Space doesn't actually mean space from most women. Not all - but most. "I need space" usually means A or B from your poll. Girls don't need space. We are content being with the guy they adore 24/7. That is, if she actually adores you. Women are constantly complaining that their guys don't pay enough attention, don't take them out, are always out with the guys, don't treat them the way they used to in the beginning...So if they actually did all these things, why the hell would they want space? Hell, they'd never want to let you go! Space means you did something to displease her and she's beginning to have second thoughts. What is she planning to do with this space? Just be single for a while? Date other people? Think about where things are really going with the two of you? No matter what she chooses, it'd make you look rather sad if you had to actually wait around for her to come back (if she ever does). It's kinda like that; "We were on a break" thing on Friends. It's really just a more confusing and tricky version of a breakup. The next time a girl comes to you with the "I need space/a break" bullsh*t, let her know that in love, there is no such thing as a break. You either do, or you don't. If you do, then stick around and try to work things out together, if you don't...well...you know.
"Space" can mean a lot of different things for different girls. You say that you're not clingy and obsessive about the relationship so then we can rule out that she just wants you to stop obsessing. That's good. However, there are many different interpretations of space. I have a feeling that she says she needs space because she having second thoughts about your relationship. Not EVERY girl just wants to sleep around. I would think that she probably needs time to think about some things and it is easier to think when she can rule you out of the picture. Having you there just makes her thoughts more biased and confused. Think of it as she is creating a whole new blank slate and seeing if she can or should fit you back in the picture. All you can do is leave her alone and respect her decision for some time. I would say that you shouldnt call or text her first. She will inevitably come to a consensus and contact you. All you can do is show her how good *you* can be to her and what is good about your relationship.
It's an easy out. They most likely just lost interest in the relationships. It's not that they didn't care about you, but they wanted something different from what they had with you, and saying they wanted space just gave them the freedom to break away.
It's usually that they want to break up fully, but the girl probably still feels very attached to you so they're saying that some day they might want to get back together. When a girl says they need space, MOVE ON. If they come back, they come back. If they don't, move on with your life.
Unfourtunately "i need space" is code for: I'm thinking about or she is already f'n someone else and/or I'm bored with with you. If she happens to call back, don't answer. If she leaves a message then maybe, just maybe call her back in couple days. Best thing for you to do is MOVE ON and delete her number from your phone. Remember women come and go. I agee with helms girl that this excuse or head game is complete b.s. If women really care about the guy thier screwing than they should have the decency and respect to level with them and clarify why. Right? These types of women, to me, are just lying, flaky skanks.
In the words of Jeff Foxworthy "I she is not riding him already, she has taken the saddle out of the barn."
Years ago I've seen on TV somewhere (probably VH1), a female celebrity I don't remember said that "I need space" is complete BS. But I distinctively remember a woman saying this. There is always another reason that she is hiding when she says "I need space." Or she says the partial truth and didn't complete the sentence. She means to say "I need space in my apartment to screw other dudes."
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It can be for so many different reasons.
For example, I had to ask a guy to give me space for a while because I was growing extremely strong feelings and had to protect myself from him and the 15 year friendship we have. We reconnected a few months after a breakup of my 6 year relationship and so the breakup was fresh. We decided to be friends with benefits but I didn't expect to really develop anything for him, yet I did.
I guess he did too, he told me he had feelings and wanted to try out dating but had a hard time expressing them but he kept doing the push and pull game for months. So I drew a boundary and said, look okay let's not talk about us or anything sexual. Let's just be friends. I tried to be friends but recently, I realized I couldn't just be friends. I was still thinking about him nonstop. I was craving him badly. I needed space to clear my mind and to really move on because I kept getting hurt by his behavior and I needed to shift my thinking back to just being his friend.
The gender disparity in the poll is pretty hilarious!
I've heard the "I need space" line before. In my personal experiences, it meant one or more of the following:
"I do not feel ready for the level of emotional commitment you want right now."
"Many things in my life are making me very stressed. Please understand that I can't be as available as you want me to be until I solve these other problems."
"I don't know what I need from you. Space, that sounds good. I need space."
"I am f***ing someone else and lying to you about it."
when we say "I need space," I think we've got to define that it means no regular contact for a non-specific period.
Unless there's a specific, short term reason for a partner needing to see you less often (such as finals for school, seasonal overtime at work, or dad in the hospital), I need space _always_ means A or B. Always.
I'd only modify B to also say, "I POSSIBLY want to break up with you, and want to string you along until I decide."
It means she wants to leave. She could want to fuck someone else or just break up. Either way, "I need space" isn't a good thing. My most recent ex just tried to give me that bullshit the other day. "We need space so that we can mature and when we're ready, we'll come back together"... I told her straight up that breaks don't fucking work and to not insult my intelligence or heart with that shit. I broke up with her fully that day even though she was going to ween herself off later. Nah, don't ever listen to that from a girl. RUN!
This is an "easier" way of breaking up. I've done it and it's been done to me! She cares enough not to tell you the truth that she's lost interest or wants to seek other options, but you deserve the truth don't you?! What she means is she wants space from you...permanent space. You could just be unlucky and not be meeting the right person or...could you be turning women off by how you're acting. Think to see if you have a pattern.
Where the hell do people get this means she is f***ing someone else?
It might mean she wants to break up, but that doesn't mean she's seeing someone else. Maybe you are being too demanding of her time and she really wants space to see how it feels and see if you'll change when you go back to normal.
It means she is not the one. Back off, remain friends and look for "the one".
"The one" will not want space, she wil want time, your time. Go find her.
Good Luck,
James
When you say you need space, usually it's for a reason. Sometimes you've just been spending too much time together recently and you've been neglecting your friends and family. If a girl says that she needs her space, you should listen to her, otherwise you're only going to push her away even more.
When a girl says I need space its cause your sufficating them. Saying I need space is the easiest way to get rid of you without really hurting your feelings cause it leads you to think you still have a chance, when really 20% chance that you really actually do.
I suggest you stop being so clingy. Or find a girl who likes to be clingy herself. Based on astrology signs id definatley not recommend you date girls from the signs of Libra, Aquarius, saggitarius, Taurus, Gemini, -cauase they hate clingy.
My best-boy mate's girlfriend said that to him , and she was sleeping with someone else.
when I say it I mean it as in I need some space to see if this is going to work or not because I don't wanna be with someone whos being a d*** :) !
To me "I need space" means that I still want to be with you, but you need to lay off (ex: quit exsessive texting, hanging out less) but that's just me : )
Well the most of us by that phrase means a polite way to say to you ' our relationship has finished' but still don t get to your own conclusions if you are not sure.
i feel most guys automatically think the reason is that she wants to sleep with other people, I know I most certainly think that's the reason. this is however not always the case I suppose
each girl is different. I have told a guy I needed space, because I honestly did I was confused on what I wanted in life and wasn't sure if he was the right one for me or not. So really it all depends on the girl and how they were acting towards the end of the relationship.
uh, you are hogging her space and suffocating her? like it's gotten a little too intense? lol yup.
She wants to have sex with someone else!
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