Has someone called you ugly to your face more than once? Did you believe it?

[Anonymous]

Yes, No

No, No

Yes, Yes

[lightbulb27]

Oh yes, I got it plenty. Yes, it hurt since I was young and it stunned me when I was growing and I felt it when rejected when older.

To be fair... they had a point when I was young.

Some people are mean, some are not. Take care of the ones who are nice... they are special and need protected from the mean ones.

[Asker]

Why did you think you were ugly when you were younger? Also, while you got rejected when you were older, you also had success as well, right? Wouldn't the success make you feel like its just a few people's opinions, and that not everyone thinks the same person is ugly

[lightbulb27]

Really young I looked good but then something happened and I had glasses and receeded jaw and was a goofy looking kid. No question... and it hurt, to boot, I'm sensitive... I didn't know that then.

A negative has 10x the power of a positive in general, that may be true in certain personalities. I realized now I'm highly sensitive person... there's a book on that. I got so much reinforcement and oppression that when someone showed interest, said I was cute, liked me... I rejected them. That's standard subconscious programming... the 800lb gorilla inside us that doesn't want to change. It felt odd, I shut down, or I'd reject what they said. It didn't fit my belief of myself. Later in life I learned why and how this works, sub conscious programming I believed were all lies, but I believed them. Lies because, I'm really not ugly, I'm developing and there's more to us than looks, made in God's image, etc.. I'm a good person.. it's perspective of adult reflecting truth that heals that. A different personality may not have been so impacted.

I had some minor success but I was very delayed, struggled with dating for long time, gave up at times. It took a long time to feel good and have success and frankly, a lot of mistakes and suffering.

sooner one deals with the childhood wounds, the sooner your better life starts. It's so easy to ignore this stuff, but it's what is limiting each person. That is general statement too, it's the wounds in childhood controlling and limiting people. This web site is filled with this problem, each in their own way.

[Asker]

Very Well Said!!!

[lightbulb27]

thank you, wisdoms of life.

[alcorriher]

they’d get called ugly back

[Anonymous]

No and yes, I know the truth

[Akam93]

Yes plenty of times.

[Asker]

Did you believe it?

[Akam93]

Yes. I still do.

[Asker]

Well you shouldn't believe that. I'm just wondering if people's saying that swayed you into believing that bs, or did you just always feel that way?

[Akam93]

Yes I do.