Is his sarcasm flirting?

Question

Basically, I've had 4 "dates" with this kid who each time, comes off very sarcastic. At first, I found him hilarious. But now, after the fourth date.. and him still not showing too much of a real serious side, I'm not sure if he's being flirty or just a jerk. He will rub my back, or grab my hand after we High-5 (so I get the feeling he likes me).. but then say things like "you're so weird" or say "don't touch me". Sometimes I think he's flirting, and other times I wonder if he see's me as more than a friend. At the end of each date, he walks me to my car and his attitude will drastically change. He will be sweet and put his arms around me and his hand on my face when he kisses me. Is he just unaware of how to act around a girl? Or what? Another thing to add, is he doesn't like texting and I work two jobs so calling him is almost impossible. So we almost virtually don't talk outside face to face encounters. I usually end up texting him anyways to see how he is. And he will reply, sometimes a bit later. We bowl on the same league on Wednesdays so he knows we will see each other one way or another. I just don't get his mixed signals. Okay I'm done =)

TServo · Accepted Answer

Most guys are usually so nervous, that they'll keep things simple. For this guy, his sarcasm is what got ur positive attention in the first place, right? So in his mind, he's just going with what "works." He doesn't percieve what he's saying as bad, because, according to him, at one point you expressed fondness for his funny condesending tone. He's just nervously stuck, and is unsure what other forms of communication also grab ur attention. You do get what I'm saying, right?

So, essentially, yes, he's flirting. In the best way he knows how with you, so far. Just talk to him. Tell him you want to take him more seriously, but his manner is kinda over done. Try telling him this without making him feel like he's "nothing but annoying" to you. Let him know that you want to see another side of him, if he can.

stercor · Accepted Answer

Decide whether the sarcasm is tolerable for you. It seems that it is not.

Talk with him about your concerns and mixed signals that you get from him. This way you can find whether he has a deep side.

After that discussion the solution should be clear.

Ted

timelytomb · Answer

sound like he is still nervous around you like he is still not sure how to act  and he might think that texting will take the place of face to face conversations.