I'm confused. She got back with her ex after messing around with me for a month but still seems intrested in me.

[Speediy]

Hey everyone . I started flirting with a girl at work since day one. She had a boyfriend so she broke up with him the first week of us talking because of how mean and bad he was to her. So we end up hanging out doing you know what and things where great for the first month. I saw her at work the day before leaving on her trip but didn’t hangout afterwards.

Now here is where it all gets confusing to me. She gets back from vacation she texts me the next day like usual we talk and kinda make plans for the next day. Next day comes she texts me we’re talking and I ask if we where finally gonna do something. She tells me “im going running with a friend and after that I don't know what I'm doing. So I tell her “ok just forget it then we can hangout another day its cool”. she responds “ LOL that’s gonna be early so maybe we can go out later to so and so place are you down” then I wrote “ yea OK just let me know what time” After me texting her that she never wrote back. Next day comes I don’t here from her. Next day either I worked that night and I end up seeing her at work she went in a sexy dress that she mentioned to me about once with some friends to have some drinks.

She enters and says hi to some coworkers then sits around my area but with her back towards me. 5 to 10 minutes pass by And she comes and says hi to me. She's asks “how are you?” but like if something might be bothering me I reply “I'm good how are you” she replies “ I'm good are you having fun?” I reply “yea its ok tonight how about you?’ she replies “ yes I am” we had another 2 to 3 sentences and she's like “ok I will go back to my friends”. So after that we have walk into each other like 4 times in 2 occasions she doesn’t even look at me and in the other 2 one she grabs my hand and smiles at me and the other time grabs my package and smiles in a sexy way. She leaves without saying goodbye to anyone and then I get a text on the dot as my shift ends saying “looking sexy” but I don’t reply because of what she did the other day and she didn’t even say sorry for it.

So the next day passes by I don’t get nothing . The next day at work she comes near closing time. But she comes with some people and her ex which is now her Boyfriend again is their. She passes right by me and doesn’t say hi. Now after a bit we end up running into each other in a spot that her Boyfriend couldn’t see but I didn’t know at the time and as she walks towards me she says hi and I do the same she leans in for a kiss on the cheek but I don’t right away cause I wasn’t sure if her Boyfriend would see us. So as she leaned in she stayed their and kinda grabbed me and stopped me so I could give her a kiss so I did and after that we went are ways. Now we didn’t have any other contact through out the night but from what I could tell she peaked over my way a few times when she had the chance.

I won't lie I did get a bit attached. So help me out here what do you guys think of this What do you think might be on her head. And what should I do about it?

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And BTW from what I could tell she didn't have the biggest smile on her face that night she showed up with her BF. It seemed like it was whatever about it.

[Anonymous]

i have a boyfriend whos confused,but what I do is just be very true to myself..i love him very much but I do understand baggage..people has certain bands before and that sometimes it ended up in the middle of it...i am the most loyal,honest and loving girl he ever had he said..now he can be honest to me about his feelings..he said I know that it is not going to work with him ad her in fact she's married..so he said help me out and I do,i said to him I'm on ur back if you ever fall,i let him see her and told him to do it slow and slowly until you lost what it is that you're feeling towards her still.im just there,actually scared risking but I face my fears for my own love for him..so far so good..she started bitching again becuase now she's jealous of me becuase I told him if she wants to cheat with you she could but not give me up,if she wants me gone tell him to no,shes a good girl and she loves me..and that's what she said to her and now the whore is in trouble becuase she was cheating with her husband and her husband find out..after lastweek my boyfriend came home telling me the storyand I hugged him I said see?she is not honest to you she and to her husband,she is not going to be honest to you later...dont get fooled..i was crying when I say this because my heart is is aching but I do,im serious I wanted him to feel me for me..and he did..we are getting married and moving to other state...but the difference between my situation and yours is he is really willing to get over her love for her and move ahead with me and forget it...

[Anonymous]

To me it seems as though she is totally confused about what she wants at the moment, and is playing with your feelings.

You need to detach yourself from the situation because you are her 'in between', someone who comforts her when she is not feeling appreciated my her boyf. You feed her ego, and satisfy her in other ways, which she gets a hugh amount of pleasure out of, she is thrill seeking. She is getting what she wants out of the situation 'control'. If she knows that one minute she can turn on you and let you down and the next use her female charm to seduce you she will continue to do this, and it will turn in to a regular pattern solely because you are allowing it. You need to cut your losses, and keep well away from her, she is dangerous. Once she realises she is no longer in control she will try to use new tactics to manipulate you...don't let it happen, don't be a victim to her foul play.

Don't get to involved with what's happening between her and her boyf learn to ignore.

[Speediy]

I was thinking along the lines on what you mentioned in your first sentence but wasn't sure. I kinda went through something like this but I was in his shoes. Don't misunderstand what I wrote I caught feelings but to the very most minor point. She doesn't have me like that she's sold me out a couple of times and so have I. I don't stop doing things with my friends to be with her. She broke up with her Boyfriend for the first time and thought she could be without him and it ended up kicking her in the butt.

[Opinion Owner]

Let me try to explain the first sentence in a different way. She is not thinking straight at all, hence her actions and decisions. Whilst she is in this state of mind she is evidently messing with your mind, whether that is intentional/unintentional on her part I really do not know. You have mentioned that you have formed an attachment to her,she is probably well aware of this and by having this attachment your vulnerable to her actions and she seems to be doing a good job of it!!!

[Chipper]

Don't get confused. She's not worth it. She may be worth fooling around with again and again, but don't allow her to rent space in your head. She's using girl power. She's got a on and off again relationship with another whom she is emotionally chained to for now. If you like what she does for you when she's with you keep it real and let it flow. Detach yourself enough to make her notice that you are acting as 'into her' as before. Tell her you like her company. But you don't like being used and then seeing her run back to her boyfriend. Hint that you have another playmate.

Don't give her details...keep playmate -X secret. Then see if she ramps up her interest in you. The bottom line is her relationship with the other guy isn't going well, and she's using you as a rebound to make her feel good while she figures out what to do. Also, remember this for the rest of your life and tell your buddies...

Women usually make new relationships with guys while they are still in love with some other bozo. They don't know how t break if off and be alone. Sad but true. Most of them lie about their circumstances and they always want you think they are wanted by someone. Turn it back on her.

[Speediy]

Your right she ain't worth it. And yeah she is emotionally chained to him for now but its going bad so she could try the same thing again. I'll just keep it between me and her without tension if she flirts I flirt and so on showing intrest but I won't restrict myself from other women even in front of her giving them more attention and priority over her and see how she reacts. I'm pretty much over it I just wanted to have a concrete understanding of why it made the you turn out of nowhere. Anyone else

[Chipper]

When I was 13 and at summer camp a girl who had been flirting and sneaking off into the forest for walks and kissing held off from giving me an answer when I asked her to the dance. She made me wait for five days. Hours before the dance I decided to ask someone just as pretty who said yes right away. We had the best time. The other gal had no one to dance with.

[SetsunaYuy4]

Dude, my ex did the same thing to me. Today we talked and she told me she might go back to her ex. So I told her how I felt about it and I said if he's here to stay then good luck, I'll step aside but if he doesn't make you happy you know where to find me. Just don't expect me to put my life on hold for you. Then I said good-bye and hung up. Let her miss you. She doesn't know what she wants even if she chose the ex when she said she'll think about it when both you and the ex asked her. Especially if it's been a month since you last spoke to her. Don't get attached. Let her see that you can live without her. That's the key. If she sees this then there's a great chance she'll realize the mistake she's made especially if you were a great guy to her. However, don't have high hopes for success or you might end up getting hurt in the end.

[sumina7]

She want s to keep you as an in between comapnion for fall abck whenever she has any problems with her bf.

So, if you can enjoy her company whenever offered without getting attached, go for it.Her recent gestures were more because of guilt feeling. Just appear cool.