What if we fall under a shit load of those categories? I am in my mind a protector, intellect, comedian, and a bit of a fox. Maybe a dabble of some of the others too, good thing?
Ha, yes they're all "famous" sort of. That particular guy *was* Shawn Poirier, who was a celebrity male witch in America who died a few years back from a heart attack. He was also homosexual, so even when alive, was out of reach to women. I know it's sort of weird to picture him with the example I gave, but he had that dark, sexy look that some guys have like Criss Angel and other guys who are sort of like that, in to the dark arts. I thought Shawn Poirier was pretty sexy regardless.
I'm the protector and champion but no girl wants a real relationship with me they only want sex I hate this I'm a good guy and that's not what I'm about
Yes, of course there are lots of "types" that could be added. But you know what, I was thinking - when good guys who know they're attractive just can't seem to attract women, without sounding harsh, it's usually because women will choose a guy with some element of interest rather than good looking who seems dreadfully boring.
I think there is a threshold, a minimum in each feature which a person will accept and which varies with each person. Once that minimum requirement is met in that area other areas assume greater importance. Anything extra is a bonus of course but the focus shifts. If a guy is minimally good looking then his intellect assumes greater importance if he's good on both counts his talents & etc. This all is calculated out subconsciously as an impression of attractiveness which is constantly being updated.
Oh I agree, there is give and take with a lot of facets in our complete make-up. But if there is just *blarghhh* there, LOL you know? --total boring and nothing going in life, then no amount of good looks is going to make up for that.
I think women want at least some of all of these traits. If a man has none of even one of these traits it's going to be an issue. I think that's true in reverse too. It's weird if someone has no sense of humor whatsoever.
I remember dating guys with no sense of humour - but they had something else to offer which didn't make them so boring. Not everyone can be funny, but if they are very intelligent or they are pretty skilled around the house or the car, these were attractive traits too. :)
so if they saw wedding crashers they were like plain faced the entire time? I think your bar for sense of humor is like stand up level... if someone knows whats funny to laugh at they have a sense of humor.
I don't know about that so much. I mean, if there is no possibility to laugh at one's self, then there's no sense of humour. I dated a guy once who said the funniest thing to me. He was a carpenter and was home after work one day. When he took off his boot, he stepped on a nail and it pierced right in. Later on, he said, "I can't believe it... I go to work with these steel-toed boots on all day, stepping on saws, plugs, and every tool imaginable and nothing comes of it. I come home, take one step in the house and I get a nail in the foot." Well, I laughed. He said, "It's not funny!!" -- even scowled when he said it. I thought it was, and kind of ironic, and yet he couldn't see it and still couldn't even long after his foot healed when it was ever brought up again. Poor baby. No humour. :/
But that's not the definition. Also, there's no way that if the situation were reversed you would be laughing if a you had a nail inside your foot and your boyfriend was laughing at you. You're free to have fun at a man's expense just as a man is allowed to have fun at a woman's expense, I'm not judging that. I just think you're unrealistic in terms of expecting a man to be ok with it. Like you're being a bitch, and it's ok to be a bitch, but don't expect men to like it.
Don't presume to know me, you have no clue. You don't know what I've been through and what I can laugh at about myself or when I was able to. Having a nail in the foot may not have been funny to him at the time but he cracked his own joke. Not just the nail, but with everything. No humour. Does this make sense now? And I'd appreciate it if you'd never call me a bitch again or tell me I'm being like a bitch. Not only am I not a bitch, but I haven't said one bad thing to you or about you on this site no matter how much we have butted heads on men/women topics.
I believe what you say but girls I've encountered want the complete opposite of that Bad boy Criminal Asshole Rich Lambo All that stuff can you explain thise girls?
about 'champions' there r a lot of sick champions; they are attracted to power. there are a lot of bad people working in the medical industry as doctors ambulance workers military firefighters and police
Women pick this up and feel the need to want to break down the barrier between the man and his hobby to make her his Number One. - these are not women they are girls
If you bothered to check out the comments, there are many Americans who agreed with her take, so it's certainly not just a Swiss thing, unless you also believe in the conspiracy that everyone who agreed is Swiss too.
Thanks @bubble_tea Yes, we definitely are different cultures, CincinnatiRedsfan but attraction is still attraction and I think it's universal that thinks like looks, interest, and chemistry are factors when people date - unless a culture already has a couple predetermined for marriage. For the rest of us, when we decide on a partner, we consider things *in addition* to looks and these are the types of things I believe a lot of women find interesting in men - as not too many women will be satisfied knowing her man is good-looking, but a complete bore who does nothing extra with his life to be somewhat self-motivating and fascinating.
Oh ffs "Men are visual, women go for money" will you please give us a break that women aren't visual and this whole Take was about what women look for in men that has nothing to do with looks OR money. We want some appeal that has to do with character. And what examples, Trump, Hefner, Stern.. those guys have money yes, but they are tycoons within their business. Go start up an indie rock magazine and see if a woman takes notice of that - because it's interesting. Women want to know that the guy she's with has some fire-in-the-belly to be self motivating. You could be poor as shit and be an editor for a magazine and a woman would want to be with you over Hefner. Why not just make up a poll here on GaG and see what the average girl says here. "Would you date a cute street musician or Hugh Hefner?" Normal women aren't going to buy the Hefner lifestyle choke-hold over true happiness.
@Take Owner The fact those guys are tycoons has nothing to do with it. It's because they're rich. It's as simple as that. Which is why these girls use them for vacation trips and shopping sprees. You're incredibly naive. Even my mom and sisters agree with me on this lol.
I don't care what GAG says, because GAG represents a tiny population of my country.
We'll have to just disagree on this one. If a guy is boring he'll always use money as a crutch to blame the state of his unhappiness. It clearly doesn't answer why so many of you broke Americans can still get in to relationships - so isn't not skewed to financial nor cultural. Women every where date guys without money - hm.. wonder why.
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What if we fall under a shit load of those categories? I am in my mind a protector, intellect, comedian, and a bit of a fox. Maybe a dabble of some of the others too, good thing?
I've been and am a lot of these things... I'm still single. why? because i don't look like 90's Brad Pitt.
Brad Pitt isn't my type, so I'm sure someone will come along who will prefer you over brad Pitt any day
Brad Pitt is hardly good looking.
I guess I am the a protective one, I got this natural feeling to protect the people closest to me , physically and emotionally
I don't know which category I belong to.
And I personally believe that a lady would want such guys rather than a girl.
LOL Roman Reigns and Dean Ambrose 💖
I love the pictures for some of these archetypes. They're so random. Like the dude lounging in the cemetery omg.
Ha, yes they're all "famous" sort of. That particular guy *was* Shawn Poirier, who was a celebrity male witch in America who died a few years back from a heart attack. He was also homosexual, so even when alive, was out of reach to women. I know it's sort of weird to picture him with the example I gave, but he had that dark, sexy look that some guys have like Criss Angel and other guys who are sort of like that, in to the dark arts. I thought Shawn Poirier was pretty sexy regardless.
I'm the protector and champion but no girl wants a real relationship with me they only want sex I hate this I'm a good guy and that's not what I'm about
Yeah, he's got to be exceptional in some way (or in multiple ways ideally) it's what makes things click. You could have added a few more.
Yes, of course there are lots of "types" that could be added. But you know what, I was thinking - when good guys who know they're attractive just can't seem to attract women, without sounding harsh, it's usually because women will choose a guy with some element of interest rather than good looking who seems dreadfully boring.
I think there is a threshold, a minimum in each feature which a person will accept and which varies with each person. Once that minimum requirement is met in that area other areas assume greater importance. Anything extra is a bonus of course but the focus shifts. If a guy is minimally good looking then his intellect assumes greater importance if he's good on both counts his talents & etc. This all is calculated out subconsciously as an impression of attractiveness which is constantly being updated.
Oh I agree, there is give and take with a lot of facets in our complete make-up. But if there is just *blarghhh* there, LOL you know? --total boring and nothing going in life, then no amount of good looks is going to make up for that.
I think women want at least some of all of these traits. If a man has none of even one of these traits it's going to be an issue. I think that's true in reverse too. It's weird if someone has no sense of humor whatsoever.
I remember dating guys with no sense of humour - but they had something else to offer which didn't make them so boring. Not everyone can be funny, but if they are very intelligent or they are pretty skilled around the house or the car, these were attractive traits too. :)
so if they saw wedding crashers they were like plain faced the entire time? I think your bar for sense of humor is like stand up level... if someone knows whats funny to laugh at they have a sense of humor.
*not saying wedding crashers is the funniest movie its just one of the most funny to everyone regardless of race age or religion movies
I don't know about that so much. I mean, if there is no possibility to laugh at one's self, then there's no sense of humour. I dated a guy once who said the funniest thing to me. He was a carpenter and was home after work one day. When he took off his boot, he stepped on a nail and it pierced right in. Later on, he said, "I can't believe it... I go to work with these steel-toed boots on all day, stepping on saws, plugs, and every tool imaginable and nothing comes of it. I come home, take one step in the house and I get a nail in the foot." Well, I laughed. He said, "It's not funny!!" -- even scowled when he said it. I thought it was, and kind of ironic, and yet he couldn't see it and still couldn't even long after his foot healed when it was ever brought up again. Poor baby. No humour. :/
But that's not the definition. Also, there's no way that if the situation were reversed you would be laughing if a you had a nail inside your foot and your boyfriend was laughing at you. You're free to have fun at a man's expense just as a man is allowed to have fun at a woman's expense, I'm not judging that. I just think you're unrealistic in terms of expecting a man to be ok with it. Like you're being a bitch, and it's ok to be a bitch, but don't expect men to like it.
Don't presume to know me, you have no clue. You don't know what I've been through and what I can laugh at about myself or when I was able to. Having a nail in the foot may not have been funny to him at the time but he cracked his own joke. Not just the nail, but with everything. No humour. Does this make sense now? And I'd appreciate it if you'd never call me a bitch again or tell me I'm being like a bitch. Not only am I not a bitch, but I haven't said one bad thing to you or about you on this site no matter how much we have butted heads on men/women topics.
Actually as a female I'm not that into stereotypes. But everyones different i'm sure a lot of women agree.
I believe what you say but girls I've encountered want the complete opposite of that
Bad boy
Criminal
Asshole
Rich
Lambo
All that stuff can you explain thise girls?
I think I did already in the Take.
Duh sorry.. helps to provide the link: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11579-why-we-love-our-bad-boys-and-why-we-shouldn-t
you are 17 years old... WOMEN don't want that stuff... not unless they are shallow and materialistic. Or just dumb.
about 'champions' there r a lot of sick champions; they are attracted to power. there are a lot of bad people working in the medical industry as doctors ambulance workers military firefighters and police
Women pick this up and feel the need to want to break down the barrier between the man and his hobby to make her his Number One. - these are not women they are girls
How about a bum? I'll crash at your house free of charge.
This isn't true for girls in my age group in the United States of America.
Maybe it is for women in their 40's in Switzerland.
I wonder who peed in your pool that you keep going off like this.
@bubble_tea It could be that Switzerland is an entirely different culture than the United States.
If you bothered to check out the comments, there are many Americans who agreed with her take, so it's certainly not just a Swiss thing, unless you also believe in the conspiracy that everyone who agreed is Swiss too.
You need to lick windows...
Thanks @bubble_tea Yes, we definitely are different cultures, CincinnatiRedsfan but attraction is still attraction and I think it's universal that thinks like looks, interest, and chemistry are factors when people date - unless a culture already has a couple predetermined for marriage. For the rest of us, when we decide on a partner, we consider things *in addition* to looks and these are the types of things I believe a lot of women find interesting in men - as not too many women will be satisfied knowing her man is good-looking, but a complete bore who does nothing extra with his life to be somewhat self-motivating and fascinating.
No problem, Ozanne. He reprimanded me just yesterday or the day before too for stating an opinion that is different than his.
@Take Owner I know it's not about looks. Men are visual, women go for money.
Why do you think Donald Trump, Hugh Hefner, Howard Stern and every other wealthy and famous man is successful with women?
@bubble_tea I could care less if other Americans disagree with me, that still doesn't mean they're right.
Oh I see.. just the typical GaGers Gotta Hate mood-swing going on these days I guess. LOL
I'm not "hating", I'm just speaking the truth.
Or maybe I wish my personality was as great as Hugh Hefner's...
Ozanne, yeah, I guess.
CincinnatiRedsfan, I see. You just care a lot when Swiss people disagree with you.
I don't care who disagrees with me.
@bubble_tea When someone from another country disagrees with me, I just mention how there could very well be cultural differences.
Oh ffs "Men are visual, women go for money" will you please give us a break that women aren't visual and this whole Take was about what women look for in men that has nothing to do with looks OR money. We want some appeal that has to do with character. And what examples, Trump, Hefner, Stern.. those guys have money yes, but they are tycoons within their business. Go start up an indie rock magazine and see if a woman takes notice of that - because it's interesting. Women want to know that the guy she's with has some fire-in-the-belly to be self motivating. You could be poor as shit and be an editor for a magazine and a woman would want to be with you over Hefner. Why not just make up a poll here on GaG and see what the average girl says here. "Would you date a cute street musician or Hugh Hefner?" Normal women aren't going to buy the Hefner lifestyle choke-hold over true happiness.
Cultural differences exist within your own country too, just saying.
@Take Owner The fact those guys are tycoons has nothing to do with it. It's because they're rich. It's as simple as that. Which is why these girls use them for vacation trips and shopping sprees. You're incredibly naive. Even my mom and sisters agree with me on this lol.
I don't care what GAG says, because GAG represents a tiny population of my country.
I thought this comment was funny.
We'll have to just disagree on this one. If a guy is boring he'll always use money as a crutch to blame the state of his unhappiness. It clearly doesn't answer why so many of you broke Americans can still get in to relationships - so isn't not skewed to financial nor cultural. Women every where date guys without money - hm.. wonder why.
@Take Owner I'm not saying it's impossible for broke American men to date but it significantly hurts your chances.
Fair enough.
Fight! Fight! Fight! Fight! Hahaha
Its encouraging to me that I don't match up with any of these traits...
The bad boy who is actually kind of intelligent and really passionate about something... HNNNNG
So I'm a foxy psychic comedian of protection. (condom advertisements take note plz)
Having money and a fancy car definitely doesn't hurt your chances with women though.
Not at all. It GREATLY helps your chances.
I'm a fan of a comedic protective handyman, I got me one of those <3
Good take, my dear! The comedian and the intellect = <3.
You do know that if you make only 20,000 a year, you're considered poor, and is VERY hard to make it, right?
And I care about this, why?
Well, if you plan to have a kid, you need to have more than 20,000 a year. Most people don't even make 20,000 a year
Aaaand, what if you don't plan to have a kid, like I don't, and many other women are opting not to either?