

[OddBeMe]

honestly, anything is fine if you're comfortable. We boyfriend's can get overly protective.

[nawtee_me]

it is fine, you could even show a little more and be okay too...

[Wise4myage]

Yes, its absolutely fine because you aren't showing much skin at all.

[TallAnon]

Seems fine to me, you definitely appear as a younger student, but that's fine.

[thistle4]

There is -no- acceptable amount of midriff lol

[foxrider77]

Just go with short skirt and belly top.

[rosemilk]

you have on high waisted jeans so it's fine

[CindyRuns]

I agree with him... it's somewhat tasteless !!!

[MCheetah]

That's okay. You can't see the belly button.

[InYourHead]

Totally fine. You could show a lot more

[Luckycharms12]

It's perfectly fine boyfriend need to trust you

[EaterPeter]

It is acceptable to me.

[Yourman19]

Its your body.. not his

[Anonymous]

In college, definitely.

[Anonymous]

You have so upright boobs.

[Layafell]

Looks normal to me

[Anonymous]

You have good body but bad clothes taste

[Staximus]

Wear what you want

[najekim]

That's fine, IMHO.

[emperor90]

I think its good

[lycanthrope3]

Looks normal

[Edward02]

What weird pants

[Itsathsuperthik1]

Beautiful