How I know she's into me: It's all in the eyes!

[Anonymous]

As a man, it's always been hard to catch onto a woman's actions and behavior. I know it, we all know it, because we've all been there.

You meet a woman who you're instantly into, you spend days if not weeks building up the courage to make a move, and when you do, she just wants to be friends.

You're constantly told that you need to build rapport with her, that you need to take your time, that she just needs to figure out whether she even likes you that way or not - it's a waste of time:

It's all in the eyes.

Over the last 3 or 4 years, I've been working on myself (looks and personality), and I can tell you with almost 100% certainty that if a woman *feels* that way about you, she'll give you the look.

What do I mean by the look? I mean the lingering, enticing look a woman gives that creeps up every once and a while in movies.

You need to pay attention. I can tell you from my recent experience that women will definitely give it, no matter if they're shy, extrovert, or somewhere in the middle. It's also subconscious.

The next step up from this looking is "orbiting".

What I mean is that a woman will hang around you (linger) on purpose in the hopes that you'll make a move by talking to her.

[Slartybartfast]

I can't explain how I hated this f###ed up "game" when I was dating.

Without this craziness finding a real relationship would be easier for men and women.

How many women exhibiting this exact behavior were just toying with the guy to get a rise? How many men approached to be shot down harshly because he misinterpreted the foolish game?

How many men stopped trying because the frustration this foolish ambiguity created?

How many men and women lived lives of loneliness because of this foolishness?

Stop playing childish , selfish, and STUPID games!

[myTake Owner]

Well, you miss every shot you don't take. If you're turned down, you smile, make a joke, and move on. If you can't do that then dating isn't the thing for you.

I can't count the number of times I've asked a girl out only to be told no, despite all the "signs". It doesn't really matter to me anymore. Sure, it hurts, especially if I was really into her, but at the end of the day, there's always someone else.

Besides, wouldn't you want to meet someone who was just as into you as you were into them, if not more?

[Slartybartfast]

I stopped asking at thirty for this reason. I know many guys who did the same. Glad YOU like it, I'd rather eat glass.

[Slartybartfast]

Oh and every time I hear "you miss every shot you don't take," I reply "I've been shot at, I prefer it to this"

Honestly I'd rather get unnecessary dental work.

[robocop666]

your learning but your body language skills can improve more

[myTake Owner]

Have you got any tips of your own to share?

[robocop666]

just get better at body language. I can spot interest a mile away. study it bombards body language is cool. Sadly so few people teach it

[myTake Owner]

Come on, I'm sure there are a few things you can share...

[robocop666]

well I understand it naturally and can't explain it. Just study it and it will come.

[CrazyGirl2]

This is so true, my brother is very… ewwwf “successful “ with the girls, and even I can say that he’s very handsome, but it seems he never strikes out, ever and I’ve overheard many a times his friends asking “how he dose it, how does he never get turned down,

[CrazyGirl2]

(Oops accidentally hit submit)
He said it’s all in the eyes,” After hearing that, if! If I’m out somewhere and I’m with my friends of even on my own, I watch what my yes are doing! The last thing I want is to give off false “vibes”. But ever since then, I’ve noticed that I whenever I see a guy I like I do get very flirty with my eyes! So if you see a woman and she looks I don’t know, almost like she is extremtnt at her there

[gingerwolf08]

It's how she acts around you

[Guy13]

No doubt and the smile.

[StormChaser838]

It's very simple , give all your attention to her girl friend beside her or another girl in front of her and see the reaction on her, u will know in one minute if she cares for u. It's the unmasking trick. You must remember a girl poses nothing of tangible asset value. ( her looks, her outfit, all are fickle things), Girls are the most insecure of people. The problem is guys are the most immature of people and don't know how to strip a person apart. Play on her insecurity, that's the key. At the same time show uber security in your actions, to attract her. Show that the other girls are gaining on her for getting ur ass , that works every time. But also remember, a girls life is not easy, they have many crosses to bare, that's why they act the way they do. So be kind and understanding to them. Remember, treat her as a person, not a girl or boy etc., treat her as a valued human being. Remember, if you are a guy who needs a relationship to get a fuck , you are a loser and will always get screwed. Secure your piece of ass first. Then look for a relationship for relationship sake. Then everything will be easier. The reason you have a problem is you want to get laid and the relationship is just a load to that end. That's what is the main problem. If that's the problem, be honest and go for a hookup not a relationship. Be fair to the girl, she is a person, just like you, never use a person.

Getting a girl to like you is very easy. The hard part is keeping her happy once in the relationship, that is the hard impossible part, she will just sit on ur brains. I always fuckup that part. I am the most giving type of guy, very understanding, resourceful, confident, loyal etc, etc, I only fail like a fuck in being able to give women the constant attention they need. I am a very driven and a workaholic type, and that makes it impossible to give all the time they need. Even the mature women who understand my situation, still find the attention part hard to take. But I face this problem with all female relationships, even the plutonic ones, with my mom, sis, all the same problem. And they know that I am very kind and spoil my women, therefore they tantrum like shit, because of the lack of attention, that's the main problem I face, but getting a babe is easy.

[Anonymous]

So that is why so many people annoy me in public? LOL must all be into me since they just gravitate around me all the damn time like flies. Not being rude I don't hate people just bump into me and every second.

I don't understand though why people hope someone will talk to them... but won't talk themselves? I hardly talk to anyone and most people don't either in public. If you pester someone they might say excuse me a few times and then get annoyed.

But I really don't pay any attention anyways. I might see someone a number of times but I don't know the reason for doing it

[he-takes-a-part]

i have been the victim of such acts myriads of time in my life but I don't know why i was ignorant to thema and today i regret all were beauty fuck. even today i have one who stares and has been doing this since months but now she doesn't stares that much I don't know what should i do i at least deserve a BJ from her

[Bethany22]

Yes, I've heard that men are able to tell just from the eyes. I didn't know that it took some time for them to catch on to it, though.

[Shiningtempest]

If a woman hangs around me on purpose in the hopes that I'll make move by talking to her, then she's a pathetic coward.

[wEiRdG]

Women have nothing to say, which confirms your point is true, well done and thanks ;-)

[wolfgirl879]

in some way yes, they might look at you nervously or maybe if they are confident give a lot of eye contact or maybe the eyes dilates

[FiguringItOutGirl]

This is all spot on.

[Whatever2929292]

Don't people just seem to get more annoyed with you just hanging around them when you don't know them though? Why not just talk to someone more often then not they aren't even paying attention and aren't really that into you anyways

[rabbitzzz]

Yah makes sense.

[Stevenli]

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