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Why Nice Guys Struggle To Get Women (Page 4)

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  • slayerfdeath
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    Sorry but that is personally rubbish i say be yourself dont be what is meant to br a man lol strong independent this is a statement from the past were all unique people be ur self and u will find someone who loves u for u as for girls who go for the bad boys its nothing to do with instinct or the such its just that little girls not a women they have no idea on a relationship just want someone that looks good once not a girl and a women and the nice caring bloke get plenty

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  • anuragk033
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    Because girls make them a secondary choice in case if something gets wrong their current boyfriend plus they keep them for emotional support and nice guys act nice and wait them but...

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    • BehindTheMist
      BehindTheMist
      +1 y

      Aw... this breaks my heart. :'(

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    • stevemeh
      stevemeh
      +1 y

      @BehindTheMist dont make it any less true, this why putting women in the fuckoffzone after she puts a guy a in the friendzone is becoming a common theme these days.

      Women wanna use niceguys as emotional tampons and then fuck the total assholes and expect the niceguys to stay nice and stick around.

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    • BehindTheMist
      BehindTheMist
      +1 y

      @stevemeh I'm just saying that it's sad how some girls only view nice guys as a "back-up" option. Not everyone is like that. Where I live, most everyone is a gentleman, and we'll always prefer them over anyone else. Always.

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    • stevemeh
      stevemeh
      +1 y

      @BehindTheMist where is this then?

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    • BehindTheMist
      BehindTheMist
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      @stevemeh Idaho

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  • John_Doesnt
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    A woman needs to be spanked on the ass and told "I want you naked and I want it good."
    That's all that any guy needs to know. Also try this pick up line "I find the most erotic part of a woman is the boobie"

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  • shi-shi
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    I'm sorry, 'Nice guys' but you're never as nice as you think you are.

    If you struggle to find a girlfriend, then perhaps you should try to better yourself, rather than just blaming women.

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    • Robertcw
      Robertcw
      +1 y

      Care to explain? They do become bitter over time. But I assure you they start out as kind hearted individuals who really do care. However, after a while they no longer care the same way after getting shit on.

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    • shi-shi
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      Nice guys always say things like "she only dates assholes while I'm here being so nice to her" which is not only undermining her right to choose who to date, but also implying that she owes him a date. Like the only reason these "nice guys" act nice is because they think they might get sex.

      I've had so many guys acting like perfect gentlemen, but as soon as it becomes apparent that I don't want a date they turn extremely hostile and sour.

      If you're a nice guy, you don't need to tell people how nice you are.

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    • Robertcw
      Robertcw
      +1 y

      It’s not implying anything. But it is a question of why weren’t they the ones that got chosen? Why is it that the other guy got chosen?

      It’s not about undermining choice. It’s about figuring out why the other person was chosen.

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  • Anonymous
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    +1 y

    one of the most rational and to the point articles here on the topic. especially by us pinkies.

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    • Anonymous
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      and 4) the timing is off, or you are not calibrating with her well. or come of as too meek. if good is not done well its not good.

      Reply
  • buttcrackjoe
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    Explorer Age: 35
    +1 y

    I would categorize a nice guy in this case to be clingy, needy and at the woman’s beck and call at all times. She does not even have to lift a finger to seduce him, he is easy pickings and we humans put little value in things we can easily attain.

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  • WhoDatGuy
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    Women don't know what they want. They say one thing but do another.
    Since I went mgtow women have been way more interested.
    I haven't changed physically.
    It's the emotional unavailability they desire

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    • emmily2396
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      Nah, it's manliness. Look at the movie I gave as an example. Maximus was alost perfect.
      By showing they don't care assholes look more manly... because that shows that theiy are independent and confident... those are the traits girls like, not the fact that they are unavailable. You can exhibit those qualities in a positive manner.

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    • slayerfdeath
      slayerfdeath
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      Like u say little girls like not a women

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    • emmily2396
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      @slayerfdeath no, women like those qualities too. Why would I look for a man and want one if he acted exactly like me? just for sex? no...

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    • emmily2396
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      and i gave you the reason "nice" guys struggle with women, if you want to accept it fine, if you don't, it is just as fine... i don't get why guys get defensive... you will struggle with the same situations over and over again if you don't accept the reason it happens. So, you can either work on yourself or refuse to stay friends with such women.

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    • slayerfdeath
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      I have plenty female friends and have no issue relationships and im a nice guy and would never change just my ecperience and manyis that womem want the nice guy onne there 25+ and not a little girl anymore and i just find most what u say very inaccurate likr say its only little girls that have not grown up want the bad boys so to speak lol

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    • emmily2396
      emmily2396
      +1 y

      @slayerfdeath dude, i didn't say i want bad boys, but real men... make the difference. No woman likes cowards that are not trustworthy, that cannot defend themselves and don't strive to do anything with their life. Of course grown woman won't date an asshole, but that doesn't men she would pick a "nice" guy over a real man if she was given the chance to pick between those 3 types.

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  • NYCQuestions1976
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    Since my divorce, I just want sex. I'm a full-time single parent and I work full time. I don't have time for anything else.

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  • Anonymous
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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JYlPhFj_3T0
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  • candycanehearts
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    lol as soon as I hear ‘nice guys’ I just automatically asume they’re a dick

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    • candycanehearts
      candycanehearts
      +1 y

      Hahaha no offense ‘nice guys’😏😏

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  • Nivinxus
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    Yoda Age: 33
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    SERIOUSLY, what the fck is a nice guy? I keep hearing this term being thrown around and I'm like... is a guy that is nice looking or something?

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    • Robertcw
      Robertcw
      +1 y

      It’s a word for guys that never do anything wrong but still aren’t chosen in the end. They’re left wondering why the other guy was chosen instead of them.

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    • MisterAnon69
      MisterAnon69
      +1 y

      @Robertcw lol, that is NOT what it means.
      Nice Guy: Internet slang for a guy who feels entitleed to sex or a relationship for a girl just because he was "nice" or courteous to her. Usually bitter or angry towards girls who rejected him and guys in relationships they deem as, "not worthy" of being with a girl.

      Which is something a real man is to ALL women. So expecting something back is just childish and desperate.

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    • MisterAnon69
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      Nice Guy: Internet slang for a guy who feels entitleed to sex or a relationship for a girl just because he was "nice" or courteous to her. Usually bitter or angry towards girls who rejected him and guys in relationships they deem as, "not worthy" of being with a girl.

      A real man is respectful to ALL women who deserve it (almost all). So expecting something back is just childish and desperate. They are usually younger guys under 30 too which makes it sad to think they waste these years being bitter instead of working towards self-improvement.

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    • Afrochick
      Afrochick
      +1 y

      Incels

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    • Robertcw
      Robertcw
      +1 y

      @Afrochick Regardless of that I still think my definition is right. This comnent isn't very useful. And, a take explaining women preferences essentially describes the 'nice guy' as ideal (according to my definition above) so I'm very confused.

      There's something you're not telling us in all this and it probably has to do with the fact that for whatever reason biologically females are unaware of their sexual arousal consciously. In particular, "The authors speculate that women’s conscious evaluations of their own subjective sexual arousal may be more important than their objective levels of physiological arousal when perceiving sexual stimuli (Gillath et al., 2007)." And, prior research shows women are unable to detect when they become objectively physiologically aroused, and tgat tgeir subjective levels of arousal may even contradict with their objective physiological arousal.

      This partially accounts for odd female behavior.

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  • atheistaredumb
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    Xper 5 Age: 36
    +1 y

    ill make this real simple
    BE HOT

    that's it
    the guy could be a fucking retard it would not matter
    as long as he is hot

    THE REST DOES NOT MATTER
    women are kids they never grew up

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    • bladedshard
      bladedshard
      +1 y

      Have to agree. Appearance is the first thing we see from others and if she doesn't like the way you look nothing else matters you will remain a friend.

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  • hellacray
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    +1 y

    How exactly do assholes show confidence? By being loud and rude all the time?

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    • alexwest99
      alexwest99
      +1 y

      Fuckboys are confident because they don't care what anyone else think and just behave as they want, good or bad. Which apparently is very attractive...

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  • Cyril233
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    Xper 3 Age: 26
    +1 y

    It's easy work for me because it sorts out the stupid females from the smart ones.

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  • Malik00
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    +1 y

    I wonder if you understand that it's exhausting to be hard all the time. This only really works if you allow a man to show weakness every now and then.

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    • emmily2396
      emmily2396
      +1 y

      Did I say you always have tolook strong? No i didn't

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    • Malik00
      Malik00
      +1 y

      it was the impression you gave though.

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    • emmily2396
      emmily2396
      +1 y

      The problem is that nice guys almost never look strong, not that they do not always do. I actually hate fake people and when someone acts like they are emotionless, so no I do not want someone who acts like a robot and is never affected by anything, but I do not want someone who is more sensitive than me either.

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    • Malik00
      Malik00
      +1 y

      I mean you never know, some guys may just be real nice and sensitive, but are super reliable when push comes to shove.

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    • slayerfdeath
      slayerfdeath
      +1 y

      Poorman ur never find a women ur age with all them list things u want so ur grow old alone u need to be realistic dude and ur clearly not

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  • Anonymous
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    (36-45)
    +1 y

    Yeah I got given the "I really fucking like you but I need to go and be reckless" speech. I wanted to keep her in my life, so agreed to "keeping the friendship" haven't heard a word since.

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    • Sixgun77
      Sixgun77
      +1 y

      Never do that

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    • Anonymous
      Opinion Owner
      +1 y

      Yeah, learnt the hard way there, never again!

      Reply
  • gunducci
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    Xper 5 Age: 36
    +1 y

    Humor is a handy tool to have. Being a dick in general is not going to get anyone anywhere. But yes, this does clear up a lot of things.
    Good take, raw and unapologetic. Nice one.

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  • AngryNoctis
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    +1 y

    This take is awful. Men in movies can't be compared to men in the real world or the internet. That's like me saying every girl should be like a female lead in a movie because she's so reserved and stands by her man it's bullshit. You're the reason people are spreading this mgtow crap like herpes... soooo thanks?

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    • emmily2396
      emmily2396
      +1 y

      what example do you want me to give? plus it's the character that is an example, not his exact behaviour.

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  • jaxthedog
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    Xper 5 Age: 29
    +1 y

    I've heard about this book called no more Mr nice guy that's help guys shed this nice guy persona (I have it to) I've always put off getting it but after reading this I'm buying it now.

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    • Dondelino
      Dondelino
      +1 y

      My brother read it and completely changed his perspective after that.

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  • BronzedAdonis
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    Master Age: 33
    +1 y
    315 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

    generally most young women are too immature to appreciate what they have to offer

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