I tried apologizing to my two best friends, but they told me that the damage is done. Pick up saying that every time I apologize I keep doing the same thing over and over again. They said when I was the one I asked for an honest answer and I got mad so they stop answering because they’re done with me. They also said that I screwed them over by not being honest with them and I’d rather sugarcoat stuff to make them feel better but I made things worse. They say I’m very lazy and inconsiderate when it comes so helping with outings plans and don’t give an opinion. My female best friend said, “Just leave us alone! You’re not sorry at all. Your ass is only sorry because you got caught and you don’t care about us, you only care about YOURSELF! You’re only apologizing to make yourself feel better and thinking that our friendship is going to be the way it is, but to put it bluntly, it WON’T. We tried SUPER hard to be your friends! We always thought of your feelings, putting ourselves out there to help! You’re inconsiderate, manipulative, selfish and toxic and you made us look bad when we’re only trying to help you. You use autism as an excuse. I know we’ve had ups and downs and been shitty friends sometimes, but we have been nothing but amazing friends with you but you just don’t appreciate what we’ve done for you and that really crushed our hearts. No! Things with us are NOT okay and frankly I don’t think it ever will be for a while. We don’t enjoy our friendship with you anymore and things are a lot better when toxic waste is thrown out. It’s too late for sorry.”
She just walked off and that was it. That happened last year and I even tried a couple months ago but nothing. What should I do?
Why won’t my now ex best friend accept my apology after I’ve apologized so many times?
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You sound annoying af, that's probably the reason.
You sound more like demanding they forgive you and that isn't how that works lol. Next time, apologize, give them space and if they want to forgive you, they will forgive you. You don't just harass people to accept to your apology.
I am not annoying! I did give them space after they called me out. It’s been a year and they still won’t forgive me. I’m not demanding
Bro that's crazy lol if it's been a year, they decided not to accept your apology (they are well in their right to want nothing to do with you) leave them alone
Says you aren't annoying, but then proceeds to tell me how you're annoying...
I haven’t spoken to them since January this year when I saw them when I was out and about. I tried to say hi but they just ignored me. Last year they told me they’ve been hanging out without me and is the best decision I’ve ever made. They also said that I’m impossible to be around with, and without me around they’re less stress. Wow that hurt so bad.
They told you how they feel. Just move on with your life. Accept they don't want to be your friend anymore.
Yeah but we’ve been friends for 11/12 years. It would have been 13 years later this year. I apologized and they’re too stubborn to accept my apology and reconcile the friendship.
They aren't being stubborn. They feel you don't deserve forgiveness. People are allowed to feel how they feel. Just because you apologized doesn't mean they have to forgive you. They don't want to reconcile the friendship and they don't have to. I really don't know how else to dumb this down for you.
are you "asking" him to forgive you or are you "demaning" him to forgive you? sure sounds like you're doing the latter.
What’s that supposed to mean? I was asking for forgiveness but they refused and too stubborn to do so.
Death you seem to not understand that there's the option to say no to a request. You seen very entitled and not at all sorry when you call them "stubborn" for not forgiving you.
I am sorry!!! They always told me my head is always stuck in my big ass because I’m too stubborn to admit I was wrong and dismiss what everyone is saying around me and I have a huge ego. I don’t see an ego!
so the appropriate response to someone not forgiving you would be "oh damn. guess i wronged them too much". cause forgiveness is a request. not a demand. the fact you call them stubborn for not forgiving you means that for you it's mostly about yourself.
What am I suppose to do now. I have no friends anymore. One of my girl pals was nothing to do with me anymore and said she’s been a great friend to me and I’m the one that’s been toxic and pushing her away. Well she’s the one that said harsh things to me and insulted my other friend.
Did you ask them what exactly is toxic and what you should improve?
Make new friends, and think about what happened.
I don’t wanna make new friends.