My boyfriend of two years won't let me see him naked?

[Anonymous]

I've tried everything.. Complimented tried taking his clothes off.. I don't know what else to try. Every time I ask him to show me or to shower together he'll tell me not to start. Recently it's been kinda making me upset because he says he wants to purpose to me but I've never even seen him naked? I feel like I'm missing out. He's not even fat but he thinks he is. I don't mean to be so pushy on him but it's been 2 years and I love everything about him. I just want him to trust and be comfortable with me

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we've had sex

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This hurts me a lot. I can't even bring it up without him completely ignoring me when I try to talk about this subject. Like I know it's nothing personal but it hurts me a lot. And we have sex with his shirt Nd boxers on and he sleeps in his clothes

[xHoneyxBeex]

If this is something that he's insecure about then you can't make him show you. Stop pushing him, that's only going to make him even more reluctant to let you see his body. If this is a major insecurity of his then you'll just have to wait until HE is ready and comfortable enough. I know you mean well and your intentions are good but trying to force someone to do something they aren't comfortable with is not good. If you care about him then let him show you when he's ready.

[MadameJulietta]

Oh, the moment after lovemaking is one of the more magical moments available to us as human beings. Don’t deprive yourself of it.

It’s important that he realises you are pining for a deeper intimacy, so the next time you find him reaching for his robe in the dark, comfort him with something much more powerful the truth about the depth of your feelings for him.

Good luck.

[Asker]

He doesn't even take his clothes off

[Anonymous]

There are some possibilities why he won't let you see him naked:
He's cheating and using that as an excuse not to do anything sexual
Possible traumatic experience, it does not have to be sexual
He was born a woman and he has female genatalia
Self harm scars

[justbanANNAz]

i think u should just leave him alone... like y r u forcing him? he will be comfortable with u in time dont u worry, but for now u might have to give him some time.
u dont have to see him naked so that he can prove he trusts u and is comfortable with you.

[sawno]

This would have been my initial reaction to, but after 2 years? I think its save to say you should trust each other by then otherwise it will start me doubting.

[Likes2drive]

There must be some underlying reason, must be something he doesn't want you to see on him, I guess you have sex with the lights off every time , does he sleep in his clothes? You must sleep next to him by now, you see him while sleeping. I only heard of this with some women but even after that long they are over it. how about going to the beach?

[danielthelamb]

Try and take his clothes off while you are naked yourself. It's more effective.

Ask him why he doesn't want to show you and then tell him that it doesn't bother you.

[Asker]

He's uncomfortable in his skin.. And it does bother me that he won't show me

[sawno]

Thats really weird, why are you so ashamed to show your own girlfriend your body?
I'd be happy to share it with her from the moment we got official.

I can imagine him not being comfortable if he doesn't like his own skin, probably affraid you will leave him at the sight. But after 2 years its really odd he still feels that way even after all the encouragement.

I don't really have advice for you on this, its as if he's not ready to be with you on that intimate level.

[Intraluminal]

Have you really had sex? It sounds like a Jerry Springer show where a lesbian always kept her clothes on and used a dildo to convince the girl. She came on the show to do the reveal and propose.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

Haha I forgot about this episode until your comment. xD

[Intraluminal]

@Cookies_AndMilk
So? Do you think I guessed right?

[Cookies_AndMilk]

I mean hey, it's certainly a possibility. I was going to say he's insecure but after two years of a relationship? I don't know. I'm thinking you might be right lol.

[Intraluminal]

@Cookies_AndMilk
Remember the little smirk she had on the show to show how she'd fooled the girl? Let us know if you get the smirk.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

Oh my goodness I can't deal. xD I think that made me mad when I watched it lol.

[Intraluminal]

@Cookies_AndMilk
I didn't mean to make you feel bad. It was just a little quick smile, and I think she really did care about the girl underneath it all.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

Oh no I'm okay lol. I was mad at the girl, even if she did care I don't think it's right for gay people to trick straight people into being romantically involved with them. That's just wrong.

[Intraluminal]

@Cookies_AndMilk
Yeah, lyings never good in a real relationship. Anyway, good luck with your boyfriend.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

Aw thank you so much! :D

[Asker]

I've had sex with him... He's definitely got a penis. He just keeps his clothes on like tshirts + boxers

[Intraluminal]

Thanks so much for the update. You give advice, and then you're always curious how it turned out. I hope, now that you have seen the mystery organ, the rest will follow. Good luck. I hope everything goes well for you.

[Intraluminal]

Sorry. One last question - you made sure it's a permanent fixture?

[Asker]

I've seen his dick, not his body

[Asker]

And it's 100 dick balls and all

[Intraluminal]

LOL. TMI

[nakedalligator]

Seems very strange and difficult if he won't even talk about it. You could make an ultimatum about it, at least to talk about it. Has he seen you naked? Sounds like some insecurity issues.

[Asker]

He's seen me naked. And when I talk to him about it he usually says don't start. And one time he did tell me he was uncomfortable with his body but if it's been this long when exactly will he be comfortable right

[nakedalligator]

Yeah, well you could tell him it's important to you, that he can trust you but if if he can't trust you after so long... personally I wouldn't be able to stay with someone like that, it doesn't sound like it's getting any better.

[Asker]

Finally he opened up a little. He said he isn't even comfortable being naked by himself he says he hates being naked. But I still feel like he's hiding it from me I mean he still locks the door when he showers

[genericname85]

is he like the type of guy that wants to wait till marriage with any sexual action?

tell him it´s important to you to know that and that he has to tell you if he trusts you, which you expect from a person whos going to propose.

[mutedaisy]

Maybe he was actually a she at one point or was supper over weight and is embarrassed about his body?

[soccerchick4eva]

maybe there's something about his body that he doesn't feel confident in to show... i dunno tho, very weird 0_0

[MusicMayhem]

He should get therapy, I've heard of people having this problem

[Anonymous]

He must be insecure about something or he has some morals placed high.

[Asker]

We've had sex

[blessed_curse]

He's probably insecure. Don't force him it'll gradually be alright

[JokerAsksForHelp]

Are you guys still together

[sjoes006]

He's a never-nude?

[sjoes006]

If he can't trust you to see him naked you guys have no business getting married.

[Anonymous]

Hitler had the same problem