What do women look for in a Man? What traits?

[RickWalters]

What do women look for, when it comes to men? What traits? Just looks? Money? Fame? Nice car or job? How about inner qualities? Does it matter about looks, age, experience? Any tips on how to get women interested in me? Any tips would help. Thanks! (I especially want to hear from women, but guy's answers would be good too. Thanks!)

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Well, thx for everyone's help. REALLY wish more women had answered, for their views, but it's OK. Thx to the ones who did. And the guys too. Truthfully, I know I must have problems, getting women, because if I didn't, I'd have them, and wouldn't be here. So I KNOW I lack skills/etc. Working on those flaws. But, not giving up. I'll try to relax, focus on me, life. Hopefully make ME better, attract women. I'm great. Hopefully find a woman who thinks so too. Mind EM tips? I'd appreciate it. Thx!

[justsaywhatuwannasay]

Calm cool collected... confident... and Witty... those are the most attractive to me. A guy that does his own thing. Has his own friends. I don't need wealth.. nor do I need him to support me but I sure as hell am not supporting him. Friendly... assertive... NOT pushy or mean because that’s not the same thing, at all!

Physically... I like a little meat on the bone... I like a man in athletic gear such as basketball pants... and I mean the sports look... NOT the hoodlum look. I am a S You C K E R for a man in a baseball cap.. NOT the flat bill kind with the tag still on it. lol

[Anonymous]

It differs from one woman to another. Some women only want money, others want someone who can take care of them, so on so on. Looks, age, experience may matter to some women, others might not care as much.

[RickWalters]

yeah. well, I try to be the best "me" I can be, and find women who want "me". but so far, in life, and online, can't seem to find any. Like I said, ones I want, don't want me. Ones who want me, I don't want. The few mutual, don't seem to get to the "dating" stage, they fall out of love with me, in love with others (incl. friends). Some hurt me. So in the end, I STILL end up alone. I'm TRYING to change/fix my flaws. Learn "dating" information. But taking a lifetime. Seems when I'm 100..I can date

[Plelie]

I like guys who are confident & interesting. I like it when he treats me like his friend and shares intimate experiences. Someone who wants me for me and not just for my body. If you can make us feel good then we want you. Also, eyes are important. Expression of the eyes. If you are happy, we can see that and happy people attract happy people. Also, unselfish men are DESIRABLE. We like men who are unselfish in bed and bring passion.

[Anonymous]

Traits- honest, caring, not too dickish, able to see bad from good (when problems arise.) looks and age matter to an extent, but not that someone has to be "perfect" looking and they *have* to be a certain age and everything. And how to get a woman interested you is always different depending on each and every person you meet. Just be yourself in the least, and if the girl doesn't like you it's her loss. Cause everyone's a wonderful person. :)

[Anonymous]

I personally look for a cute face, affectionate, small compliments, money can't hurt but you don't need to be rolling in it, you just have to be able to be an adult and handle your finances without late fees and bills being forgotten about. Humor is big. If you can make me blush and give me butterflies, I'm yours.

[Anonymous]

Prepare to get different responses... If a college instructor told me to write a report of "What women want" There is no way I'll be able to come up with factual conclusion

[RickWalters]

I know, but thought I'd ask. But I figure that, there should be SOME "same" answers. At least it seems that way, from reading "dating" articles online, being on social dating sites, my life experiences. Trying to find what MOST women want in a man, to see if I have those qualities. Money/fame/etc? who knows, maybe someday. But more important? Inner qualities. Because women I've known..don't want me for SOME reason. I keep making mistakes..chasing them away. Why? Will I always be alone? Unfair.

[Opinion Owner]

Will you always be alone? Sure with that attitude. Quit whinning

[RickWalters]

umm. I have the attitude BECAUSE I've never had ANYONE. It's EASY to not "whine" when you've had dates, love, sex, rels, marriages, etc. when you HAVENT you're not whining..you're a ware you miss out on something, and want it. that's like saying, starving people in other countries shouldn't "whine" just because they've NEVER had food! Ever hear of "love starved" "sex starved"? EASY not to WHINE when you've HAD times with people. When you haven't? you're upset. If I'd given up: I'd not be asking.

[RickWalters]

And I promise, I'm not trying to be depressed or depressing, or anything..or "whine"..just being honest. But MOSTLY I'm trying to find out what I'm doing wrong, what I'm "lacking" with women, and maybe how to get it, do it right. So I'm hoping people, especially women, will tell me what they USUALLY look for...and if I have any of those traits. I'm looking for info, and tips..answers. I hope people, especially women, will tell me what I need to do, to finally get women into my life. Tips?

[Opinion Owner]

Seriously dude, get yourself some mental help. I don't think your happy with yourself at all. You need to be happy and contemp with you. There is no special way of meeting women.. If there were, then whoever came up with it would be a rich person

For real, stop trying so hard, build your self esteem and you'll have better luck

[RickWalters]

um wtF*** ARE you talking about? I'm not "adamfk1" or any OTHER acct! I only have THIS one! I have NO other accounts. This is it! I don't go under "fake" names to ask questions...what would be the point? I'm trying to get info..FOR ME! RICK! I don't HAVE any other accts! Why do you think I do? I'm sure the site can prove I have only THIS one! I'm not "other guys". ok? so you may not like my questions/comments/think I'm depressing..but I'm ONLY me! "me". got it?

[RickWalters]

Yeah, I realize I have "issues" and am working on them. Life problems through my life have made me this way. But I'm trying. lf I'd COMPLETELY given up, I wouldn't be here. I'm trying to be happy with me, working on it. Well, somehow, a lot of people know how to meet and get with women, then. So I'm trying to find who know the right things to do, and learn. But, yeah, after so many losses, thinking of giving up for awhile, work on me, self esteem, life..then try again. Just asking info, boyfriend I do.

[Opinion Owner]

Dude, you should listen to me, I have an associates degree in women's studies, applying to harvard med school and was once a male stripper

[RickWalters]

Ok, all good qualifications. Definitely. And yeah. I'm listening. But here's my question for you: I'm sure as all those things ESPECIALLY the "male stripper", you've HAD women before, right? Dates, kisses, love, sex, rels, etc. Right? Now imagine: having had NONE of that..EVER..even WITH those qualifications. "stripper" esp. NO love, dates, sex, etc. EVER. ok? AND being, finally in your early 40s. WOULDNT you be "depressed" "whining" etc..? Yeah..YOU'D BE ALONE. STARVED. See? But I'm hearing u.

[RickWalters]

oh and by the way, when I said "boyfriend", it WASNT THE WORD "BOYFRIEND" I was typing the word "before"..but abbreviated.. b / f .."before". the word "before"..not "boyfriend". ok? the stupid site's "spellcheck" or whatever changed it. just wanted to let you know.

[RickWalters]

But yeah, I think you have some good points. And I agree with them. Pretty much already figured out that I have "issues", and that I don't have skills with women. But yeah, I'm working on it. Promise. Yeah, I think I'll try to get the things in life, experiences, etc I'm lacking, and work on myself. Hopefully all of that will raise my self esteem/confidence. I def do have a problem with that, I know. So yeah, I'll work on me, try to love me accept me more. Hopefully that'll help finally get love

[Ewizabethkelly]

Your values ie. helpful, kind, sweet etc
Looks do make a difference
But everyone is unique
Fame? Depends on the girls
Usually the jocks are with the cheerleaders right?the popular clique

[Justwondering1606]

Generally we want you to care, not over the top but have feelings. Protect us and tell us what your feeling. Don't just put on the tough guy face

[Anonymous]

You do get those chicks out there who just want a guy for looks...but honestly there are chicks out there who wants a guy to be themselves, not to be cruel to others.... I have a small bit of OCD, so most chicks would like a man who is neat...

[Anonymous]

Every girl is different. However her father is like is the guy she will like most
However, girls seem to be attracted to money, power and confidence

[blackkid4]

Stability. Maturity. Ability.

That's about it.

[RickWalters]

well, it seems to be more than that. Stable? Let's say I was rich. Maturity? I'm 43, act young to have fun, but know when to be serious, and think about all kinds of "mature" things and topics. Ability? Working on it. Can't seem to find the one woman who'll finally help me get the "ability". So lets' say I get rich, famous, hot looks, learn all "dating" rules. Still get women? Comes down to luck too. Dont' seem to have much "good luck" with women...no matter what I do. May always be that way.

[blackkid4]

There is no luck, only opportunity, but not every opportunity is one you will opt to take. The funniest thing about "getting a woman" is that people often fail to include the implied "that I want". You've been attractive to people you didn't even know existed that you walked right by because they weren't what you wanted. There is no luck.

[Anonymous]

Someone who is smart sweet funny gives nice hugs and fun to be around

[loveBrowneyes]

a gentelman that love care and love only me !

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Being hot

[Anonymous]

Every woman is different.

[RickWalters]

Yeah, but for some reason, I seem to be unwanted by ALL of them. whether its age, looks, inexperience, not "badboy" enough, too nice, etc. They ALL only want to be "friends", or hate me, and use my emotions to pretend to care, only to betray me. Ones I'm wanting don't want me, ones who want me, I don't want. Only a few are mutual, and don't work out. Is it me? Guess I have to change ME to get THEM. And if I do, it won't be ME..so what's the point? So, I end up alone. Others get to date..I don't.

[blackeagle007]

Most of them only want male models with muscles and lots of case/ Average looking guys have it rough I think. Gals are more picky with looks than guys

[RickWalters]

Yeah, I think so too. I'm trying to be better at my life, become better looking. Try to get the things in life I'm missing. Trying to get the things, experiences in life that will make ME happy, and hopefully at the same time, might draw women too. But yeah, they want male models, say for us to only want "insides" of women, but at the same time, they do the same thing. Universal. Men are pigs?..but same time women can treat average/nice guys bad, and not be thought of as "pigettes"? kinda same.

[RickWalters]

um like I said, I'm not adamfk1 or anyone ELSE! So I have NO idea, why you think I am, but I'm not, ok? I'm just "ME": Rick! Ok? that's it! I'm sure the site, can prove it. But, I'm just here, for me, to get info, on what I'm doing wrong, why women don't seem to appreciate me, how to go about finally getting what I'm lacking, what most others seem to get easily. Just asking, to get answers. Because when you lack something, especially something important, you want it more than anything, esp. peopl

[RickWalters]

again, I HAVE no "multiple accts", ok? I'm only ME:RICK! PERIOD! OK? UNDERSTAND? Maybe there's some other person who's doing those things..but it's not ME, OK? I'm sure the site can prove it. This is the ONLY acct I have ok? PROMISE! I havent' been on here long, only afew days. Only asked a couple q's. This is my 3rd. EVER! Promise! I'm just me:Rick! I don't have time for "multiple accts". Too much in my life I'm doing, and have to do. trust me. No time to "waste" trolling, ok? Truth. I'm Rick.

[Opinion Owner]

Not you, that blackeagle guy

[RickWalters]

oh OK, sry. Didn't know. Thanks for clarifying. I appreciate it. I've only got ONE acct. This one. Me: Rick. Don't know about any fake ones. Haven't been here long enough, only a few days. Had enough with fakes on the dating site I was on Meetme.com. Got crap there too..finally left a couple days ago. It was crap, added to my probs. But here, no idea. Anyway, thx for clarifying. Sry to yell at you, thought I was being attacked, acct. would be deleted for nothing! But sry. Thx.