Sounds like you got most of those from some lame website or book on how to pick up women. Some of those points will work on women, I will give you those, but the one that will not work on any woman is reason 9, ya right there is no way in hell you can forget your gfs bday or wifes bday, not take her out and just say listen up bitch that's how it is, I am setting boundaries. You can do that but you won't have a girlfriend for very long if you do. I bet that your single.
Sounds like someone's a PUA in the house. The only real reason is that "nice" guys have a habit of turning off their sexuality around women while "bad" guys never really do. You can be a kind guy and be sexual. But hey if this is what works for you and it gets you the girls you like, go do your thing.
I love that you've put a lot of emphasis on honesty in this article which is the main rule I base my own morals on. But I fear some who read this will think that a Bad Boy who only cares about his own interests is more honest than a Nice Guy. This is just not the case, you can fake being a Bad Boy as much as a Nice Guy.
A True Honest Man admits that he's a mix of both. He respects and shows affection like a Nice Guy but he's honest and open about his own selfish desires like a Bad Boy.
Guys, just be honest on your dates. When you get to her house says, "we are going to go for dinner at xxxxxxx ". Ok, then once you get to dinner say, "ok, now we are going to go to my place and have sex. " How's that for honesty. See what they say.
Teasing women and teasing guy friends all have the same intention... having fun and building bonds. That's something that's taken me a long time to learn.
"Ultimately you?re ?acting nice? around any beautiful woman simply because you?re trying to manipulate them. You likely don?t even realize it."
Exactly! Trying to win over a woman with his supposed charm. I've seen and been through that and it's too good to be true. I think, "Something is off. Can't wait til I find out what it is!" It becomes a challenge in itself, and when I find out a character flaw that ironically he tried to cover up, it pushes me away.
Bravo! Although, I wouldn't say that all those characteristics mean he's a "nice" guy... I'd say he's just a big weenie who can't handle a relationship. Or has a domineering beezy of a gf. My boyfriend is very sensitive to my wants and needs, but is able to put his foot down when need be. I'm sure there are moments where I become a smidge controlling, or he needs to make a decision (like your comment on picking a place to eat- #10 SO TRUE!)
'You think that you can trick her into liking you by pretending to be that Romantic Hero who treats his woman like a fairytale princess except you demand her attention, affection, sex and love in return for your payments.' - What if you DON'T expect anything from her and you really want to be the Romantic Hero? Because you want her to have the best. And you want to be the one to give it to her.
Maybe it's just me, but the idea of 'getting the girl' is so misconstreued. Bad boys don't often 'get the girl'... They get the sex, but not the girl. Big Diff between the two. Also, Bad boys have moments where they appear nicer that most 'nice guys', and it's usually after they're done pounding on them that they turn into romantic, sweet men. That's why women get fooled into believing that they are with a nice guy and stay with him for fear that they will be ridiculed for leaving. Continued...
Im reading this thinking no way we (girls) can be this rediculous. But the more I think about it (I have 4 sisters ages 25-29) we are a lot like this. I don't believe we ONLY like as$h0les by no means. However, I can say for sure that with 5 out 5 of us the super nice, push-over, anything you say dear type of guys don't last long. I'm a strong girl and definitely the biggest as$h0le in my marriage but he
is sweet and generous without being my slave. He loves me and shows it, without being a b?+?h
What jdcpa wrote is better advice than all of your points, but you deserve credit for the article itself as well. It's filled with points that a lot of guys are constantly screwing up on, but you take it to the extreme. Like jdcpa said, "it presupposes that the guy is a weak spineless pushover, and that his girlfriend is this super-hot object of genetic perfection with an over-inflated sense of self-worth that causes her to be a b*tch."
they listened to GOLDEN rles in the first place (buy flowers, be nice etc). So, although your golden rules do work better than others, still, that's all they are, indoctrination. PUA stuff too works, a massive bunch of rules, effective, but it instills hate in women, too. So be yourself works, you do have to teach what be yourself mean or how to get there once you don't even remener who yourself is. I bet neanderthal men didn't have many 'rules '. Still, they f***ed, and here we are.
Relationship between people existed before plumbers learnt to fix leaks. Being yourself is not bullsh*t. The problem is the self one identifies withm which is the one digested from society. I disagree with nobody is born with understanding social dynamics. In part you learn, true, but in part is you learn bullsh*t about social dynamics. So yes, I get hitching when people arrives with golden rules on dating and women, because the reason many have no clue on how to interact with women is because
But don't live in FEAR that "omg, she's going to be a total b*tch!". Every girl in the world tells herself she's better than "her". That's not being a "b*tch", that's trying to keep good self-esteem from being reminded by TV & Magazines all day that you look nothing like a Victoria's Secret model. Most (not "many", not "some", but "MOST") girls are really nice; ESPECIALLY the ones that LOOK GOOD, because they're a lot less angry for not feeling insecure or jealous of other girls all the time.
So, just look at that cute stripper across the bar, and go up to her. The worst that can happen is that she's looking for easy tips (lots of bills & flatter w/o having to dance too much). On average, you'll discover she's a prostitute, who has a going-rate of 1-3 months of dating. But maybe, as you TALK to her and GET TO KNOW HER, you'll discover she finished the MD/JD program at John Hopkins, built a school for orphans in Africa, and is a big fan of ice hockey & doggy style.
But if you do the mistake of treating a girl you barely even know, as the prized lioness life partner you want to be in a relationship with and call your girlfriend; you've symbolically communicated that you value her highly (w/o even knowing her!) And what can a reasonable person assume about s/o who values you highly w/o even knowing you? 1. They just want sex, 2. with you, 3. badly, 4. and aren't valuable themselves, 5. so have nothing to lose & everything to gain, 6. flattering but no thanks
And the reason you can treat her like she's "nothing" (in a relative sense, not in a literal sense) is because you don't NEED her if she's just a stripper. All she can offer you is orgasm assistance, and you don't NEED her assistance, you can do that yourself. But you can offer her emotional comfort, financial security, and the chance to "marry" you and permanently commission her own personal workhorse to bring her singles so that she never has to really work in this lifetime.
But the worst thing you can do, is take a stripper or prostitute, and bestow upon her the title of "possible/potential girlfriend"! Why? Because she's not ugly? Is that how low your standards are when it comes to women? Are you looking for a vagina with nice accessories as your gf, or a woman? Do you want a useless and dependent parasitic sex toy, or a strong/powerful, productive, and independent complete woman as your gf? Until she proves to you that's she's that woman; she's just a stripper.
You can go over there, and be the guy who opens up his wallet and lets her take all the singles out, give her all your money after just one dance, tip her slowly, very slowly, or just not at all. You'll notice how if you don't ever tip a stripper, she'll leave. The worst that can happen, is you discover this beautiful girl is just an other stripper who can't dance a single dollar or emotional reaction out of you; OR, has some other value to her besides her looks!
So if what's stopping guys from going up to that smoking hot girl across the bar surrounded by all her girlfriends is the fear that she's going to be an arrogant stuck-up b*tch whose full of herself and feels she deserves the world because of her looks; remember, she's just a stripper. Her only value as a human being is to dance and make you sexually happy. Unless she's doing something that makes her over $70,000 a year, she's looking at you like just an other customer.
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Sounds like you got most of those from some lame website or book on how to pick up women. Some of those points will work on women, I will give you those, but the one that will not work on any woman is reason 9, ya right there is no way in hell you can forget your gfs bday or wifes bday, not take her out and just say listen up bitch that's how it is, I am setting boundaries. You can do that but you won't have a girlfriend for very long if you do. I bet that your single.
Sounds like someone's a PUA in the house. The only real reason is that "nice" guys have a habit of turning off their sexuality around women while "bad" guys never really do. You can be a kind guy and be sexual. But hey if this is what works for you and it gets you the girls you like, go do your thing.
I love that you've put a lot of emphasis on honesty in this article which is the main rule I base my own morals on. But I fear some who read this will think that a Bad Boy who only cares about his own interests is more honest than a Nice Guy. This is just not the case, you can fake being a Bad Boy as much as a Nice Guy.
A True Honest Man admits that he's a mix of both. He respects and shows affection like a Nice Guy but he's honest and open about his own selfish desires like a Bad Boy.
Guys, just be honest on your dates. When you get to her house says, "we are going to go for dinner at xxxxxxx ". Ok, then once you get to dinner say, "ok, now we are going to go to my place and have sex. " How's that for honesty. See what they say.
Teasing women and teasing guy friends all have the same intention... having fun and building bonds. That's something that's taken me a long time to learn.
"Ultimately you?re ?acting nice? around any beautiful woman simply because you?re trying to manipulate them. You likely don?t even realize it."
Exactly! Trying to win over a woman with his supposed charm. I've seen and been through that and it's too good to be true. I think, "Something is off. Can't wait til I find out what it is!" It becomes a challenge in itself, and when I find out a character flaw that ironically he tried to cover up, it pushes me away.
Bravo! Although, I wouldn't say that all those characteristics mean he's a "nice" guy... I'd say he's just a big weenie who can't handle a relationship. Or has a domineering beezy of a gf. My boyfriend is very sensitive to my wants and needs, but is able to put his foot down when need be. I'm sure there are moments where I become a smidge controlling, or he needs to make a decision (like your comment on picking a place to eat- #10 SO TRUE!)
'You think that you can trick her into liking you by pretending to be that Romantic Hero who treats his woman like a fairytale princess except you demand her attention, affection, sex and love in return for your payments.' - What if you DON'T expect anything from her and you really want to be the Romantic Hero? Because you want her to have the best. And you want to be the one to give it to her.
Maybe it's just me, but the idea of 'getting the girl' is so misconstreued. Bad boys don't often 'get the girl'... They get the sex, but not the girl. Big Diff between the two. Also, Bad boys have moments where they appear nicer that most 'nice guys', and it's usually after they're done pounding on them that they turn into romantic, sweet men. That's why women get fooled into believing that they are with a nice guy and stay with him for fear that they will be ridiculed for leaving. Continued...
Im reading this thinking no way we (girls) can be this rediculous. But the more I think about it (I have 4 sisters ages 25-29) we are a lot like this. I don't believe we ONLY like as$h0les by no means. However, I can say for sure that with 5 out 5 of us the super nice, push-over, anything you say dear type of guys don't last long. I'm a strong girl and definitely the biggest as$h0le in my marriage but he
is sweet and generous without being my slave. He loves me and shows it, without being a b?+?h
What jdcpa wrote is better advice than all of your points, but you deserve credit for the article itself as well. It's filled with points that a lot of guys are constantly screwing up on, but you take it to the extreme. Like jdcpa said, "it presupposes that the guy is a weak spineless pushover, and that his girlfriend is this super-hot object of genetic perfection with an over-inflated sense of self-worth that causes her to be a b*tch."
they listened to GOLDEN rles in the first place (buy flowers, be nice etc). So, although your golden rules do work better than others, still, that's all they are, indoctrination. PUA stuff too works, a massive bunch of rules, effective, but it instills hate in women, too. So be yourself works, you do have to teach what be yourself mean or how to get there once you don't even remener who yourself is. I bet neanderthal men didn't have many 'rules '. Still, they f***ed, and here we are.
Relationship between people existed before plumbers learnt to fix leaks. Being yourself is not bullsh*t. The problem is the self one identifies withm which is the one digested from society. I disagree with nobody is born with understanding social dynamics. In part you learn, true, but in part is you learn bullsh*t about social dynamics. So yes, I get hitching when people arrives with golden rules on dating and women, because the reason many have no clue on how to interact with women is because
But don't live in FEAR that "omg, she's going to be a total b*tch!". Every girl in the world tells herself she's better than "her". That's not being a "b*tch", that's trying to keep good self-esteem from being reminded by TV & Magazines all day that you look nothing like a Victoria's Secret model. Most (not "many", not "some", but "MOST") girls are really nice; ESPECIALLY the ones that LOOK GOOD, because they're a lot less angry for not feeling insecure or jealous of other girls all the time.
So, just look at that cute stripper across the bar, and go up to her. The worst that can happen is that she's looking for easy tips (lots of bills & flatter w/o having to dance too much). On average, you'll discover she's a prostitute, who has a going-rate of 1-3 months of dating. But maybe, as you TALK to her and GET TO KNOW HER, you'll discover she finished the MD/JD program at John Hopkins, built a school for orphans in Africa, and is a big fan of ice hockey & doggy style.
But if you do the mistake of treating a girl you barely even know, as the prized lioness life partner you want to be in a relationship with and call your girlfriend; you've symbolically communicated that you value her highly (w/o even knowing her!) And what can a reasonable person assume about s/o who values you highly w/o even knowing you? 1. They just want sex, 2. with you, 3. badly, 4. and aren't valuable themselves, 5. so have nothing to lose & everything to gain, 6. flattering but no thanks
And the reason you can treat her like she's "nothing" (in a relative sense, not in a literal sense) is because you don't NEED her if she's just a stripper. All she can offer you is orgasm assistance, and you don't NEED her assistance, you can do that yourself. But you can offer her emotional comfort, financial security, and the chance to "marry" you and permanently commission her own personal workhorse to bring her singles so that she never has to really work in this lifetime.
But the worst thing you can do, is take a stripper or prostitute, and bestow upon her the title of "possible/potential girlfriend"! Why? Because she's not ugly? Is that how low your standards are when it comes to women? Are you looking for a vagina with nice accessories as your gf, or a woman? Do you want a useless and dependent parasitic sex toy, or a strong/powerful, productive, and independent complete woman as your gf? Until she proves to you that's she's that woman; she's just a stripper.
You can go over there, and be the guy who opens up his wallet and lets her take all the singles out, give her all your money after just one dance, tip her slowly, very slowly, or just not at all. You'll notice how if you don't ever tip a stripper, she'll leave. The worst that can happen, is you discover this beautiful girl is just an other stripper who can't dance a single dollar or emotional reaction out of you; OR, has some other value to her besides her looks!
So if what's stopping guys from going up to that smoking hot girl across the bar surrounded by all her girlfriends is the fear that she's going to be an arrogant stuck-up b*tch whose full of herself and feels she deserves the world because of her looks; remember, she's just a stripper. Her only value as a human being is to dance and make you sexually happy. Unless she's doing something that makes her over $70,000 a year, she's looking at you like just an other customer.