I am intimidated by girls prettier than me?

[Anonymous]

i have struggled with body image issues since I was young, I’m not unattractive at all I’m decently attractive but I get really intimidated and jealous by girls who are extremely attractive. I have a close friend right now who is perfect. She’s drop dead gorgeous and a professional model, and she’s nice and smart. I literally hated her at first but she was so nice to me we became friends. Now I get the occasional twinge of jealousy when she gets attention or talks about her modelling, but I don’t hate her anymore. But even though I like her, any time there’s a girl more attractive than me I get this horrible feeling and I feel awful about myself. How can I stop comparing myself and feeling intimidated by them?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

It's really hard to learn to quit comparing yourself to others.

One thing to remember is that other girls' beauty doesn't take away from your own, and that beauty is subjective. There are constant arguments between people about which celebrities are hotter, and nobody can seem to agree. So, to some people, you may be the hottest. Either way, what really matters at the end of the day is how you feel about yourself. Unfortunately, we're all our worst critics and it's extremely hard sometimes to learn to love yourself and find your strengths. It's definitely doable, but in my opinion takes time and searching for positives about yourself rather than cutting yourself down.

We all have strengths and weaknesses no matter what we look like, and at the end of the day, it's truly the content of our character that is more important.

[Anonymous]

I am not going to give you this self love bs okay, I’m going to be real with you because that only works to a certain extent. You should go to therapy because hate is a strong feeling and to be that way just because someone is attractive I’m sorry to say is extremely emotionally immature. If you really look in the mirror and don’t like what you see then fix it looks are superficial and ever changing there is no shame in wanting to change yourself physically as long as it is for you and you can say you will never regret it, with that said make a list of the things you can work on naturally then the things maybe you can’t and you would like to save up for and prioritize that. If you end of going to a therapist and they tell you to not do that find another one that will support you this happed to a friend of a friend of mine and she was way better off with the therapist that was more supportive, the one that was telling her not to just wanted her to come back so he could get more money.

[UniquelyBasic]

You could work on yourself by working out and eating healthier. Comparing yourself to others is not good for you mentally, stop focusing on what they have and start finding what you have to offer.

[Anonymous]

The root of comparison is lack of self love. When you love yourself, even if someone is “prettier”, smarter or funnier etc it won’t phase you because you are happy with who you are. It may be cliché but there is always going to be someone better than you at something. Even the girls you’re comparing yourself to, there is always gonna be someone prettier than them.

Remember, no one is you. You are special and unique and that is your superpower. There is only one you.

[Anonymous]

I can relate to this so much. I've literally witness guys talking to me just so they can get closer to my friend.

I really want to help you but as per my own experience, there's nothing you can do about it other than to suppress it and try not to let it control your character.