She flirts with me but then ignores me?

[Anonymous]

I need a woman's opinion on this.

This is the scoop.

I've been into this woman for a year, and I finally after going through a bunch of life circumstances got it together and talked to her. Before I talked to her, We always exchanged glances, and she'd give me all sorts of inviting body language such as smiles, winks and eye brow flashes.

So I went up to her after months of this and started my first REAL conversation with her. We started talking about basic things like hows your week, where did you go to school, what did you do. I wanted to truly get to know her. I somehow playfully joked around with her about flirting with some other dude and she laughed at me and told me it was nothing. During this entire time she was giving me CRAZY body language that she was attracted. She was playing with her hair like mad, staring at me in a dreamy type trance, Her pupils were dilated huge but there was plenty of lighting around us, she gave me certain physical gestures like her head over a raised shoulder. She even leaned up against me tightly when someone tried to squeeze by us (for an extended amount of time, it was pretty obvious it was something else).

I somehow gained this reputation as a "bad boy/asshole" based on the way I dress and my general appearance. (Not to be egoistic by any means) but I'm told that I'm attractive a lot, and I'm extremely built.

Many people where I go mistake me as a "player" because of the charm I possess and my ability to go up to women being cool calm and collective. (This is important to my next point)

During our conversation, after I teased her about other guy she mentioned to me that she usually falls for the wrong type of guys, she said she usually fell for "Bad boys". I definitely know that she was referring to me, along with all of the physical signs there was no mistaking it.

All of her friends don't like me at all, I know that for sure. There pretty rude to me and completely ignored things like my invites to Facebook. The whole reason our conversation ended was because one of her friends basically "rescued" her, coming up to her in the middle of our conversation saying she "needed help" with something.

When I approach any other women at the social gatherings I see her texting her friend, the two of them will text each other instead of talk to each other standing meters away, and they both look at me (I'm very perceptive). Her friend even asked me at one point about my martial status... (which was switched to single months ago).

I'm quiet the opposite of a player, I'm seeking a good person for something that could end up real.

I messaged her recently online after everything and she's ignoring me... I have this hunch her friends are trying to bash me for my stereotypical appearance. I'm not exactly sure what to do here because I really want to get to know her but not sure how if she's going to ignore my advances. What would you women suggest?..

[learningthegame16]

It does sound like her friends have been filling her head with nonsense, but to be fair, they think they're looking out for her.

With that in mind, I'd suggest approaching her in person and just being your friendly self. You should say something along the lines of this during the conversation:

"Listen, I want to get to know you better. You seem like a lovely person and someone who is intelligent and can think for yourself. I get that your friends don't like me. That's fair enough, to each their own, but I would hate to think you would form your own opinion on me without taking the time to give me a change or get tingto know me. I'm a nice guy and if you listen to everything your friends say without thinking for yourself, you will miss out."

Of course, you should paraphrase but something said along those lines should do the trick. Good luck :)

[Anonymous]

If she's saying she goes for the bad boy types it should be a red-flag for you. She is either pursuing relationships she know will fail, or wants somebody to change or "save". Either way, if you are looking for something real, she's probably the wrong place to look.

Also, despite the "never judge a book by it's cover" expression that is so popular, appearance does matter and you will be judged on it. If you are truly not the bad boy type then stop presenting yourself as one. This should help you attract the kind of girl you're looking for.

[Roarke]

the friend intervened to resucue her from sccumbing herself to you sexually. she is essentially and quite willingly lining herself up to become one of your presumed sexual 'prizes'. i would suggest you not put yourself under any more pressure about the image you give off to the outside world. you are honest and sincere so let them think as they may.

[maw1777]

I'm late but this was number 3 on Google search.

Sounds like you have anxiety and creep girls out. You probably aren't that attractive. My advice is stop staring at women and taking a f***ing year to talk to them. You been seeing this girl a year and haven't spoken? Jssus you creep me out just reading this.