When will women admit that looks are the only thing that matter?

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Like they try and play it off. Im not saying looks matter, im saying they are the ONLY thing that matters, everything else is just nonsense. Women say that personality matters, but only if your good looking first. Looks come first, everything else comes second. Looks are the only thing that matter in life. Not personality. Who cares if your financially unstable or a unambitious douche, if you look good, their able to work with you. Looks are the only thing in life. Who cares about god or Jesus, looks are the only thing that matter, everything else is just nonsense filled excuses.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What's it they say? Brainy is the new sexy? Beauty's in the eye of the beholder? Looks can be decieving?
Think about what's attractive: it varies from person to person. Perhaps in your experience the only thing that makes someone seem attractive is their appearance, but there's more to it than that for many. beside the physical there's also the emotional, mental and spiritual. Each can be rich or poor. Personally if it was a choice between having high eq, iq, good personality, etc or having someone who fitted my ideal of physical perfection I think I'd go for the former. If they're physically attractive as well all the better, but I'd rather like whats on the inside than whats on the outside: what if they look good but are otherwise horrible? Would it really be worth suffering? Perhaps some would, but I don't think I would.
Certainly there are ideals, often based on cultural expectations and norms.
You could look at this from an evolutionary point of view. To put it bluntly you want to know your genes are being passed on along with other genes you approve of. But its still more than just looks. Looks can only take you so far in life, and ideals representotherfactors). Look at Maslows hierarchy of needs: posessing resources to survive and security are far more basic than aesthetics. Resources and security can be achieced a few ways: in some cases physically, in others intellectually, and when it comes to choosing a partner (essentially the biological purose of attraction) emotional safety and the ability to share feelings etc are all imortant (love and belonging follow safety needs and is also important in raising children).
I would however like to oint out definitions of whats attractive can change: when you like someone you might actually start looking for other things about them you like, or redefine your expectations based on experience rather that the stories people tell themselves about

BuchitaBuchys · Accepted Answer

*DISCLAIMER*
*this only applies to me or like minded individuals, I DO NOT SPEAK FOR THE FEMALE GENDER

Well, you have to be attracted to the person, but NO. I disagree, looks are NOT the only thing that matters!

If you are good looking, yea, it helps. But you seriously cannot expect to develop a deep relationship with someone who has no substance. Male or female. You're not just gonna stare at your date, no matter how hot they are. You will want someone who's still interesting, has a good personality, sense of humor, at least some intelligence, ambition and goals in life. Why the fuck would anyone just want a partner to just look at? Male or female, we want someone who we can connect to also, and I don't mean sex by "connect".
Now, if all YOU do in YOUR relationships is stare or just have sex, that may be different. But I have never been in a relationship like that, so I cannot give any insight to what that'd be like. This is the only relationship dynamic where I can imagine that looks would be the only thing that matters. Thankfully, I have not experienced this nor do I plan to.

Yes, physical attraction is important, not just to women by the way, men care about looks too. I don't know why only women get shit for wanting to be with a person they are attracted to, emotionally and physically. But physical attractions IS NOT the only thing that's important. Not to me at least.
Heaven forbid that the hot chick you desperately are attracted to, want to be with someone she's also attracted to, even if that isn't you! -_-

If you're still gonna troll and claim that only your opinion is valid, fine. Don't agree. But just cuz looks are the only thing that matters to you, doesn't mean it applies to everyone.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, looks play a part in everything from relationships, work, and success in general. Looks are a very important variable, but over time it's personality and character that starts to mean more. I understand your plight though and do feel like I have to look good so my husband will give me attention, and I have to look good everyday at work so I get that raise or promotion. I get way more when I look good than when I don't, and it is often insulting. One way to help the problem is to STOP teaching girls at an early age that looks come 1st. Also, if parents treated boys and girls the same; as in, everyone looks presentable, works, cleans, responsible, and accountable then it would lessen that gap. Unfortunately, there are many egotistical males and religions that tell people; women need men because we are weak and need guidance. I'm religious but don't agree with that shit. Furthermore, if we call out woman who use their looks to get through life it might start a movement to create more independent women. As women, we also can't put up with our guys acting like pigs and treat women like meat. If we want to change something, let's look at our behavior and what we are putting up with.

Musicgeek21 · Accepted Answer

Good Lord. This is an absolute mess. The comments are a war zone and this question is so accusatory and clearly narrow minded. Each and every person is different so not ALL women can or have a need to admit to this. It is a stereotype created from the hypersaturation of this lustful culture and media. Looks fade with time and age so they CANNOT be a deciding factor. Anyone who thinks this is young, dumb or caught in the lies of the media. Another thing, love isn't controlled, its not specific. Its irregular and so peculiar its an enigma. You fall in love if certain conditions are met at the best of times or it happens if no conditions are met and at the worst of times. The women who you are targeting this statement at are part of the shallow demographic and its much smaller than you think. There are so many people out there. Stop generalizing and open your eyes. Its the same thing with the political bullshit. Not all Muslims are terrorists, not all black people like fried chicken, not all white people like organic produce. Each and every single person is a unique individual with a personality that manifests itself based on their development. If even one thing were changed, they would be completely different. Love and lust are two very different things. You choose to love somebody. If you choose based on looks, its called lust and thats a manifestation of our sexual desires hardwired into us so that we reproduce. Just open your eyes up a bit... I'm sorry if you were hurt. I've been hurt too, many times, but I choose to move forward. What choice will you make?

Electric_Dreams · Accepted Answer

Come the flip off it with the sweeping generalisation dude! I have a friend who has a talent for making herself look great, and when we go out she gets all these good looking guys.. thinking they're flirting with her when really they're just creeping on her and they're pathetic, anyway she won't give them anything because they're fooking idiots. She gives them what they've earnt - rejection. I get a kick out of it though because her guy friends that she hangs out with, me and the others, well we're generally if the more.. nerdy or.. something like that, appearance. And these guys look jealous and confused. They're so feeble minded that they can't comprehend why a hot girl would be hanging out with guys like us. Good fun.

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

well attraction does matter but it isn't everything. an average guy can get a chance if he has other good qualities you like.. but if a guy isn't cute and you don't have a connection with him then yeah nothiings gonna happen. maybe stop chasing pretty girls and go after fellow uglies

garykingg · Answer

Girls won't admit this, but girls pick guys based on looks. I mean, they should. It's simple to understand why they prefer guys with good genes, so they have better offspring—girls rate guys based on what guys can't easily change. E. g., height and face structure. (Good height and a good looking face means good genes) This is important to a woman; hence, looks matter far more to a woman than men.

So most guys who don't meet these high standards of women should go their own way. I'm a guy with an average face, 5'10ft, and an athletic physique. I don't get girls. A guy with a dad bod with a good-looking face gets girls more than me. This is simple biology. I also should make it very clear that I don't blame women for this. It's just their nature. I have accepted it and moved on.

In the modern age, women can earn their own living and take care of themselves. They no longer need a guy to take care of them. Therefore women don't care if a guy is successful or not.

You can be a successful guy and still not get any girls because your face is below average and your height. Average or below-average-looking guys, we need to understand this and go our own way.

I, for one, don't have the time to be saddened by this reality, and I'm just going to focus on myself and my success in life. I thought that getting a good physique and becoming a better man would increase my chances (I was naive, I know), but now that I realize this, I advise men like me to go their own path.

Women have countless good-looking men for them to date, and us going our own way wouldn't concern them. They can have fun and raise families with good-looking dumb guys out there.

I'm just going to be successful in life; I would also be well off than most cause I won't be taking care of a wife or supporting a family. I would then donate most of my wealth to charities and people in need, making me feel good about myself and fill the void.

"There's only so much fortune a man really needs and the rest is for showing off"

If you go on your own path and become successful in life, you could attract gold diggers. Still, personally, for me, I don't like cheap women, so I would rather die alone than do that, but again it's your choice.

Ugly, below average, or average looking men should go their own path, chase success, change the world for the better, and leave behind a legacy when they leave this earth.

Peace.

Nicgafpb · Answer

I'm an ugly dick. But I'm confident and I can hold my chest high when I walk and talk. Looks only matter if you're trying to find a girl in a bar or something like that. I met a girl while rock climbing and since we both shared a love of the outdoors we dated for quite a while. Stop looking in places where looks are all that matter. Start living your life. Get yourself where you want to be and then look to your left and right and see who else is where you are as well. That's where looks don't matter.

LaGronio · Answer

Well, he's got us ladies. He found out our secret; I mean, we might as well admit it now, rather than truly care about people's personalities and other unimportant stuff. I mean, who cares if your a colossal jerk as long as you have abs?

(Blatant sarcasm)

MaskedSanity · Answer

You need to work on your satire skills. I'd say 4/10.

Tunakid · Answer

So I met a girl online and she knew what I looked like and all but she didn't like me right away, she actually started liking me 3 months of us just texting and skyping with barely any pics. So she liked my personality way more than my looks and she also liked my personality initially than looks. Looks were actually 2nd in this case. Explain?

RandomR · Answer

There has to be some type of physical attraction before there can be a "mental attraction" we don't need a huge physical attraction to date someone. Even if you don't find them attractive right away you will develop a physical attraction if they meet your "standards" so no looks aren't everything and once you get over your insecurities you will see that. And guys are the same way don't try to say it's all females. Everyone is the same.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

You have to be good looking, but girls don't care about looks on the same level as men do.

Kshppatel · Answer

I am fat short and ugly so what you are saying makes a lot of sense. In the back of my mind I know that looks aren't everything to girls but it just so happens I am below the line in physical attractiveness which contributes to my low self confidence and self esteem.

Anonymous · Answer

Physical attraction is not the only thing that matters for either gender. I will say that looks matter more to women, than it does to men for initial attraction. Beyond that initial attraction it is actually easier for a man to impress a woman, than it is for a woman to impress a man.

Latinodude · Answer

I asked something similar to what you asked before you asked it but I disagree that most women ONLY care for looks. Most want other things too. Nearly all males and females care about looks to a certain extent, most women care about personality AS WELL though. Looks will be a factor nearly all the time though cause like I said nearly all people care about looks to a certain extent.

witchprincess · Answer

Not true. I mean yeah, obviously looks matter a good bit. When I first see a guy, I'm not looking at his personality. Physical attraction comes first, but I wouldn't date a hot guy with a shitty personality just because he was hot.

Anonymous · Answer

Looks don't matter when you are rich as fuck. Looks matter when you are well off, looks matter when you are poor... If you don't look good an you are poor, you have to rethink things. Sorry. Even Jesus was a handsome man.

oldfashioned · Answer

What? Hey hey.. It's not that way round.
I allow you to say "large portion" of people take looks into their 1st consideration. But not ALL.
There are still people who place and rank personality in the 1st place.

Anonymous · Answer

Never. Their desire to be stubbornly politically correct (even if it means lying) prevents them to. If a guy is fugly to women they won't care if he has a great personality. That's why LOOKS MATTER more than personality because without LOOKS a guy still won't get a woman even if he's the embodiment of a guy with a great personality.

RationalMale · Answer

Because, looks are not the only thing that matters. As I'm saying this as a guy who's been told he should be in playgirl, on my best days.

Game--charisma, being seductive, personalty--really does matter to women.

Anonymous · Answer

looks matter alright.. at first. but eventually, they start piling other things and soon, your pretty face will be the ugliest thing to them.
Money beats looks any time of the day. example, flava flav.

AnayaWilliams · Answer

I think looks are a bonus but then again that's just me. I like a guy with a nice personality, and a nice smile, and is homorous and can make me laugh

Fleur-Rose · Answer

Lol no but if your not great looking and have its not fair mindset that won't get you anywhere thats for sure

Anonymous · Answer

not going to admit something i dont believe to be true just to validate your bitterness.

Anonymous · Answer

If it were the truth, I would. I really have no reason to lie on a completely anonymous platform, to people I don't even know. It isn't, though, no matter how much you want it to be.

Theguyoverthere · Answer

Tell that to any guy who is convinced that girls chase guys with money.

Anonymous · Answer

We won't "admit it" because it's not true of all of us all the time. I am sure some women feel that way, but I sure don't. Stop being so butthurt. And stop calling us all liars.

Cutiecakes9 · Answer

I go by what comes from the heart. If a guy happens to have both traits it's a bonus.!

StickStickity13 · Answer

I know this is not true but looks are still important

Anonymous · Answer

Looks aren't the only thing that matter just people with good looks show more confidence and that's what people like.

Anonymous · Answer

If looks only mattered the divorce rates would be at 99%. Immature question by the way.

Anonymous · Answer

height matters to them more than looks you can be broke ugly and 6'5 you will get heaps of chicks

McTown_Gj · Answer

When women admit that looks is the only thing that matters is the day hell freezes over.

Arab_Cutie1033 · Answer

Looks fade with age

Stormchaser48 · Answer

BULLSHIT!!!

Anonymous · Answer

stop being bitter

When will women admit that looks are the only thing that matter?

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