Girls, Why she flirts with me one day and completly ignores me the next one?

[Anonymous]

I liked this girl for quite a long time and she knows. Some days she is the sweetest girl in the world, ask me to come around to go for a walk, party, studing or waching a movie, draws hearts in my arm, and notebook, and compliments me all the time, gives me flirty kicks under the table, etc this happens more when we are only the two of us alone. Then the next day she ignores my texts, dosnt say hello or goodbay when she saws me on the street or university, and i feel like i´m a nuisance to her. Then a few days after the same thing happens again she starts to being really frendly and flirty again... sometimes the cicles are longer or shorter but it feels like a loop. I asked her out long time ago when we meet and she rejected me, she has an abusive realtionship with her ex, he leaves her and they start dating again, every few months. I really like her, but i dont understand her behavior.

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Yesterday she was talking to me all the day, telling me i have a sexy hair : / , and all the kinds of sweet things. Answering right aways when i texted her, even clingy " ;3 let me know when you're back" , At night i said "Can i come over to see you tomorrow?" "I´m busy" "And the rest of the week?" "I´m busy too" " : ( Something happend?" "No" "Good night. I really care about you tell me if something is wrong, i´m worried". Today she donesn´t answer my texts at all and i know she´s connected.

[Areiajade]

She's dealing with how she feels about you and probably has some anxiety trying to figure out how you feel about her. I've honestly been doing the same with a guy friend of mine, I'm trying to tone it down. Sometimes we feel like guys don't want us to pay too much attention so we back off for a while to give you a chance to pursue us. I know I ignore him when I've convinced myself he isn't interested but once I've had time to calm down things go back to normal. I would just talk to her and tell you like her and you want to spend more time together.

[Asker]

I really do. But when i try to bring my feelings out, she reacts in a bad way... , yesterday she was the sweetest thing in the world, but when i tried to spend more time with her, she reacted back "can i go to your house to see you?" "i have plans" "And the rest of the week?" "i´m busy all the week". The weird thing is that she said the same the last weekend and then spent all the weekend talking to me in Skype... And now she almost dosn´t answers my texts, the only thing that she said to me "i´m busy" 3h after i asked desisted talking to her.

[Areiajade]

Hmm, yeah, that is kind of strange behavior. I guess my advice would be to take a step back and give her some space. If she doesn't start paying more attention to you then I would back off and try to move on. If she does come around, play hard to get for a while until you're both more comfortable. I don't mean ignore her or anything like that, just don't be so eager to be around her all the time. There's a slight chance she's a little put off by how much time you spend together.

[Genie23]

Ugh... Hot and cold behavaiour. I think you should forget about her cause she's just playing with your feelings.

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[hlab3]

Playing hard to get. She wants to see if you'll chase her, and if you really like her enough to chase her. Like sweeping-her-off-her-feet, and profess-your-love sort of thing. Doesn't want to come on too strong, but keeps you on your toes and interested in her.

[Asker]

But why when i try to make a step she distances herself... for how long i have to run for her? I feel like our relationship is way better month by month but it takes a lot.

[HB1010]

I just posted a question like this one😂
My guess is that she likes you but is scared about her ex finding out since he's abusive and probably wouldn't like the fact of her being interested in another guy. That or maybe she just wants to be bestfriends..

[Asker]

Her ex knows me. I think you're right maybe the flirting is a missunderstanding by me, but it´s so weird... 2 days ago was sending me love letters and cute love comics that she found in the internet, sending me wink smiles all the day. And today she don´t even answers my messages. And i´m afraid to ask her why she does this... i don't want her to get mad at me.

[HB1010]

I would ask her about it if I was you. Tell her that you're so happy to be such great friends with her but that you're also confused because you're getting mixed signals. Most girls will talk about problems if you ask about them in a nice, sincere way. But don't sound too needy/desperate for her to reply. If she doesn't reply to your answer (if it's over text) -do not- text her again about it. Give it time

[Anonymous]

I think she may be trying to get her ex Jealous, there is always the possibility that she may like you, but I think she may just see you as her best friend, or something to that extent. She may not intentionally be flirting?

[Asker]

As far as i know, she thinks that her ex doesn´t loves her anymore but i suspect that she still loves him. And i think she knows she´s flirting is too obious (or maybe i´m stupid).

[mikimouse]

Girls like this are not worth your time. she's just playing with you and if you get too emotionally involved it will burn you

[Erlinna]

I get what you mean, maybe she's playing with your feelings.

[landii]

I think she's bored that's why she do that one time only.

[Asker]

Somtimes i think that i´m only her last option. But then she´s starts to being really flirty and friendly with me again.