Why does my crush lay his head on my shoulder, but always facing away from me? What is he trying to say? What should I do when he does this?

[Anonymous]

I can't tell if he's being romantic, flirty or friendly. Our relationship is really weird right now. I just kind of rub his face and hair when he leans back on my shoulder. I don't know what else I can do because he's got his back to me and we're in the front seat of my car. He seems to like it. Is this a comfort thing? Once when we hugged he rubbed his cheek on mine but we've never kissed. Is he working up to that? He's really shy and insecure. He looks at me in a really adoring way but I need to know if he's just being sweet or wants to take the next step.

He's just cuddling and being friendly

He's testing me to see how far I want to go.

[sdmaverickg]

MAKE THE FIRST MOVE! As a guy I find it incredibly attractive when a girl initiates stuff. Next time he does that if you want to just go in and kiss him. If he doesn't kiss you back then you have your answer to whether or not he likes you. Also, don't trip post kiss if he didn't reciprocate, he's an idiot if he doesn't, but just keep things as they were and play it off. Otherwise, just keep on kissing!

[Asker]

So he's not going to freak out if I kiss him? I guess him facing away confuses me, because if he wanted to kiss, he would face me to make it easier, right? He seems kind of disappointed when he leaves the car, like he was waiting for something that didn't happen. Or I'm imagining it all. Ugh! This makes me feel so awkward! All he has to do is say the word and I would make him ruined for all other women forever! I doubt he's going to say ravage me, so I'll just have to do it myself. Then he just acts like nothing happened and flirts like usual, stares, smiles, touches me, until we're back in my car being awkward again! I hate this cycle. What is he afraid of? I've told him I love him and we stare into each other's eyes every day, sooo?

[sdmaverickg]

If you are at that level then the tension is extreme. You need to just make a move. He obviously isn't able to do it so it's your job to just do it. Kiss him next time you see him. Then ask him how he felt about it.

[Asker]

The tension is insane! He will sit by me and run his index finger up my arm and drive me wild! Or we sit all pressed together during class. Every day, first thing, he comes to where I am and we don't even greet each other, we just have a long stare, like we're drinking each other in! It's crazy, but I feel like I've already slept with him our chemistry is so intense. I guess he's just paralyzed cause I'm so awesome, lol. Why do the girls have to do it all?

[sdmaverickg]

Because girls are stronger haha... Just make the move, he's obviously asking for it. Or tell him to quit being a little bitch and kiss you. In a loving way of course. =)

[Asker]

Stop reading my mind, lol! I truly was going to say stop being a bitch and kiss me. I bust his balls constantly, mostly to diffuse the sexual tension. I think he gets nervous around me because he always forgets where his next class is (same every day!) and stuff, so ask him if he's capable of running his own life and call him "special", lol. Why do you say he is obviously asking for it? I feel clueless about what he's thinking! What makes it so obvious to you?

[sdmaverickg]

The guy gets flustered when he sees you, he forgets what he needs to do because his focus is on you. The guy obviously likes you, maybe more. If a girl can make a man forget his daily routine and will do stuff with you just to be with you, then that's something right there..

[sportyspice]

next time he put his head near you, kiss his head or cheek and see his reaction (if you're comfortable doing that though!)

[Asker]

Yeah, I was contemplating a little ear nibbling. Usually I just start petting him but I need to kiss him! I had my lips on his head but chickened out, so it was even weirder because I was just resting my lips on the top of his hair! Lol

[sportyspice]

haha just do it. it will get better. more confidence into the relationship. he's just don't know what to do to kiss you i guess so you need to take the first step. imagine doing it during a date.. so say goodbye that way there's no awkwardness. if that helps. or say kiss me

[Asker]

Yeah, we're really awkward about this. Lots of fumbling and weird touching. I touch his face like I'm reading it with my fingers. It's pretty hot, for me anyway. Lol! He's gotten that three times and comes back for more, so he must like it too!

[sportyspice]

awe so cute! he definitely does :D