Let me say this for all of the nice guys out there who are thinking about becoming one of the coveted sexy jerks- being an asshole does not work as advertised.
Not if you're actually an asshole, anyways.
Girl put her leg around me during a movie, then later that night told me about her several past partners.
I told her she sounds like she would screw anything with a pulse.
She threw a lamp at me.
Girls see me big-dick my way to a position of power in class/work.
Everyone respects me and does as I ask.
Girls are too intimidated to approach me, or see me as a superior.
Maybe attract a girl who is really interested in an asshole (rare).
I relax and treat her as an equal.
She gets bored and leaves.
Women tend to go for average men, and sometimes they are vaguely asshole flavored men, but very rarely will they go for a real asshole.
And those who STAY with an asshole (someone who abuses them for instance) are usually hoping the nice guy flavor they tasted at the start will come back somehow.
I can't really change that much of who I am. Speaking my mind and not letting people step on me is just my personality.
It is good to learn these things, but I am writing this to tell you prospective jerks that being pure ass isn't all it's cracked up to be.