If someone tells another person they are not pretty, is that having an opinion or is that rude?

[Anonymous]

If someone tells another person they are not pretty, is that having an opinion or is that rude? What's the difference between stating your opinion and being rude or uncalled for? Are negative opinions unacceptable?

[soniaaaaaaa]

It’s rude, the difference between saying your opinion and being rude is two the key word (necessary) and (needed) by that I mean if a person want to say their opinion they should think is saying that necessary? Dose it solve a problem? What impact my opinion have? If the person have good answers to those questions then what comes out of their mouth is opinion, and by needed I mean if you asked about their opinion then you needed their opinion, giving unnecessary and not needed opinion is rude and come out of a very low level person

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I would never go out of my way to let someone know they are unattractive.

It’s not rude. It’s cruel.

Are you perfect? Does anyone go around and tell you that you’ve got a flat ass or ugly boobs or so on and on? So why tell someone you think they are not pretty? If you think they are pretty, say it. If not - say nothing.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

There was this bully in school, he wasn’t handsome. Once someone called him “ugly”.

When I went to the classroom he was alone and crying, he asked me “am I really ugly?”

I said “Nope, you are very charismatic. I think you have your charm that can attract lots of girls. That girl just wanted to hurt you, why allow her words to hurt? You are anything but ugly, to me you are handsome.”

He became very sweet to me after that and not only to me but also every time when he bullied someone, I would say his name or pass by him and he would stop and say sorry. Overtime he stopped bullying and told me he wanted to be a good person and to teach him how to be good. I helped him with studies and he always protected and respected me.

From the bully he was he turned into a nice successful empathetic man, I don’t think because of me, but I think because at least some people were kind to him.

Now lots of girls like him.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He still messages me year by year. Last time he messaged me about 1 month ago and when we talked, he told me, he always looked up to me at school and he always talked about me at home. He said he always loved me too. I know that was totally platonic, because he had girlfriends much prettier than me at school, he just loved me in a platonic friendly way and I loved him in a friendly way too, we would never make a good couple. He was too conservative, too masculine, too religious, too traditional for my taste and I was too much of a freedom lover for his taste but I like to think that our friendship made him more open-minded and made him see that there are people with totally different outlook at life but you can never judge them.

I remember I always wore sexy clothes, I was just a tease at school, in truth I was an A student, he always walked by my side as a bodyguard haha and told some of other popular guy friends of his at school to treat me like they would treat his sister. I felt like a Princess at school haha

And I think that all started by me telling him he wasn’t ugly, when someone told him he was…

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Oh and also, he’s a successful businessman now and a very influential person in our district. He messaged me last time, if I need him ever in anything, to call him anytime and he’ll be there for me. That’s really sweet.

You see? Word can kill and word can heal.

[PhantomMenace22]

Giving uninvited comment to someone is never okay.

Negative comments and judgements from people can mentally affect a person and cause them insecurities and depression.

Moreover what's the need for it? It only hurts the person. Even if they pretend not to. This is because the current generation is obsessed with looks and attractiveness.

If you want to give them style advice, go ahead.

But telling someone that they're unattractive is just not nice. Be nice to people and spread happiness.

One should not hurt someone on the basis of something they can't change. Something they're born with.

If you want to reject someone, simply say - You're not my type.

And I think unattractive is a relative term. What may be unattractive to you can be attractive for someone else.

Just don't go on telling people that they're unattractive.

#spreadpositivity

[OlderAndWiser]

If your opinion was not solicited, volunteering that you think he or she is ugly is very rude.

If your opinion is requested and you give an honest opinion, that is not being rude, as long as you avoid being unnecessarily callous or indifferent to the person's feelings. You can say "You are not attractive to me," instead of "you're rather ugly!"

[KingslayerC]

The context matters more than anything. Did the person ASK for an opinion or was it unsolicited? If they asked, it's never rude, but we can all be human about it and not use harsh wording. If it was unsolicited, it's always rude. No exceptions.

[CrimsonAngel09]

You certainly haven't had any problems calling women gross though, because they don't look like models.

[KingslayerC]

@CrimsonAngel09 who did I specifically call gross?

[Billlewis]

I think that aside from the fact that it's rude, I think in many cases, the guy (because it's almost certainly going to be a guy) who says that is actually yearning to be intimate with her, but in a pathetic attempt to hide his shame and disappointment, he resorts to 'sour grapes' maneuvering. This is my opinion only.

[CaptainOverthink]

It's both.
An opinion can be rude.
Opinions are not about saying the safe thing.. opinions are about expressing yourself honestly about a subject.
Honesty, is the big word here.
Without honesty it's not much of an opinion and honesty can be or seem very rude, it doesn't have to be taken as an insult though, if you just choose to see it as their personal opinion, it might still hurt to hear but everyone has their own opinion, unspoken or not.

[provokeesmokee]

Beauty is subjective, so that is simply their opinion.

Whether or not you internalize it - and whether you do so positively or negatively - is up to you.

Only you choose your own reactions.

[CrimsonAngel09]

It's definitely rude if it's out loud, I know someone on here that's like that. Can't help but call average looking women gross, and preferring model type women. In reality, they don't exist except in porn.

You want to talk about someone's looks, keep it in your head.

[Randogirl491]

It's ok to notice someone is ugly but it's rude to tell them. I'm ugly and I know that I am so I hate when people tell me. Ugly people are likely already aware and insecure avout it so they don't need your little reminder.

[wittymilf]

It’s a bit arrogant, that they think their opinion is even important.

[heyuas]

If they never asked for it I would consider it rude because it obviously hurts people’s feelings.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

It's obviously both. It's an opinion about somene's looks and, to some, a rude one.

[lorenzomichael]

That's fucked up actually. This is where lying is acceptable, you tell them that they are pretty if they ask. Just don't come out and say it, and don't tell them they're gorgeous.

[sheikalana]

That's being rude. You don't always need to give your opinion.

[Ben487]

Its having an opinion. It IS rude if you tell someone they are ugly and they didn't ask for your opinion.

[Ben487]

Although its probably worse to tell an ugly person they are beautiful.

[Trickyvicky]

Depends on the situation. Did the person ask or did you just say I think you aren’t pretty?

[Nikki1989]

It is both and probably totally uncalled-for.

[On_cloud_wine]

It’s an opinion. Everyone has their own view of what’s pretty in their eyes

[Anonymous]

It depends whether they asked the person's opinion or not. If not it's rude.

[bernhardh]

Pretty means 'really good looking', usually 'cute and approachable'

[alice55]

That's a rude opinion

[LiamJHayden]

It's rude as it is unsolicited.

[Wise4myage]

Its rude in my opinion.

[Adam1978]

If not asked for it's rude, otherwise it's honest.

[TadCurious]

I think it's very rude.

[humanearth]

Having a opinion

[SnowedIn]

It's both.

[slatyb]

It's both.

[gothbxtch]

that’s rude

[jshm2]

Depends on context