Why can’t I just accept myself? How to not feel the pressure of getting plastic surgery done?

[736_switch_blade]

[Curmudgeon]

I will not tell you not to get plastic surgery, assuming you can really afford it and you do it sparingly and tastefully, but I will tell you to WAIT. You are only 24. After you have children, your body shape *will* change, so definitely put off any serious surgery of that type.

Moreover, emphasis on sparingly and tastefully. For example, as a young man in the 1980s, I NEVER would have thought Roseanne Barr would look better than Madonna (Louise Ciccone) one day, but after sparing and tasteful cosmetic surgery vs gaudy and silly cosmetic surgery, here we are!
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[Curmudgeon]

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[Curmudgeon]

Above all, your acne WILL pass. In fact, believe it or not, there will come a time age 40 plus where getting the occasional "zit" will make you SMILE, as you are holding onto a youthful appearance!

[berisky23]

Hey, listen, we are always most harsh and most critical to ourselves and yeah it can run pretty deep. There's probably some stuff you need to heal from, traumas, dark times, I feel that. Isn't going to be fixed by cosmetics. If you're still not happy with your appearance once you know your chill on the inside then fuck it, get your lips done, have a lift whatever, but I'm just saying, I've seen this post and your previous one about the booty, you're a proper beautiful lady!
Hope I didn't come across like I'm trying to be all philosophical, I've just been there and I feel that. I did go to message you but couldn't. Drop me a follow and I'll DM you, always there for a chat if someone needs one 🤙

[Usernamesuck]

I can’t see what you would want plastic surgery for, you look beautiful. Although if there's something you really want to change there’s nothing wrong with that either as long as you are realistic and understand the risks.

[belle_kai]

Affirmations are a good start but also reducing time on social media. Don't compare yourself to others. You are unique. When you're 70 you will look back and think why did I care so much?

[Bricealan]

What makes you feel that you need some kind of plastic surgical change to your appearance?

Believe me, I have had PLENTY plastic surgery over the past years and do not regret one single slice of the scalpel. I've probably had more than Michael Jackson, had but not as good a result as he had...

Please elaborate on what you feel and I can give you better input/advice, and can do so because I have been through it... a few times.

Bruce

[Bricealan]

Please don't feel that you 'have to accept whatever you were born with" Things can be modified to some extent.

[736_switch_blade]

I don’t know I have never thought of myself as attractive. I don’t know if it is my nose or my jaw.

[Bricealan]

@736_switch_blade After looking at your face and features, your face is, from what I see, symmetrical, and I cannot see a problem with your nose or your jaw.
I downloaded your picture into my 'pictures' so that I may look at you more closely. I see you as attractive, from a purely 'objective' viewpoint, and I will come back to you later with some suggestion that you might find helpful.

[Bricealan]

I am 'following' you so that I can find your post later on, if that is alright with you?
Regards,
Bruce

[Bricealan]

I just looked at your photo more closely, and would suggest this. Not knowing in what state you live, I would do some research, and then contact/schedule a consultation with a 'BOARD CERTIFIED" plastic and discuss your concerns with him directly. That is the best way to get an objective opinion. Personally, I think you have an attractive face.

[Curmudgeon]

@Bricealan I do not disagree, but I would urge her to wait, and you should too. Middle age and/or childbearing will cause body changes, so she should postpone it.

[Messianic_Monk]

plastic surgery won't make you look good. Everyone will be able to tell that it's fake. If it is men that you are insistent on courting we can tell when something is fake or real. And if we know it's fake not only will we not think it's nice... it'll bring up other red flags in our minds. Things like "she's insecure" or "she's too high maintenance."

But I don't really get what your problem is with yourself. you look pretty already.

[Summeroflove]

You don’t look bad at all. Not everyone is gonna like you. No matter who you are. You can be a supermodel and not everyone will like you.



I find my identity in self worth and most of all Jesus Christ. I don’t force anyone to like me. People who like me I know they genuinely like me for me and that’s what matters.

[PhantomMenace22]

Get off the Internet and social media in particular, stop seeking validation from others, get a new hobby, read a book, a new job, travel the world, learn a new skill (for example, such as cooking or a foreign language), do things that cultivate your inner self and share your thoughts with a therapist

[Leapfrog00]

Something I learned from being a writer, "Our worst critics are ourselves" . Getting plastic surgery might change your appearance, but not who you are.

It doesn't matter how you look, what color your skin is, how big your nose it or your lips. It's what kind of heart you have that makes your appearance stand out. If you're kindhearted, that makes you the most beautiful person in the world.

And sharing that kindness to others shows how beautiful you are.

[Pyrofox]

I'd say then get the connotation that comes with all surgeries. And find out the risks. I personally would say weigh the risks. Before just jumping into surgery. A lot of plastic surgery isn't as pretty as it seems especially if you go with the basement level illegal surgeires which often aren't that sanitary XD.

[strateguy632]

depends if you believe in god, then "dont alter" his works product. if atheist, consider different people like different flavors so whatever one doesn't like others do like

[art84]

Plastic surgery looks terrible. People will always criticize you for how you look whether without plastic surgery or with. You are young still in your 20's. You look a lot like my cousin who wears a lot of makeup and looks like a model even workout.

[Pudsmucker]

You're a very attractive young woman. You have a good figure. Why do you want to get plastic surgery. All you need is more positive metal attitude towards things. Maybe you're not looking for the right person in the wrong places. Don't ever put yourself down. Be confident and sure of yourself.

[MementoMori777]

You have to ask yourself what you can't accept about yourself and why, unless you know the answer to the two of these, you can't expect to make a change, what exactly do you want surgery on?

[736_switch_blade]

My soul

[MementoMori777]

Ah I see, well the soul creates a from influence and energy consumption, believing it or not, I don't know if you believe in spirituality but in the Bible, the eyes are actually considered the window to the soul, so what you see effects it, same with what you hear and do, it's why sin is destructive, that's why you shouldn't feed your soul with everything you hear or do or even see, I'm positive your soul has its own unique personality that you are hiding, when was the last time you were yourself, no fake personas or personalities, just yourself?

[Messianic_Monk]

well... do you believe in Jesus?

[MementoMori777]

I know I do

[Messianic_Monk]

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I only ask that to her because she wants a makeover in the soul. I know of one person who can do that 👍🏾 and you are in agreeance

[MementoMori777]

💯🙏🙏

[BoopBoopBeep]

I had a lot of reconstructive surgery done after a car wreck. If you're doing it for you, knock yourself out and have at it. if you're doing it for someone else that's not the right answer.

[Sparkie460]

You look fine just the way you are. People will make comments if you get plastic surgery or not. There are a lot of disrespectful people out there. You need to learn to love yourself for who you are and not care if people say anything to you.

[Anonymous]

It takes time and effort to learn new behaviours, you aren't there yet because you haven't put the work in you just keep feeding the demons in your head.

[UnknownSwede]

Could you elaborate on why you feel like you can't accept yourself?

From what I can see there's nothing wrong with you.

[Shamalien]

Get off the internet and go to the forest. You’re good looking ffs stop absorbing content which makes you insecure. Social media is a disease

[PointTaken]

You definitely don't need plastic surgery. It's always hard to accept yourself. Just try to keep a positive attitude.

[soe11]

You look lovely and sexy, no need to repair at all.

[najekim]

I don't see nothing wrong with you. Stop thinking negatively and stop listening to all the BS saying women have to look a certain way.

[Iron_Man]

You don’t need plastic surgery you’re young yet

[MisterTee]

You're beautiful. What is it that you don't accept about yourself?

[riverrat3]

You will change, you are lovely now, only will get better

[riverrat3]

You look much nicer than you believe

[SlothySlob]

If I may ask, what do you want to get done?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You look great, why plastic surgery?

[es20490446e]

Talk to guys in real life.

[Mettbltt]

you look nice