I am trying to walk in heels to get ready for my wedding day. How can I reduce the pain of wearing heels for several hours?

[Anonymous]

Of course I am a man, so my feet are not used to wearing heels.

[Elliegirl]

The more you wear them the more you will get used to them. Honestly, the best thing is to have a pair of flats handy to change into when your feet start to hurt.

[Asker]

Yes the advantage is that I can practice, because I have already bought the heels, so I can practice to be ready for the wedding day.

Yes, I will bring flat shoes.

To be honest, it's quite an original wedding we're having with my girlfriend, and as a man I've never worn all that. It was her idea. And I really want to please her.

On this question you can see everything I would wear for my wedding.

I know what I'm definitely going to wear on my wedding day, do you like it? ↗

[Elliegirl]

Pretty dress and very cute shoes! If you carry a purse, ballet flats are a good comfy option that won’t take up too much space in your purse.

[Asker]

Thank you very much. Oh excellent idea for the ballet flats. well I don't have a handbag as a man. But my girlfriend has one, so we can put them in her purse.

What type of ballet flats would you recommend?

Honestly, I wouldn't look manly with all that. 😅

[Elliegirl]

Will she have you wear a bra and panties under your wedding dress and continue to dress and live female after the wedding?

[Asker]

So far I've already done the manicure and bought a pair of heels. All I need is the dress. And yes, I'll have to wear a bra and panties.

But after the wedding my girlfriend told me that it will continue because the heels are in my size, and she told me that they were not going to throw them away, so I'd better get used to wearing all this in my daily life.

[Elliegirl]

Just look around for ballet flats at shoe
stores around the mall and try some on until you find some you like.

With your wedding dress, you can really wear any panties you want without concern of panty lines on your wedding day or in your wedding photos. But I would still suggest white lace that will lay flat against your body for an added touch of unseen elegance and sexiness. Plus, even under everyday outfits, lay flat lace panties are pretty good about minimizing vpl. Even though I wear thongs, under some leggings and certain dresses, there’s vtl that lace cheekies or full back style panties wouldn’t show.

[Asker]

Thank you very much for all your excellent advice. Tomorrow I'm going to the store to buy the ballet flats and the lace panties.

To be honest, I didn't expect my girlfriend to ask me to be there "wife" on our wedding day, and even after our wedding now.

But she's very good at using her charms to get me to agree to whatever she wants...

As for the loss of my manly, she told me not to worry about it, that there's nothing wrong with lose my life as a man...

[Elliegirl]

Does she expect you to become a transgender female? Like with hormone replacement therapy and bottom surgery to have breasts and a vagina too?

[Asker]

Oh wow, I hadn't thought of that but you're probably right. But she knows I love my life as a man and never wanted to be a woman.

But at the same time, she knows I'd do anything to please her. That's probably why she starts by making me wear heels, make-up, etc., to get me used to it all and feminize my mind.

[Elliegirl]

You need to ask her and find out before the wedding. On the positive side, you’ll be married and won’t have to deal with the dating scene as a t-girl. And don’t get me wrong, I love being girl, but there are things that cis-women deal with like the glass ceiling that you make encounter, as well as some things you may encounter for being trans. But there are some things you won’t deal with like me and other people born female, like periods. So you have to decide if you want to live female, possibly fully surgically transition, and deal with life both as a woman and trans, and is her love worth that. I’m not in any way trying to tell you what to do. Just good for thought. But, having never been a man, I can say this, I freaking love being a girl/woman!

[Asker]

You're absolutely right. Your thoughts are nothing but common sense.

And to be honest I'm very happy as a man, I love this life.

But I just asked her the question and she answered in all honesty that she'd like me to become a woman.

She told me she didn't want to force me, and that she understands that I love my life as a man above all else and that I don't want to be a woman.

But she told me that it would be an incredible gesture of love if I agreed to become a woman for her, and that it could be an incredible experience.

[Elliegirl]

That’s something you have to figure out for yourself

[Asker]

Well, I'm already so committed that even if it's a big sacrifice, I'll agree to do it, to show her how much she means to me.

On the other hand, she warned me that if I agreed to become a woman, she would transform me into a very feminine woman, and all the masculine things I do would have to be abandoned.

[Elliegirl]

That’s not entirely true. I’m a girly girl, but I still enjoy fishing, shooting, and hunting.

[Asker]

Yes, but what she means is, I'm going to have to learn to act and think like a woman.

[Asker]

By the way, if someone close to you, who feels perfectly happy in his life as a man but agrees to become a woman to please his future wife, would you still talk to him or would you cut off all contact with him?

[Elliegirl]

I’d still talk to him

[Asker]

Ok 🙂

[Abbycado]

Don’t wear them for that long? Wear flats or other type of shoe.

[Asker]

Well, as you can see, my girlfriend and I are going to have an original wedding. I'm going to wear the wedding dress etc.

And I'll be bringing flat shoes, but I'll still have to wear heels for a while.

[Abbycado]

Why do you HAVE to wear them?

[Asker]

To please my girlfriend

[HateyouxD]

I recommend bringing flats

[Asker]

Yes, I'll take flat shoes, but I'll still have to wear heels for a few hours.

[HateyouxD]

You're not going to make it

[Asker]

Why?

[HateyouxD]

Because you have to build your way to wear heels. You might be lucky that you can wear them for a couple of hours. Bring band aids for your toes and heels

[Asker]

Thanks for the heels tips.

Yes, that's why I train at home before the wedding day so I can be ready on the wedding day.

[HateyouxD]

Congratulations babes

[HateyouxD]

No problem

[Julie4]

Between us he can't pretend to be a man anymore 😅

[Asker]

On this question you can see what I'll be wearing on my wedding day.

I know what I'm definitely going to wear on my wedding day, do you like it? ↗

[ShadowChaser]

Use specially designed high heel insoles