Is it a turn off if a guy swears a lot, but you can tell that he is intelligent?

[Anonymous]

A lot of people say that frequent swearing is indicative of a lack of education. If I swear a lot, but also make it evident that I'm a fairly intelligent guy, is it a turn off to women?

Turn off

Doesn't matter

A total of 111 votes were cast: 81 girls and 30 guys. See detailed results

[DodgersGM]

I think the tone of voice and the intention of the swearing is what really counts.

I personally don't mind swearing at all if it's more casual and not used every other word. Sometimes it can even make me feel like the person is being more real with me.

An example of swearing that doesn't bother me in the slightest would be, "fuck! I forgot my debit card at home!"

An example of swearing that wouldn't fly with me would be, "fuck you you fucking piece of shit!!!"

[indian_empress_91]

this! lol

[Bullfish]

If they judge you about how much your swear then they doesn't deserve you.I know it's not nice, and I avoid doing it when I meet someone new (I swear a lot), but it's not the only thing that describes a person's character.So, don't worry. :)

[Anonymous]

I'm not turned off by swearing.
I'm a potty mouth, I grew up around potty mouths... it really isn't a big deal to me at all.

Now, I do have tact and know when it's NOT appropriate to use certain words, but otherwise... just me and him talking, I'll never get "turned off" by him cussing.
And I will want him to use some cuss words in the bedroom, haha! That's just fun...

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MH!

[indian_empress_91]

I don't mind if a person swears, just don't swear at ME and I really would be extremely turned off if it was like a curse word for every two sentences. I had a female friend who would curse like that, she was a nice friend but i end the friendship because of it, it kept catching me off guard the things she'd curse for

[MaskedSanity]

It depends.

Both me and my bf swear a lot, but not excessively. It's casual swearing.

Some people swear angrily all the damn time, and I mean all the time - they come across as always pissed off about something.
That's the kind of swearing people tend to see as a turn off and lack of intelligence.

[smokahontas]

Gosh, It is one of the biggest turn offs when a guy swears a lot. I have nothing against swearing and many other things. But when something is used or said excessively, it is always a turn off. I do not care how intelligent someone is, id you use a couple swear words in a sentence in multiple occasions, it is just unattractive.

[kittyforlife]

I would be a hypocrite if i said i was against it. I am a very intelligent person, but I drop the f bomb all the time! I grew up in car shops (and if you've ever been in one, you'd know that the mechanics cuss up a storm) so its something i've come to find as normal.

[harakiri]

It depends... I swear a lot too. But I tend to mainly swear at home...especially with my sister around. I try to keep it at a minimum in private. What kind of swear words do you use? And WHY do you swear?

[Asker]

Why?
Emphasis.
Swearing has the ability to drive the point home better than a non-curse word.

[harakiri]

I agree with you. So you use fuck and shit, right? Not like...bitch and cunt? These last two are a huge turn off.

[Asker]

I use bitch and cunt rather often, but never in the presence of a woman :)

[harakiri]

Huge turn-off :/ Just knowing that you use cunt at all is killing me a little :(

[Asker]

You've said it infinitely more times than I have in this exchange >:(

[harakiri]

I know, but I typed it... I never say it out loud :(

[Execu]

Interesting, you would think with all this hate on guys who swear, pretty much everyone with a construction/heavy equipment operator job would be single. Especially since "move it over a cunt hair" is a common expression, even in the government haha.

[Asker]

Typing online is the equivalent to speaking out loud in the real word. I used to think you were pretty cool, Harakiri, but that was before I knew what a foul mouth you had. For shame :/

[harakiri]

I didn't know that lol, I don't often frequent construction sites... I just have a problem with that word, I think 99% of women do. Those men are probably smart enough to bring that language out in public.

[harakiri]

Lmao, I am not cool at all. I'm glad you've finally realized this :P

[harakiri]

minimum in public*** oops.

[Asker]

You don't frequent construction sites? You're missing out.

[harakiri]

Dude. Next time I see one, I will totally hang out there :P

[Asker]

Who knows, maybe you'll pick up some valuable information from them that'll help you on your MCAT :p

[harakiri]

:o :o :o :o :o :o :o... ... ... are you the correlation is not causation man?

[Asker]

It's also not necessarily NOT causation either :p

[harakiri]

LOL. Of course :P NOW STOP SAYING THE C-WORD! IT HURTS MY FEELINGS! :P

[Asker]

"Correlation"?

[harakiri]

LOL. NO! You know what I'm referring to... it rhymes with bunt. :P

[Asker]

You mean the word that you say?

[harakiri]

I DO NOT say it :P I typed it! IT'S DIFFERENT :P PS. going to sleeeeeep in like two minutes

[Asker]

Same thing!

PS- goodnight cu...

te lady :)

[harakiri]

LOL. Thou art terrible :P

[emzy-89]

I don't find it particularly attractive if someone swears alot. I know a lot of guys whose parents have taught them not to swear when they're around women, which I must say I do appreciate. If I hear the occasional word however, I don't worry about it.

[Anonymous]

To me, A Turn-off

If he's around his friends, I can understand. If he is upset then I can understand, But I wouldn't like it very much if he swore a lot when he was casually speaking to me. And definitely turned off if he did it in public around others: Strangers, mothers, grandmothers, children. I'd be a bit embarrassed.

[princesswitch]

It's a huge turn-off. It makes him seem immature and trashy.

[rgb008]

Huge turn off. I wouldn't want to date a guy who swears a lot.

[sherlocked]

No if its like sometimes, its ok.
But yeah too much of anything gets annoying.

[Girlinfo]

I think it's funny and cute as long as he's not swearing at me lol

[meibay313]

If he swears a lot when he hangs out with his buddies thats fine but if he swears all the time then that would be a huge turn off.

[musicbrain5]

Turn off. I think it reflects pretty badly on somebody if they swear too much.

[rotinaj10]

Guys really shouldn't swear in front of ladies... But it's a bad fucking habit.

[NoblesseOblige]

Nah. Most really aggressive executive types swear all the time. Richer = more asshole :)

[Anonymous]

I don't care I curse too as long as he doesn't do it in front of people he shouldn't.

[Anonymous]

I cannot stand people that swear, it's one thing if you're in pain or mad to drop some f bombs but it's ridiculous seeing young ones saying the f word every other word..

[swiftsaver602]

I mean…I swear like a sailor so it's cool lol

[Asker]

Fucccck yeah!

[swiftsaver602]

lol. And judging by the other girls' answers apparently my girl friends and I are all sailors? I wrongly assumed most people had potty mouths

[Drooogie4]

If it's super excessive, its kinda annoying

[kangaru2]

Regardless of gender it doesn't sound nice

[missalbanian92]

Turn off if it's every other word

[Execu]

^ I like you. I don't even notice it most of the time but very rarely are people that bad lol.

[knotme]

It all depends