I’ve been wearing glasses for a while now, but no matter what frames I pick I still don’t feel pretty when I wear them, and it’s wearing down my confidence, especially around guys. How can I feel pretty and confident in eyewear? Because I know someone will ask, I cannot get contact lenses
Honestly, in my opinion, glasses are so cute!! I even have a crush right now on a guy who wears glasses!!! They give anyone a whole vibe depending on what frames you choose. So here's my question for you: What vibe would you like for your glasses to portray for you? If you want a professional - or chic - I'd say your best choice would be black and modest frames. If you want a nerdy look, rounder and maybe brown frames would be better. If you want a more hippie (or older, depending on what type of frames you get) look, then perhaps flowery-type frames would be a better option. If you're unsure, I'd recommend a modest, black frame for your glasses. It always looks good for any outfit you wear and any hairstyle you may have. And honestly, don't worry too much about the guys, the right one WILL come along and love you for who you are - glasses included!!
I actually like glasses on guys lol. I don't know, it’s one of those things where I like the way glasses look on everyonrvexorct myself. I have two pairs right now, one for warm tone outfits and one for cool tones. I don't know how to describe my style exactly but I tend to wear a lot of stylized/vintage frames. In all honesty I probably look like someone who puts a lot of effort into picking out glasses, but I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t paid off. I do get compliments on my glasses sometimes, and I think you’re right that I put too much energy into worrying about what men might think of them. You bring up a good point that the right guy for me won’t see it like that
I like how you have gotten two pairs of glasses so that you can always match! And I will point out something for you from what I have read in what you previously said: You get compliments. People have a way of usually portraying if they don't like the way something looks on someone. If you get compliments, then I bet you look GREAT in your glasses! And if you are unsure about flirting with glasses, let me say, putting the temple tips (I think that's what they're called.) between your teeth looks SO sexy!!
Either way, I shall stand in what I said previously, that being you shouldn't worry too much about what guys think. It may be easier said than done, but I promise that if you can grasp confidence in yourself, your style, and your glasses, then you will attract guys just by your confidence! Also, a friend of mine once said "A woman with confidence is a dangerous woman - If she says something will happen, then rest assured that it will happen." Hope I could help!!! <3
You did help thank you! I think you’re right about getting compliments, I wasn’t gonna brag but I know that that isn't a universal experience for people who wear glasses. My problem is that every time a guy compliments my glasses, I get worried he might be negging me, but very often I’ll bet it is a genuine compliment. I’m working on my confidence as best I can, I think that’s honestly really good advice. Also thank you for confirming that flirting by playing with your glasses is a real thing and not just a trope used by Hollywood. I honestly wasn’t sure for I second but now that I know I might just try it out
I'm glad I could help and that you are gonna work on your confidence! I'd bet money that the guys aren't messing with you and that they truly mean it! You got this!!! Shine bright sister!!! <3
I felt the same way! I always feel too nerdy or that the glasses are blocking my features. I started to treat my glasses as an accessory. I also do my eye makeup in a way that will compliment the glasses. Also, hair is super important! I always put extra work on my hair whenever I have to go out with glasses on because I can’t wear contacts that day. I actually get more compliments when I go out with glasses on (and my hair done) nowadays, people are telling me that I pull off the sexy nerd look really well lol.
What about cleavage? I'm sure cleavage helps with the "sexy nerd" look.
@FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa I prefer to show my waist but cleavage does help a lot for sure
Thank you for this! I already love to style glasses, and I think putting more effort into my hair is good advice. Do you have any particular suggestions for eye makeup that compliments your frames? I’m starting to realize I need to play into my eyewear but it feels weird, bc I’ve never done so in the particular context of looking attractive. Im already a nerd lol so I guess it’s only the sexy part that needs work
Hmm I would say emphasize the lashes. I love eyeliner or sometimes eye shadows, make sure to define your eyes.
You gotta own it! Nerds are sexy, glasses can be really sexy you just gotta be confident xx
Thanks!
You are a girl. As long as you are relatively cute in the face and you keep yourself in good shape and don't get fat tons of guys will go for you.
Most guys think girls in glasses look hot so it's a none issue.
Live in reality and not in the face fashion magazine, Cosmo, Instagram world full of competitive women all trying to look better then the others and you'll be fine.
If you live in that world and believe all of the social media "beauty standards" olympics you'll end up with 15 unnecessary cosmetic surgeries.
Live in the real world. Guys like girls. You don't have to do anything outlandish.
You’re 100% right. It’s funny because I’ve honestly done a pretty good job separating myself from the arbitrary beauty standards imposed on me by the media in every area except this one. I know logically not liking someone because they wear glasses is stupid but I guess I need to address the root of the belief. I know logically most guys dont feel this way, but the ones that do tend to be vocal for some reason, not that it matters what they think of me really. I think because I didn’t have glasses for most of my life, I’m really still getting used to the used to the way I look and feel wearing them, and to be perfectly honest I haven’t really had much of a dating life since I started wearing them (unrelated reasons of course). I think I just needed some assurance and some practice loving my new look. Thank you again for this insightful comment
Glasses can make a girl look intelligent, bookish, confident, innocent, cute, adorable, and/or enticing. All of those can be sexy.
Glasses can be thought of as a fashion accessory. They can be used effectively to flirt or to give off a certain aura.
Thank you for that boost of confidence!
Since I’ve never had the nerve to ask: would it be understood/effective if I flirted by taking off my glasses or peering over the frames? To be honest I’ve only ever really seen people in movies. It looks fun but I don’t know if it would land the same way in real life
Lol I’m scared but now I have to try it at least once. I think I do like the idea of toying with my glasses rather than just taking them off for as long as I can stand to. I honestly think the latter wouldn’t be as understood or appreciated, also I like being able to see lol
Cool! Practice in front of a mirror. Think about trying it out with guys.
It's also something to do with your hands. Hands are expressive. Guys like it when girls nervously play with their hair. It can work the same way with glasses.
I'll also mention that glasses on someone like an attorney or executive can add gravitas and even look empowering or intimidating.
On the other hand, glasses can make some girls look a bit meek, innocent or vulnerable. That's not a bad thing at all. It's actually adorable. And glasses magnify their eyes. But if that girl who looks meek, innocent or vulnerable stands while gazing confidently into a man's eyes and removes her glasses with deliberation as if she knows what's what, she can suddenly transform into a sexual tigress.
I've seen movies in which a woman removes her glasses like that and then unclips her hair, shakes it out and lets it fall over her shoulders. It makes the guy's jaw drop.
Thank you for this! I actually already fidget with my glasses when I’m nervous sometimes. I thought it was a bad habit but maybe not? I’ve seen the trope your talking about for sure, and thank you again for the encouragement!
Feeling confident in glasses is all about embracing them as a stylish accessory that enhances your look. Choose frames that complement your face shape and personal style. Some makeup tricks like defining your eyebrows and highlighting your eyes can also make a big difference. Rock your glasses with an outfit you love, and remember that confidence comes from within. A positive mindset and a smile are your best accessories. 😄
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If you're attractive, you'll be attractive with glasses. That said, the frames you have will definitely affect your appeal. I used to get large lenses because I thought it gave me better peripheral vision, but switched to smaller, more Harry Potter-ish glasses and it really didn't make much difference in vision and I look much better. I wish I had switched years ago.
Take a trusted friend or relative with you when picking out styles. Not your parent, or someone who might feel they're competing with you.
You’re definitely right about the frames making a big difference. I actually get a lot of compliments on the frames I pick, but I know a lot of people never bothered to learn how to style glasses. It doesn’t really make sense to me honestly, but that being said I know better then to take style advice from just anyone lol
Meanwhile I watch chicks that don't need glasses get them with no eye correction shit at all, and they do it for like $200-$500 or more just as a fashion accessory. All I can suggest is to tap into whatever they're tapping into and enjoy actually needing glasses.
Ur right lol. As someone who’d been accused of wearing glasses for fashion, I don't know if it’s as common as everyone believes. It’s better than the days of “pretty girls don’t wear glasses” so I don’t mind honestly
There have been times I did the fake glasses for disguise purposes. I think it also currently actually adds sexual marketplace value... a lot of these guys have fetishized glasses on girls.
I'll be honest, I'm one of those guys. I really like them on the girls that have the 'mousy' look in particular. There's just something hot about a girl that looks like she's read a book or does her own taxes.
Interesting! I’m fully aware that some guys have a glasses fetish haha. I guess I’m just not used to playing up that angle, especially since I didn’t even wear glasses for a long time it just didn’t really occur to me. I think that’s interesting that some women are considered more attractive in glasses, since I know it wasn’t that way for most of modern history. I still don’t really understand the perception of girls who wear glasses being more intelligent/bookish, but I’ve been told that I’m booksmart so maybe my glasses are sending the right impression lol
I mean... we can go back to the 80's and just gander at the "hot librarian" stereotype. That was being pushed before the hot chicks in gangsta rap made big boobs and ass a thing... around 1993. Which I hate that trend because they took away skinny chicks with six-pack abs and in reality replaced them with obese fat women with orangutan Titties. They'll be walking around with a saggy diaper butt with bullet wounds thinking it's hawt just because it's huge.
Is that from the 80s? And please don’t talk about women like this. Some of us just naturally have big boobs and a big butt regardless of weight. Women you dont find attractive are people and we don’t just exist for your viewing pleasure.
Naw... women exist for my viewing pleasure. It's not my fault if they suck at doing their job.
I briefly skimmed your question and the interactions in the comments and I’d probably suggest developing confidence within yourself in general. This way you can handle up to any situation.
the glasses being so minuscule shouldn’t define you. Find other positive things you can find meaning in and will in turn define or describe a bit who you are to others/ the world.
Sorry for cringe, but that’s honestly my best guess at this time.
Best to you!
Guilty as charged lol. I’m actually starting therapy soon to work on just that, but in the meantime I’m trying to find tangible and specific ways to build confidence. I’m trying to find positive things about myself but I still have some work to do before I really succeed
Girls with glasses can be hot.
If it makes you feel better, most guys are so busy checking out your body that they may or may not even notice that you're wearing glasses.
Guys are honestly indifferent to glasses on a woman. Just relax.
Haha
You’re not wrong. Especially with my bra size I suspect not all of the men I encounter are looking at my face lol. I’m definitely chilling out about it I just needed to hear it from someone else I think
Certain face/hair contours work better with certain frame shapes. Hit up a store and try some on and see how you like them. Don't fall into the trap of getting a pair for each outfit. Pick a semi-neutral that goes with a majority of your outfits. I wear any color as long as it is silver or an off-silver (such as "pewter" color).
I don't know about a pair for each outfit, but I do find it easier to style two pairs than one. It would probably be fun to collect glasses but it’s more fun for my bank account if I stick to just a couple lol. I agree with you that hair and frame shape are really important
Glasses are usually ugly.. I wear them too but I always like to get big ones.. I tried contacts but I had glasses since I was 7 so I feel uglier without them lol.. learn to do your eye makeup so it suits the glasses and your face. Or go for laser eye treatment..
Lol I can’t get lasik even if I wanted it. Why do you think glasses are ugly? Even if they are a dealbreaker for some guys I still have to wear them lol
I guess because a person always looks automatically more dorky just because of the glasses. How come you can't have contacts or Lasik?
Not available in my prescription
I see
So fk me I guess? Lol
LMAO have you tried no frames glasses?
I haven’t. I honestly am not s big fan of that look. I think I’m better off just playing into the glasses. Some guys have a fetish for that or something
I guess some guys do like the secretary/librarian look :P
I wanna get lasik but I'm kind of scared plus my eye doctor is hot so I don't mind going to see him once a year LOL
Is that the deciding factor lmao
I heard lasik can be risky but good luck
I wore contacts for more than 20 years , appreciate you say you dont like them , personally I really like women in glasses ( with the right frames ) , but I appreciate that will not help , in 2008 I had lazer , for me best thing I ever did especially with the golf , I can well understand your position though because for me I just hated wearing glasses also.
I actually love contacts. I wore them before the doctors got my prescription right and I think that they’re quite comfortable and convenient, appearances aside. Thing is I wear prism progressives, which means that soft contacts are completely out of the question. Im not in the market for laser, so im trying to learn to love my glasses a little at a time. I don’t hate wearing glasses per say (the vision is top notch), but as someone who’s prescription required full time wear I just get sick of feeling them on my face sometimes. Why did you hate glasses out of curiosity? And it is actually is helping a little to get feedback from guys that they like the way I look in glasses, since that’s ultimately what I was nervous about. I appreciate your kind words and understanding, thank you
I don't know if it’s a flaw, but I also think glasses can be uncomfortable or impractical in some situations. For me if it’s not the physical feeling in the constant adjusting and cleaning of the lenses. Low key I think contacts are less work if you take care of them right. I could technically get scleral contact lenses but they cost thousands of dollars so lol. Just one of those things I guess
By realising that the confidence you carry is not just a feeling, but an attitude.
Better be confidently looking at the right person, than blindly smiling at the wrong one! XD
Guys likely don't even care, as many find it appealing and even more are too busy looking at other body parts.
By existing. I have always found women in glasses to be attractive.
I’m starting to see that a lot of guys feel this way, even though it’s not something you get told a lot as a woman. Forgive me for asking, but is this just a preference, or is it something about the look glasses give? I ask because I like the way well styled eyewear looks on most guys, but I honestly think that’s just a preference I have rather than a specific impression that they give. Either way it seems to be a pretty common preference for both genders and I would love to know what causes it
Honestly I don't think it's that deep. I had an ex, she wore glasses when we met and started dating. From that point on I just always found her to look more attractive when she wore them. I've never dated someone that started wearing them after we were already dating, so I don't know if it work in reverse. I guess the point I'm trying to make is that never have I once found a woman less attractive because she wore glasses, only more attractive.
I think women in glasses can look intelligent and sexy. It’s all about attitude and the rest of your attire. Embrace your eyeware. Think and act sexy.
Like this 💕👄
I'm confident/attractive
I am also beautiful.
I don't need glasses, however I made photos with glasses and they look good. Photographs told me only people with asymmetrical faces look less attractive with glasses, otherwise it adds more classy and intelligent look.
Lots of glass frames look good. I think it is more your perspective.
You don't.
You're wearing them because you need them, they are not a bloody fashion accessory you dolt.
I obviously understand and appreciate the functionality of my glasses, but try to understand that me and honestly a lot of women are made to believe that glasses make us less appealing. We all know it’s silly deep down, but years of conditioning can make this mindset difficult to shake off entirely. Definitely something I’m working on, but I know better than to expect results overnight
I went to college with a girl that looks like Debby Harry. Just to goof around, one day, she wore horn rimmed glasses for a picture and she still looked super cute and sexy.
If you so insecure that glasses ruin your confidence and that they make you ugly, then no glasses are going to fix that. You can't fix ugly to begin with.
@Flower7 I do wear glasses.
So how do I build that confidence is what I was asking
Honestly it seems to me that many men like women with glasses, for me it simply makes no difference. I feel smarter with glasses even though I know it doesn't work that way.
Glasses are cute, be you
-some guy on an app
Do you wear makeup with them?
Sometimes yeah
It does I think I’m gonna start
Unless your facial bone structure is made in the image of God you won't feel 10/10 hot shit in frames
Wear glasses while doing a headstand or somersaults
No they will fall off 😕
Try contacts.
You can see stuff.
And that's cool.
I do love me some quality vision lol
Wear glasses base on your face shape.
I definitely do!
Most women look really hot in glasses.
Pretend they are sunglasses? 💀
Maybe? It’s kind of hard for me to forget that they’re glasses tbh
Do like how they look without them? Cause you do know they are removable right? 😆
Well yes but I also enjoy not having distorted vision and and headache lmao. I guess I could pull them down seductively like people do in movies sometimes but I feel like that would look silly in real life I don't know
Yea don't do that lol, it might just be cringy but just be yourself, you might be seductive with them on for all you know, maybe you are overthinking things ha
Lol. A lot of guys don’t like the look of glasses on women, but I honestly think I decent number of them do. Question is for how many it’s gonna be a weird fetish thing?
Probably a lot of them, but then there's those that might just think the way the glasses make your eyeballs bigger looks adorable and will like it, it doesn't always gotta be sexual attraction right?
You’re right. That is a sweet thought thank you for that
Np, lighten up anon, I'm sure the glasses look good on you 💯
Find ones that suit ur face shape.
It's impossible, maybe if you have sunglasses, then you would look cool.
Otherwise, contact lenses are a better solution.
And if I can’t wear contacts?
Hmm, how about a laser surgery to repair your eye-sight?
Girls in glasses are sexy
I like gals with "glasses".
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