Is it normal to feel insecure?

Question

I’m only 21 but I’m already starting to get forehead wrinkles and I’m getting pretty big bags under my eyes. I feel really insecure about it. What should I do?

Babygirl_S · Accepted Answer

Yes it's normal and common to feel so. Everyone has different things to be unhappy about. I don't have wrinkles, eye bags or acne ( I had acne as a teenager) but I don't like how my skin looks after putting on sunblock and night cream. It looks greasy as hell and I don't like that look.
I also get severe anxiety on special occasions when I have to wear makeup. The only thing I like is red lipstick as my lips are pale and the most important things to highlight in my country are eyes (with kohl) and lips (using red lipstick). People love that sort of high-contrast look.
I feel the most confident right after washing my face when there's no sebum or product on it as whatever I apply ends up looking oily but I can't really do that as I'm diligent about skincare.
I also feel a little self-conscious during workouts as I hate being sweaty and my face turns red. I don't let it stop me because you need to value your own opinion about yourself first.
I feel sort of bad when I wear baggy clothes as opposed to form-fitting bodycon dresses.
I prefer leaving my hair open to having it up in a ponytail or bun.
So, you need to find out what makes you feel more like a goddess. It could be anything.
Above all, avoid negative people who magnify your tiniest flaws.
Whenever a girl insults me I tell myself she's no Aishwarya Rai or if a guy is rude to me I remind myself he's not Henry Cavill.
I frequently encounter racists online and if it ever happens to me in real life, I will make sure they go to jail. They want me to feel insecure about my ethnicity. Unfortunately, most of the online racists I have come across are WHITE. I didn't expect it as the prevalent stereotypes in the world are that BLACK people are aggressive but sorry! They're very calm and civilised in my experience and I'm neither black nor white.
I love my culture after enduring years of racism on the internet. The racists FAILED massively as I don't see anything wrong in belonging to my community. They wanted me to detest every aspect of it ranging from our festivals to the clothes.
Someone even said the red dot on the forehead is a stupid thing and I still feel more feminine whenever I wear it. I love the girly and colourful outfits.
To summarise, no one can bring you down without your consent. Thus, it's important to stop being too critical of yourself and take good care of your skin, hair etc. not because you want to impress people but because you love yourself.

livingchaos · Accepted Answer

anti aging creams and sunscreen all year round. we all feel insecure at times

Den1971 · Accepted Answer

Don't feel insecure it's a part of life you're not going to be young forever you're not going to look young forever you're not going to feel young forever just grow into it and be the best at it that you can be no matter what it is that you have to do minus plastic surgery because that'll make you age even faster keep your head up you'll be fine

Iron_Man · Accepted Answer

It’s normal even Mike Tyson the heavyweight champion of the world used to feel insecure

melanieeeB · Answer

To some extent yeah, it's a normal thing but most people are insecure about unnecessary stuff and that making them not a confident person and stopping them enjoying life.

Pinay_ako · Answer

it’s perfectly normal to feel insecure. That’s why the beauty industry is there to remind us of our insecurities everyday.

Shiface92 · Answer

Yes, with social media now days it is normal to be insecure…. My insecurities weren’t a thing till Social Media Became a thing you are exposed to so many people who are very attractive and now accessible…. it makes you feel small, back when social media wasn’t popping every one Around me was average looking and I was considered Attractive, and Captivating to men they all gave me attention but now I’m seen as Basic or even Unattractive/ugly female who seems look transgender , now that there is a world of hot females

BlueScorpio · Answer

Ots mormal, everyone has insecurities. I suggest going to bed early so uou will be more refreshed. Also you can get one of those face rollers and put it in the fridge overnight, when you wake up you roll it over your entire face and will help the swelling go down. Forehead wrinkles are kinda normal, it's how your muscles help you make expressions but you can always try a moisturizer.

PetiteBabe64 · Answer

If you Have anxiety then yes.
Anxiety is a normal Human Feeling to feel.
All animals feel anxiety some Are better at dealing some have less anxiety some have more.
Wolves Are Afraid of not getting to eat
All animals are afraid of something.
Everybody has there own Fears some just aren’t willing to Broadcast there fears to others.

Paulalove98 · Answer

Im so sorry... that sucks i dont have any and im almost 24 but use eye patches, get more sleep& as for the forhead wrinkles they make patches to lessen them and start drinking more water, de stress. Do you drink heavy amounts of alcohol?

TrueConfection · Answer

Drink lots of water (it hydrates your whole body, including your skin). Cut the sugar intake. Any amount is an improvement.  Use a facial moisturizer at night.

Johnkandath · Answer

Lack of proper sleep mix aloe Vera, vitamin E , grated orange and lime peels and carrot then apply on face bags under eye will go away over time

Haha456 · Answer

you will become more secure once you are 40+. people in teens and 20s are most insecure

Anonymous · Answer

Well for one I don’t thinking stressing about it is going to happen. You could drink more water, less stress, enough sleep, eat healthy, avoid smoking or drinking too much, avoid excessive amounts of sun.

jshm2 · Answer

Slap yourself on both sides of your face, and remind yourself that you're not into your 50's yet.

dustybiker · Answer

I’m 44 and don’t even have those yet. Relax. Go. Live.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

That’s a more normal feeling than it should be. Just focus on reducing the stress in your life, eat well and moisturize.

Tina19 · Answer

I think it's normal to feel insecure we all do at some point it's a normal human thing

Ironic_Method · Answer

Most people have that problem I believe. I'm fortunate to not really have it the vast majority of the time.

TITAN-IDC · Answer

Dr Berg on YouTube for bags.. wrinkles.. He a health food genius. He will help with your issues.. Something is out of balance, fix it your problem will go away...

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I have been feeling insecure for quite many years and my self-esteem is low.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Everyone has their moments of feeling insecure….. even the individuals that appear to be overly confident.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Its called aging. No you don’t want to emulate the plastic lizard kardasians.

Alltheflowers84 · Answer

Sure! But also embrace who you are and what you have,

tfan1 · Answer

Possibly hereditary in your family? Also get more sleep. 🙂👍

Staximus · Answer

The bags is from poor sleep or allergies. Take a hot shower and they will go away

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Stop worrying about it. Guys don’t really care about that stuff

TrillXHippy · Answer

For someone (me) that has been feeling insecure since middle school yes it is normal

Summeroflove · Answer

Yeah. We all do at some point.

Anonymous · Answer

You can do Botox or fillers that’s fine too

Brando10222 · Answer

It's normal. But do focus on self care too

BLP11520 · Answer

Very common male or female

swettannie · Answer

make-up?

EaterPeter · Answer

I guess

jimmy2 · Answer

Somewhat

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