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Girls, do you have insecurities? I always feel so bad about myself and appearance. Always in a thought of what do other people think about me. I think I have psychological issues (went to the psychologist, didn’t help tho). Gonna do rhinoplasty next month since I don’t feel confident. What have you done to have a high self esteem and become confident?
Yes it’s hard to accept oneself, especially when you see the beauty standard that the society gives us. We have to admit that we find some people more attractive and beautiful than us and that makes us feel more insecure. I think if we don’t have to deal with the beauty standard, we won’t find it that hard to accept ourselves.
I am insecure myself too because I have bad skin and acne on my face, it really kills my self confidence, but I also like myself for other qualities. Tell yourself you just live here once so you don’t have to care too much about your appearance, you have to find someone good about yourself that you think you have and most don’t, like your unique thinking style etc.. as long as you feel confident in some aspects of yourself, you will feel better.
There are some people who are perceived as less attractive but I see that they are really confident, I admire those people.
Don’t be too hard on yourself, just know that everybody has something going on in their lives, your insecurities may be parts of your problems of life. That’s life. And when people judge you for your looks, they aren’t judging you, they are just judging your parents, so don’t think your appearance is 100% you, this is just a “clothes” that your soul wears when you go out. You have to find an excuse to convince yourself to feel better.
I usually encourage myself by thinking more deeply about myself, who I am, what my strengths and weaknesses are, what principles I have, and so on. In my opinion, what we have and don't have, there is wisdom behind it that can be taken. I also once felt insecure about my physique. But after thinking about it, why do I have to be someone who conforms to other people wishes in order to fit the general standard of beauty, when beauty is relative depending on who sees it. The truth is, we can't fulfil other people expectations. Because without us realising it, it is possible that after we fulfil that person expectations, that person will demand higher expectations from us than before. This can cause us to be dissatisfied with ourselves because of the desire to continue to fulfil the desires of others, thus becoming someone who cannot express themselves. It is better to be a grateful person and enjoy what we have and try to be a better person than before with the aim of goodness for yourself not to fulfil the expectations of others, because everyone is unique and has their own thoughts and views, so it will be tired if we try to meet the expectations of others...
From there I started to believe in myself and didn't care what people thought...
Maybe you should try to understand, believe, be grateful, and love yourself more because if you don't appreciate yourself then who else will appreciate it and don't forget to be a good person...
For me I have always been insecure about my body and my looks. I was born intersex but male so I’ve always looked very feminine. I’m short, small, feminine facial features etc. it made middle and high school horrible and I was bullied all the time for it. Now, as an adult I still find myself very insecure about it. I don’t know how to get passed it or feel confident it’s just really hard.
I never used to have any confidence, but since I moved past it I found it’s a lot easier to accomplish things. For me, the first step was to stop saying or thinking negatively about myself. I found myself dwelling about the fact I didn’t consider myself attractive, or successful, and I had no experience with girls. I can’t remember where I got the advice from, but I was told to tell myself I’m attractive. Tell myself I’m successful. Tell myself women loved me. I was told to say it and think it even if I didn’t believe it. The more you say it, the more your brain is programmed to believe it. Slowly over time I became a little overconfident! Even cocky. I’ve toned it down since then, but regardless, my point is, whatever you tell yourself will become your truck. So don’t tell yourself anything negative. Only positive. Even if you don’t believe it, it’s at least a start.
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i think every women, no matter how beautiful they are, always have their own insecurities. i do self improvement physically and mentally to deal with my insecurities. Also im too broke to have some sort of surgeries and treatment and convice my self that there’s probability surgery not always ended the way we hope, so thats force me to being great full with my physique.
Because I see the social media how other girls look and how they own it with confidence, and they look super sweet and happy. I guess they don't model the negative parts bc its not what the world wants me to see. So I am influenced by the media, and that's the reason I have a hard time accepting myself. And also guys go for girls who are pretty, great body and personality. Therefore I doubt myself and just don't feel attractive or to confidence of myself. Cheers
Fake it till you make it
Smile and acceIts all easier to say then do, and you always have a little of it what ever you do
Its not something you can get eid of but its something you can train your self slowly slowly to deal with
By saying to your self, uour good, not shuting up the outher side, but accepting it, and disagreeing
And working on it slowly.. every single day
In the end our self is what we see all the time, so will notive ever bump, scrach, inprefaction, and we will ignore the overall… so we need to keep reminding, that we are good, we are fine
I love myself, and time and growth is what helped me improve. From every crappy job I ever took, to every learned experience, bad ones especially or learned from others not to repeat their same pitfalls or equal pitfalls.
Love y'all 😍❤️ I love myself 💞
I don’t think it’s hard. I accept myself with all my best and worst traits. There are things I would like and work to improve but I forgive myself for the mistakes I’ve made.
Because I accept myself, I accept others the way they are too, because it’s impossible to be able to forgive yourself things and then judge other people for their way of life.
I don’t understand why people can’t accept themselves for who they are. I have Tourette’s syndrome but I consider it something that makes me unique and you don’t see me going around flaunting that. Trying to get people to accept me for it because that would be utterly ridiculous.
Because we are in a constant negotiation with life, and comparing constantly with others. We can only be good at one at once. It's true feeling and we can only experience in your heads, part of the reason could be because of spotlight effect as we think we are the protagonist in everyone's we meet. Trust me people spend lifespan in finding balance that brings mojo of happiness to them. First accept that you're only human, and you can only learn and grow by making honest mistakes.
I have a shitton of anxiety and a drinking issue and accept that. I don't let either get in my way when it comes to work and family. If I ever gave anxiety the chance to run things, I'd be in a bunker with army rations. I found my inner strength and encourage others to do the same!
Changing your appearance won’t change the way you feel inside. You will still have insecurities. I
Think you need to try CBT to change your negative thought patterns. It doesn’t work overnight, but it works.
As even you are me. Those feelings are common. Do you what I do, I tell myself "shit am not the only one feeling like that and it's okie if my nose is big or even bigger because God knows why he gave it to me"
Ah damn…I’m sorry. As woman there’s so much pressure to look a certain way.
I think I have a long way to go myself. For the most part, I’m a confident person. But there’s a lot I hope to work on.
Yep, all the time.
I never done anything, mainly because society keeps shoving down my throat how I'm supposed to look.
It's not. I'm the best thing to ever happen to this planet! :*
Cause of society teaches us this so we fight amongst ourself?
I had a glow up a couple years ago. It really helped my self-confidence.
Nobody is perfect. The sooner you realize and accept that. The better off you are, then look into how you can improve aspects in your life
Well I’ve been 120lbs and I’ve been 260lbs, so I’ve gotten a really solid experience of how others people’s intentions are. Being on the heavy side though is a good one because I’m more aware of if someone’s got honest intentions or not
Not sure. I know being 100 percent insecure.
It helped me a lot "fake confidence til you have It". Look in the mirror often and tell yourself how beautiful you are, dress to feel beautiful, take care of yourself and get to know yourself better
I'm ND and suffer from PTSD, PDD & ADD. Success and happiness have been in short supply.
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